It Matters Whom You Marry (a helpful article)

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AAAPlus

AAAPlus

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Just thought I'd share this article that someone posted on facebook. It's geared toward women, but men can find some self-improvement from it.

It Matters Whom You Marry � THE CHRISTIAN PUNDIT

The main point is summed up by this excerpt:

Singleness can be great. Marriage to the wrong person is a nightmare.
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I also like how it talks about a guy providing; how a husband should be willing to world "at McDonalds, dig ditches, or clean up roadkill" if that was the only way for him to provide for his family.
 
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There are some good points in the piece, but I don't care for anything that shows a huge gender bias on either side.

My wife and I have some huge differences in principles. And I'm sure our marriage didn't follow the most typical path of courtship, love and marriage. Every church I've attended, people try to tell me how my wife should behave, as per her role in our marriage. Yet, in spite of the difficulties we face because of our differences, we seem to fair just as well, if not better than most of the church going couples I've met.

It's okay to take marriage advice from others, even those who haven't had a successful marriage. But people should take all advice, especially marriage advice, with a grain of salt. Everybody has their own opinion about what works and what doesn't. Some people will pick a piece of scripture and build a philosophy then swear it's the gospel.
 
AAAPlus

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dashadow said:
There are some good points in the piece, but I don't care for anything that shows a huge gender bias on either side.

My wife and I have some huge differences in principles. And I'm sure our marriage didn't follow the most typical path of courtship, love and marriage. Every church I've attended, people try to tell me how my wife should behave, as per her role in our marriage. Yet, in spite of the difficulties we face because of our differences, we seem to fair just as well, if not better than most of the church going couples I've met.

It's okay to take marriage advice from others, even those who haven't had a successful marriage. But people should take all advice, especially marriage advice, with a grain of salt. Everybody has their own opinion about what works and what doesn't. Some people will pick a piece of scripture and build a philosophy then swear it's the gospel.
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I see your point. Of course this article is one person's experience and everything in it might not be applicable. The in-laws one comes to mind. Yes, it's good for a husband to get along with his in-laws, but sometimes they are just terrible people. That has nothing to do with the husband's character; it's normal to dislike terrible people. The way he handles them, however, could reflect on him. How he treats people he doesn't like (but is forced to be around) could be an indicator to how he will treat his wife when they inevitably have disagreements or tense periods.
 
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The reverse is true as well.

What if the wife is Physically abusive, Emotionally Abusive, Crazy, too rough, etc.

The glove fits on the other hand too.
 
lil_christian

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Liamson said:
The reverse is true as well.

What if the wife is Physically abusive, Emotionally Abusive, Crazy, too rough, etc.

The glove fits on the other hand too.
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agreed, Liamson. But when I read it, I think that article was made by a woman.
 
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Good article. I agree with the points mentioned ; a husband/wife should want to get involved in all areas of their loved one's life and even improve those areas if possible. This goes for husband and wife. I hate it when I see women expecting to receive everything from their husbands while they don't move a finger for them, and viceversa.
 
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SparkleEyes

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It has already been said in this thread, but I think it bears repeating. These points apply to both the man and the woman. Yes, I get that the man is the head and ultimate authority, but I would hope a man would want a woman who wants to and is capable of providing those same qualities in return.
 
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