Is it wrong to elope?

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kymberli1988

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I've always said that I was going to elope to save money as a joke, but the more I joked about it the more I seriously considered it, when the time comes of course. I may or may not, I don't know. I've had friends tell me that it's not biblical to elope. I don't remember ever reading that, I may have and missed it, or it's just not there. I was just wandering if was in the Bible and if it's really wrong or is it just a personal opinion that some have?
 
rachelsedge

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It doesn't really specifically prohibit it in the Bible, not that I'm aware of. However, the point of a marriage ceremony, in the case of Christians, is to have witnesses, people that you know, present as the man and woman make that commitment to each other. With eloping, you're running off to marry in secret and I'm not sure that's a very wise way to commit to each other.

kymberli1988, what would your reasons be for eloping?
 
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kymberli1988

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It just started out as a joke, because I've been in weddings where it was nothing but stress. People canceled at the last minute, or this and that went wrong, and people were at each other's throats. I just don't want that. Plus my parents wouldn't be there. Like I said, it's just something something that I was thinking about, it doesn't mean that I would do it. I just wanted to know people's thoughts on it. I was also thinking of just having a private ceremony. I honestly don't know why I even brought this up, I'm not even close to getting married. LOL
 
JesusChica1991

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No it's not wrong. My parents eloped and I'm going to elope and I know plenty of other people who have eloped. You will be okay :)
 
JesusChica1991

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With eloping, you do have witnesses. It's usually the judge and a few of your friends. But yeah, there's absolutely nothing wrong with it.
 
jeremy1981

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Yeah, nothing against eloping myself, or in the scriptures. All personal choice. However, I know it does have to be inside...In the UK anyway.
 
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Jullianna

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I don't think there's anything wrong with it. Personally, I would love nothing better than to get married on the beach at night....just me, my man and the preacher.
 
shae0104

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nope nada cheaper and less stressful
 
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Ugly

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kymberli1988 said:
It just started out as a joke, because I've been in weddings where it was nothing but stress. People canceled at the last minute, or this and that went wrong, and people were at each other's throats. I just don't want that. Plus my parents wouldn't be there. Like I said, it's just something something that I was thinking about, it doesn't mean that I would do it. I just wanted to know people's thoughts on it. I was also thinking of just having a private ceremony. I honestly don't know why I even brought this up, I'm not even close to getting married. LOL
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Well, the wedding is only what you make of it. So many people (ok, women) want these big, fancy elaborate weddings with tons of people and all this craziness. It seems their more interested in the wedding than the marriage. But you don't have to make it that crazy and complicated.
You can always have a backyard wedding, if you have room, or rent a small hall or church. Just invite a minimum of people and keep everything simple. You don't need a 10 foot cake, a 20 foot veil, a 30 piece live band, 40 of your relatives and 50 of your friends to have a wedding. Just have Hooters cater it, have your closest friends and family and keep it informal. Bam. (ok, maybe not Hooters, but i couldn't resist saying it, haha)
 
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arwen83

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I would like a wedding in a church- doesn't have to be big. It won't be actually; I have a small family: one aunt, one uncle, 3 cousins and then my parents, brothers and my niece. I would like it to be traditional, cus that's how I roll :p
 
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arwen83 said:
I would like a wedding in a church- doesn't have to be big. It won't be actually; I have a small family: one aunt, one uncle, 3 cousins and then my parents, brothers and my niece. I would like it to be traditional, cus that's how I roll :p
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I wasn't aware that 14 year old boys dream about their wedding much...

I dunno, I think I'd prefer to elope. I don't really like ceremony and dislike pomp!
 
rachelsedge

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I guess my definition of "elope" is different. I see nothing wrong with small weddings. It's the secrecy behind an elopement that throws me off.
 
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Donkeyfish07

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I think that's mainly a matter of opinion
 
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arwen83

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LightningClap0002 said:
I wasn't aware that 14 year old boys dream about their wedding much...

I dunno, I think I'd prefer to elope. I don't really like ceremony and dislike pomp!
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I'm gonna agree with Donkey here and say, I think that's mainly a matter of opinion :p
 
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The wedding is just the ceromony, the marriage is between husband wife and God, that's all that. Matters, the couple and a preacher are just fine
 
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kymberli1988

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I understand that.
 
AAAPlus

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There is definitely a difference between eloping and having a small, non-elaborate wedding. I think Kymberli is describing the latter. Eloping has the connotation that you're getting married on a whim, or in secret, and shows a lack of responsibility. Eloping seems like it's for people who's family or friends don't approve of the marriage, in which case you probably shouldn't even be getting married; if everyone around you thinks it's a problem, you would be a fool to ignore them. It also seems like it's for impatient people who just can't wait to get married. Getting married doesn't mean casting off your friends and family who have been there for you through everything; isn't it worth a little stress to share that special day with all of them who helped you get there?

That being said, I do like Julianna's suggestion of just the man, woman, and preacher on the beach. I think that can be done as long as you're transparent about it. Let everyone know well in advance that you're getting married, but that there will be no "wedding". Letting them know that it will just be the three of you will at least give them the a heads up so they don't think it's some kind of shotgun marriage. Done correctly, I don't think there is anything wrong with it. Done incorrectly and you'll needlessly damage a lot of relationships.
 
shae0104

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i agree however once my mom and i tried to do a backyard wedding and well 90 people just on my side lol one of my aunts has 8 kids and i love them dearly. hahah
Ugly said:
Well, the wedding is only what you make of it. So many people (ok, women) want these big, fancy elaborate weddings with tons of people and all this craziness. It seems their more interested in the wedding than the marriage. But you don't have to make it that crazy and complicated.
You can always have a backyard wedding, if you have room, or rent a small hall or church. Just invite a minimum of people and keep everything simple. You don't need a 10 foot cake, a 20 foot veil, a 30 piece live band, 40 of your relatives and 50 of your friends to have a wedding. Just have Hooters cater it, have your closest friends and family and keep it informal. Bam. (ok, maybe not Hooters, but i couldn't resist saying it, haha)
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Epicnerdheroix

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The most beautiful wedding I ever saw in the movies was the one in 1995's Braveheart: Just Wallace, Murron, and the Scottish priest. It was so short, sweet, and simple and the lack of big crowds and a big grand ceremony didn't make it any less lovely or moving.
 
shae0104

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awww i remember it was epic no pun intended
Epicnerdheroix said:
The most beautiful wedding I ever saw in the movies was the one in 1995's Braveheart: Just Wallace, Murron, and the Scottish priest. It was so short, sweet, and simple and the lack of big crowds and a big grand ceremony didn't make it any less lovely or moving.
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