Ok y'all:
Would you date/marry someone of another race? Why or why not? What have your experiences been? And if someone says, "I'll only date (from a certain race)," do you believe that automatically makes them racist? Is it ok to be a Christian and say, "I'll only date from such and such race." Why or why not?
Some observations and experiences from my own life:
1. I live in an area with a lot of white/black tension and it's always my white friends who have children with someone black who are called racists by the blacks (go figure, because I sure can't.)
2. I've had four "official" relationships in my life: the first was white, the guy I married was white/Filipino, (I waited about a year after the divorce was official to start dating), then dated someone black, and then the last boyfriend I had was white.
Seeing as my entire family (except one brother, more in a minute) was a different race at the start, I am very open to the subject of meeting someone from a different background.
My brothers (I don't have any sisters) have gone through absolute hell in this department.
3. My Korean brother (adopted like me, but we're not blood related) married a girl who is Chinese/Vietnamese and her traditionally-based mother told him, "He has no roots, and is not a real human being. He will never be able to love you or take care of you because he has no true emotions." (Traditional Asian culture holds that someone with no bloodlines or blood-tied and proven family history is not a real person.)
I know we are not supposed to wish for revenge, but let's just say my brother won out in the end. He and my sister-in-law have been very happily married for over 12 years, have two beautiful children, and he works at Microsoft headquarters--he's one of the developers for the XBox (sorry guys, I can't get you a discount or pass on any complaints--even I don't get a discount.) And he never even finished his college degree! He's just that talented with computer systems (so very unlike me!)
4. Brother number two (whom my Korean brother and I affectionately call "the white boy"), ironically, married a native South Korean girl and her father told her (when she first mentioned that they were dating) to break up with him immediately. But then he met my brother and had a change of heart, even though they don't speak the same language. He later told her that he could just tell from something in my brother's eyes that he was a good person and would take care of her.
He and my sister-in-law are extremely happy, have been married over three years, and just had their first baby. He is currently manager over half a Best Buy store and is on track to managing the entire store in a few years. (My brothers have done so well, sometimes I feel like the black sheep of the family.)
They eventually want to go back to Korea (he knows enough of the language to hold a conversation--they keep telling me to go with them or at least visit but I told my brother, "If I'm over there with you, the first thing you're going to have to teach me to say in Korean is, "Please talk to the white boy. I have NO CLUE as to what you're saying.")
I tell everyone that my family is half-Asian... and the Asians are taking over. I used to joke with my parents that I would have to marry a white guy someday in order to restore the racial balance.
But I'm open-minded to anyone God may have for me.
How about you?
Would you date/marry someone of another race? Why or why not? What have your experiences been? And if someone says, "I'll only date (from a certain race)," do you believe that automatically makes them racist? Is it ok to be a Christian and say, "I'll only date from such and such race." Why or why not?
Some observations and experiences from my own life:
1. I live in an area with a lot of white/black tension and it's always my white friends who have children with someone black who are called racists by the blacks (go figure, because I sure can't.)
2. I've had four "official" relationships in my life: the first was white, the guy I married was white/Filipino, (I waited about a year after the divorce was official to start dating), then dated someone black, and then the last boyfriend I had was white.
Seeing as my entire family (except one brother, more in a minute) was a different race at the start, I am very open to the subject of meeting someone from a different background.
My brothers (I don't have any sisters) have gone through absolute hell in this department.
3. My Korean brother (adopted like me, but we're not blood related) married a girl who is Chinese/Vietnamese and her traditionally-based mother told him, "He has no roots, and is not a real human being. He will never be able to love you or take care of you because he has no true emotions." (Traditional Asian culture holds that someone with no bloodlines or blood-tied and proven family history is not a real person.)
I know we are not supposed to wish for revenge, but let's just say my brother won out in the end. He and my sister-in-law have been very happily married for over 12 years, have two beautiful children, and he works at Microsoft headquarters--he's one of the developers for the XBox (sorry guys, I can't get you a discount or pass on any complaints--even I don't get a discount.) And he never even finished his college degree! He's just that talented with computer systems (so very unlike me!)
4. Brother number two (whom my Korean brother and I affectionately call "the white boy"), ironically, married a native South Korean girl and her father told her (when she first mentioned that they were dating) to break up with him immediately. But then he met my brother and had a change of heart, even though they don't speak the same language. He later told her that he could just tell from something in my brother's eyes that he was a good person and would take care of her.
He and my sister-in-law are extremely happy, have been married over three years, and just had their first baby. He is currently manager over half a Best Buy store and is on track to managing the entire store in a few years. (My brothers have done so well, sometimes I feel like the black sheep of the family.)
They eventually want to go back to Korea (he knows enough of the language to hold a conversation--they keep telling me to go with them or at least visit but I told my brother, "If I'm over there with you, the first thing you're going to have to teach me to say in Korean is, "Please talk to the white boy. I have NO CLUE as to what you're saying.")
I tell everyone that my family is half-Asian... and the Asians are taking over. I used to joke with my parents that I would have to marry a white guy someday in order to restore the racial balance.
But I'm open-minded to anyone God may have for me.
How about you?
