Is job more imporant than a future spouse?

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Silverwings

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It sounds like your life is full and well rounded, why change? If there was a man involved that would make a difference , but since there is not, why sweat the small stuff? Enjoy what you are doing, until you have a valid reason to change. Many would enjoy your lifestyle, so you certainly should.
 

Lynx

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Silverwings speaks wisdom. That's pretty much how I live my life. It's going pretty well right now and I don't even have a woman in my life right now... no need to change things until I have a reason to. :)
 
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A job is definitely more important, unless your spouse is rich... then, no. :cool:
 
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InHisHands

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In one season work may be the priority, in another it may be family that is the main focus. Now with adult children, I have a full time job and two part time ones. My heart in each season is to please my audience of ONE by living and loving well where I am.
 

garet82

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Well iam almost similar with you. I work at school from 7 am to 3 pm on monday to friday. Then at 4 pm to 7 pm i am in my English club monday to thrusday. Saturday still at school from 7am to 12 pm and continuing with church sermon n preparation for teaching in my sunday school class. Sunday ill be busy in sunday school at my church n meeting for some activities like easter, ret ret, sunday school training n other programs at church n sometime after that i go to wed invitations or parties of my friends or collagues.
But the different is every where i go, i build relationship with my social n rest of my time i have is for my family. In evening i join dinner with my family and talks n we also do night pray together. I still hv my morning bible reading daily which i do regularly everymorning for more than 10 years.
Even im so busy but family still important for me.
Yes teaching is calling, i do that since 2003 but relationship between GOD, family n social must be balance.
You need sometimes for your family, friends and yourself too coz they need you too :)
GOD bless amen
 
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Ugly

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I work a lot! I teach at three different schools, day and evening, sometimes weekends, too. And marking, preparing and organizing in between everything. I host Airbnb guests, too. The world can come to me, because when should I have time to travel?

I don't do it to get rich, and I even think teaching is a calling. I love thinking that I serve the Lord when doing the things I love.

But I know I can't work like this when or if I ever get married. But has work become too important? Is that turning the future spouse away? For who wants a wife that is never at home? I think I wouldn't mind reducing my hours for a future spouse, but still... It would be a bit difficult to let go.

My question is to you: How much of your career are you willing to let go of to build a family or relationship? Should you already let go of some of that pride and careermindedness when still single?
Since marriage isn't a requirement or even a promise, and you enjoy what you're doing, why change it?
One of the reasons i think God typically chooses not to instruct us on our future is we are too short sighted. If God were to say 'Toi, one day i'm going to give you a husband', well, if you're like most Christians, you'd change your entire life waiting for that moment. That moment may not come for 10-15 years, meanwhile you're neglecting your present while waiting for your future. That is not what God intends. Do what God has you doing Now. If/when things change then deal with the present when it comes and trust that God has it under control and listen for His guidance for that time and place. Don't waste your present life trying to prepare for a future (any future) that God may not even have for you. That's humanity trying to be in control, not trusting God is in control.