Is it okay for men to cry?

[psychomom]

i sat next to my dad at my uncle's funeral, and it was all he could do to keep from sobbing.
we held hands and he held it together to comfort me. ♥

my husband has wept twice...when his parents died.
but he got a little teary when our horrible children were born.

these are pretty tough guys, and i respect them for being able to show they're human.

Lynx...i was going to invite you for dinner, but i don't think you'd like being around me. (sob!)
i do tend to tear up at little stuff now that i'm elderly.
ps--you're totally invited over.

 

[Nautilus]

I guess your right? I guess you cry a lot? Does it make you a more gentle and kind person? A better Christian? maybe that's what I am missing...if I cried more I would have a better heart like you?

I don't think anyone ever said everyone here were crybabies like you seem intent on portraying. But I cried when family members or friends passed away. I've gotten teary at a sad movie or book. I know I'll cry if another Bush ever gets elected(stay away Jeb). If those are the 'wrong' or 'unmanly' times to cry, well at least I'm not like you.

 

[Sirk]

Crying is a natural expression of the human experience. It takes a strong man to cry. I like to think that tears have a cleansing effect on the soul.

 

[ChandlerFan]

I never knew this verse existed, and it's hilarious lol.

"Let a man meet a she-bear robbed of her cubs rather than a fool in his folly." - Proverbs 17:12

Then there are these that are also pertinent:
"The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice." - Proverbs 12:15
"A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion." - Proverbs 18:2
"A fool's lips walk into a fight, and his mouth invites a beating." - Proverbs 18:6 (I like that one too haha)
"Answer not a fool according to his folly, lest you be like him yourself." - Proverbs 26:4
"A stone is heavy, and sand is weighty, but a fool's provocation is heavier than both. - Proverbs 27:3


Just for fun, men in the Bible who wept according to Scripture:
Esau (Genesis 27:38)
Jacob (Genesis 29:11; 37:35)
Joseph (Genesis 42:24; 43:30; 45:2; 45:14-15; 46:29; 50:1; 50:17)
David (1 Samuel 20:41; 30:4; 2 Samuel 3:32; 12:22; 13:36; 18:33; Psalm 6:6; 39:12; 69:10)
Saul (1 Samuel 24:16)
Elisha (2 Kings 8:11)
Joash (2 Kings 13:14)
Hezekiah (2 Kings 20:3; Isaiah 38:3)
Nehemiah (Nehemiah 1:4)
Job (Job 16:20)
Jeremiah (Jeremiah 9:1; 13:17)
Peter (Matthew 26:75)
Jesus (Luke 19:41; John 11:35; Hebrews 5:7)
Paul (Acts 20:19; 20:31; 2 Corinthians 2:4; Philippians 3:18)

Bunch of unmanly dudes there I guess.

Word studies are fun!

 

[secularhermit]

Look im not saying there is no place fro a man to cry some tears ..but this idea that men should cry all the time is just not making any sense to me? And the men I know would think something odd about a fellow like this...like maybe he had some sugar in his tank...if you know what I mean?

Where did you read ANY said "men should (or women) should cry all the time?"

It has no sense, even for animals.

 

[secularhermit]

No one said they should cry all the time. If someone does that then there is a problem. Fhere is a neurological disorder that will cause some to go into frequent outbursts of laughter or crying. When I worked in nursing homes, I'd see this with one of the residents now and then.

Wow!

At reading this, I was reminded several men I saw dying... They asked for forgiveness, they hugged -full of tears- those who approached the moment I saw them in their sickness, confessing their transgressions and saying "sorry" those they (any time) loved during they life and separated for any "problem" they had.

I remembered how my dad cried in front of his sister... I had forgotten that!

Thanks for mentioning "dead beds".

 

[Kaycie]

A caring heart cries. I always thought that if a man didn't cry he has no heart, or is so closed off that he's not able to be vulnerable, and therefore unable to love or be loved. If a guy cries I know that's because his feelings for me are real.

Jesus cried, and He's the most manly-man I know.

 

[secularhermit]

A caring heart cries. I always thought that if a man didn't cry he has no heart, or is so closed off that he's not able to be vulnerable, and therefore unable to love or be loved. If a guy cries I know that's because his feelings for me are real.

Jesus cried, and He's the most manly-man I know.

I have seen, here, several times the word "vulnerable" and I´m sure, showing your core affections is not a vulnerability, but an expression of the person we are. If it weren´t so, I just guess, many dads (and moms) were not insisting on telling their kids: "Men don´t cry"... Just to "protect" them from expressing their emotions, even real fears.

 

[Roh_Chris]

I have seen, here, several times the word "vulnerable" and I´m sure, showing your core affections is not a vulnerability, but an expression of the person we are. If it weren´t so, I just guess, many dads (and moms) were not insisting on telling their kids: "Men don´t cry"... Just to "protect" them from expressing their emotions, even real fears.

I agree with you. It's just sad to see that boys are told that they need to pipe down their emotions and not display it because it makes them vulnerable.

I read through all the threads and I don't think there was any post which suggested men can cry like little girls. So I wonder what's the hullabaloo about men crying once in a while.

 

[secularhermit]

I agree with you. It's just sad to see that boys are told that they need to pipe down their emotions and not display it because it makes them vulnerable.

I read through all the threads and I don't think there was any post which suggested men can cry like little girls. So I wonder what's the hullabaloo about men crying once in a while.

When I was younger, easy manipulated by people´s sayings, I deprived myself from telling those I should have told my real emotions because I believed it was so: "men don´t show their "weaknesses".

Few years back, when I thought God wasn´t listening to my prayers I addressed it to those who passed away, those I never express my complete gratitude, while they were living... God showed me, again, I was wrong and socially ill-biased.

No man should be like Mary Magdalene, but I have seen the beauty of life in somebody´s else eyes.

 

[secularhermit]

We all have different coping mechanisms and rationale. To anyone that asserts that crying implies a lack of masculinity, I would like to know how you reason that and how you define masculinity.

Just look at this

[video=youtube;4Y-sZFEzsFI]https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=4Y-sZFEzsFI[/video]

 

[JonahLynx]

Just look at this

Wasn't this an SNL skit?

 

[secularhermit]

Wasn't this an SNL skit?

I´m not sure if it was from Saturday Night Live

 

[wisebeardman]

Better be careful, you'll grow up to be like wi... er, like a certain other old, cranky, crabby person here.
"

Yeah im old.... well close enough, cranky and crabby. big woop wanna fight bout it?

:v

 

[Lynx]

Who said anything about you?

And I'm not a fighter, I'm a musician. Can't risk damage to any of my fingers y'know.

 

[zeroturbulence]

When Men Cry
by z.t.

its ok for men to cry
no one needs to ask us why
all it takes is something sad
something wrong or something bad
if you knew what men went through
you'd be crying with them too​

 

[Lynx]

Once Jesus was walking down the road and he saw a lame man crying. He asked the man, "Why are you crying?" The lame man said, "I can't walk. If I could walk I could provide for my family like a man." So Jesus healed the man, and they went down the road rejoicing.

Then Jesus passed a blind man who was crying. Jesus asked the man, "Why are you crying?" The blind man said, "I can't see a thing. I wish I could see the beautiful sunrise people are always talking about." So Jesus healed the man and they went down the road rejoicing.

Then Jesus passed a pastor who was crying. Jesus asked the man, "Why are you crying?" The pastor said, "Nobody will work. They come and hear my sermons, they tell me what a good job I did, but none of them will go out and work in the field." And Jesus sat down and cried with him.

 

[Mitspa]

I said it.



Well #1 I am not trying to make someone feel guilty about anything. I am just saying what I think and believe. For me I see no logic in crying. As for death I have seen others pass, and I will see more people pass as I continue on though life till one day I to will pass. As for getting injured. again crying about it would not of changed getting hit by a car or falling off a roof breaking bones and such. So again it would be illogical to sit and cry over it. I just learn from what went wrong and move on.

You can hate me, think i am an evil monster, or whatever. I am just saying what I think.

Yes your now allowed to have an opinion ...unless it agrees with the modern bleeding heart nonsense.

 

[Mitspa]

Do not even evil men give good gifts to their children? So how then is a loving father an excuse to be a jerk?


I was in the military for a very interesting 6 years. At no point was anyone ever shamed for crying. There is a brotherhood that exists in places, where men are at their finest, and in these places real men show you their true colors. That bond is forged through going through the hardest and toughest things imaginable designed to break people. It is not the people that do not cry, that are stronger, it is the people who can suck it up and move forward.

There is a proper emotional response to pain, grief, loss and suffering. To feel is to be whole, to be human to be alive.


Numbness is not strength. Playing at the role of smug jerk looks good in movies, but the real truth is, the guy who you want to have your back when it matters most is the guy who is plugged in. Having seen it first hand, its the people who pretend at strength are the people who freeze up and lose it at the worst possible moments.


If you want to know how to be alone for the rest of your life, never let anyone see who you are and what matters most to you.

Apart from your personal insults and advice which is not welcome or ask for...the fact is that men don't follow men who appear weak and for sure not a man who has a tendency to cry when things don't go his way. I also am a vet decorated for my service in the first gulf war...Men follow men who act like men.

 

[blue_ladybug]

Apart from your personal insults and advice which is not welcome or ask for...the fact is that men don't follow men who appear weak and for sure not a man who has a tendency to cry when things don't go his way. I also am a vet decorated for my service in the first gulf war...Men follow men who act like men.

1.) You're still missing the point of this thread's OP question. It's not a matter of whether men should cry like babies or girls (which personally is an insult). It's a matter of is it okay for them to cry EVER.

2.) Men are NOT to follow other men. They are to follow JESUS, who, by the way, DID cry..on more than one occasion..Jesus was human, he displayed human emotions, including crying..