just really want a wife, but hardly any Godly women out there

[Tonydisciple]

im 21, been saved for 1 year now, and am keen on marriage. i work full time and have a car. i am responsible and have my head screwed on right, everything seems appropriate and responsible for me to persue the next step in life. ever since becoming a christian, ive been on fire for God, always studying the bible, much time in prayer, sharing the gospel with others when i can. but my problem is there just in not a great deal of Godly girls around. Honestly australia dwindles for producing christians, we are a secular nation - plain and simple. yes there may be some godly people out there but they are so hard to find. and if there are professing christian girls in this country they tend to be so wordly and not christian at all.
i am so ready to be married, and really would love the company of a wife.
i honestly just want to focus on God, but its so hard when i also have to combat sexual temptations. i feel that because i am not married, yet trying to keep pure in God's eyes that i am trying to restrain a huge part of what being a 21 yo male is. and it is so hard and distracts me and disencourages me.

please pray that God sends me a Godly wife and soon. im in a great struggle battling thoughts and temptations and feel without intimate companionship. and its not only sex why i want a wife, as i said, its the companionship and intimate love that comes with it.
now i know im gonna get alot of people saying im too young or havent been a christian long enough etc.. but i just need some prayer and some advice would be good for those who are in a similar situation or been through this. thankyou very much for reading. God Bless.

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

If you are in the real world like you are in here, i can see why you think there are no godly girls in the whole country of australia.


Your 21, you may want a wife, but do you know how to be a husband?? Do you know what it takes to keep a marriage together?

Marriage isn't for the faint of heart. It's not just something you do because you wanna have sex. Your young and hormonal. I say wait

 

[Stuey]

Are you involved in a church anywhere? I have no trouble finding Godly girls out there, I could name 30 off the top of my head if you wanted.... Where are you living?

 

[Tonydisciple]

i live in adelaide brother

 

[hellopeople]

1 Corinthians 7:9 came to mind.

1 Corinthians 7:1-16

Guidance in Marriage

1Now concerning the things of which you wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.

2Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

3Let the husband render unto the wife her due: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.

4The wife has not power over her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband has not power over his own body, but the wife.

5Deprive not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your lack of self-control.

6But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.

7For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man has his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.

8I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.

9But if they cannot have self-control, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

10And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:

11But if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

12But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother has a wife that believes not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.

13And the woman who has a husband that believes not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.

14For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.

15But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God has called us to peace.

16For how do you know, O wife, whether you shall save your husband? or how do you know, O man, whether you shall save your wife?

I will pray for you Tony, that you may meet such a girl, keep going and stay strong brother.

 

[frankleespeaking]

im 21, been saved for 1 year now, and am keen on marriage. i work full time and have a car. i am responsible and have my head screwed on right, everything seems appropriate and responsible for me to persue the next step in life. ever since becoming a christian, ive been on fire for God, always studying the bible, much time in prayer, sharing the gospel with others when i can. but my problem is there just in not a great deal of Godly girls around. Honestly australia dwindles for producing christians, we are a secular nation - plain and simple. yes there may be some godly people out there but they are so hard to find. and if there are professing christian girls in this country they tend to be so wordly and not christian at all.
i am so ready to be married, and really would love the company of a wife.
i honestly just want to focus on God, but its so hard when i also have to combat sexual temptations. i feel that because i am not married, yet trying to keep pure in God's eyes that i am trying to restrain a huge part of what being a 21 yo male is. and it is so hard and distracts me and disencourages me.

please pray that God sends me a Godly wife and soon. im in a great struggle battling thoughts and temptations and feel without intimate companionship. and its not only sex why i want a wife, as i said, its the companionship and intimate love that comes with it.
now i know im gonna get alot of people saying im too young or havent been a christian long enough etc.. but i just need some prayer and some advice would be good for those who are in a similar situation or been through this. thankyou very much for reading. God Bless.

I would say it could be your ready to take on the responsibility of a wife, but it could be God is not finished working on your future wife, getting her prepared for you. pray for your future wife, that she would let the Lord continue to bring her to the place where she needs to be. when its the girl God chooses its like effortless, and you just know that you know she is the right one.

I waited for some time, but when God brought my wife into my life, I knew right away I would spend my life with this woman. continue to prepare your life for a wife, work on getting a home, don't worry God has the most amazing Godly woman for you, when it happens you will forget all about these days of waiting

 

[rainacorn]

Based on your posts, so far, it's gonna be pretty hard if you think you're the only person who is really a Christian.

Don't ignore the advice here. You're not only young in years on this Earth, but you're also a brand new Christian.

You need to be ready to be a good husband and lead a Godly family...you need to really know what that means and allow God to make you that guy. Don't worry that the women aren't good enough for you (lol), worry that you're not good enough for a Christian marriage yet.

You'll get there, but trust in the Lord and work on His timeline, not your own.

 

[jonathanbchristian]

You are old enough to get married. Do not let anyone discourage you. A year is thousands of years to the Lord. You have been a Christian long enough. I will pray for you and God will send you a wife, so be prepared. I prophesy that you will have a wife within three years. Maybe soon or maybe in three years. Be prepared to meet her by faith, says the Lord.

 

[mystdancer50]

I would say simply...wait.

There are times of loneliness in all our lives as we wait on God and His plan for our lives to come to fruition. It is in those times of loneliness that you turn to God and let Him remove it. The issue is that most of us feel that finding a spouse will eliminate loneliness and complete us, but only God can do that. There are a great many that look at marriage as a means of fulfillment and so they expect a great deal more of their spouse than can ever be given by a flawed human being.

It is in the single time of life that we are free to seek God will all that we are, to put Him first and to create the place for Him to rule, even when we are married. God is to always be first. If we, in our single life, are so consumed with marriage and finding a spouse, what will consume us when we are marreid? In most cases, our lives then center around our spouse, and when they fail us, as humans do, we feel shattered and unsteady. However, when your life is centered and focused solely around Christ, and one day you marry and your marriage is centered around Christ, you will find that your life and your marriage can endure things and flourish in ways others do not.

Wait on God. Many are looking for Mr. Right and Mrs. Right and are frustrated with the results...or lack thereof. However, if you seek God, you will always, always find Him. He promises us this. Take this time to truly discover the amazing God that has saved you through His Son Jesus Christ and rejoice in being single. Let God prepare you to be a husband while He is preparing your spouse to be a wife. Trust me. It's going to be worth waiting for.

Shalom ve Ahava!

 

[ashlaa]

I see people making an idol of their future spouse and being completely consumed with getting married it literally just I dunno, irks me.

Why waste all my time daydreaming and setting my heart on tomorrow, when God’s desire for me is to simply be faithful and obedient to where He has me and what He’s calling me to today?

Yes, I want to get married someday; that would be beautiful and such a gift. But if God is more glorified in my singleness, then heck I’m all for it.

I don’t want to be distracted; I want to be devoted. I feel like sometimes we sing, “Bind my wandering heart to Thee” but when we wander, it’s like… well, I thought they were amazing but it turns out You are more so and now I realize it. Sorry. But to bind our hearts to His means it’s joined, fused, interlocked. One and the same, together. Think of what would happen if God’s desires to become one with ours. How often do our desires conflict with His? Isn’t this our struggle often times?

This is not a choice you make: “I’m going to be content in being single!” Yeah, you go ahead and try that and see how that works out. No, this only happens by God working in you. It’s when you surrender your heart to God and spend your time searching out His. It’s when He takes your heart and engages it, exchanges it with His heart.

And then you will be so full of joy and peace you won’t know what to do with yourself!! Instead of investing all your time thinking about one day loving one special person, think of all the people God already has placed around you that you can love and love the heck out of them. Let His love overflow out of you. Be filled up daily by simply fixing your eyes on Jesus and abiding in His love.

What about preparing for getting married? What about praying for my future spouse? What about… Stop. No matter how prepared you try to be, you always are going to need to depend on God in your relationships. It’s not going to be perfect. You should pray for them, but also trust God is taking care of them. He is able. And the best preparation happens by letting God do it. He knows how to ready a bride.

Everyone wants to hear about how God has someone special for them and to wait for that day and spend this time preparing for your future spouse. But I encourage you to pour out your whole life to Christ right now and just watch what He makes of it.

 

[keep_on_smiling]

I love Ashlaa's post. I agree 100%

I would just add that one of the greatest things to have within a marriage is patients. If you can't be patient before marriage and trust that the Lord has a great plan for you, then are you really ready for a marriage? ( This is just a general question. I'm not judging whether or not the op is ready or not)

One of the things the Lord has shown me is that often times we have to be content in where the Lord has us and what he has us doing before allowing us to enter into a relationship with someone or move onto the next season in our life.

Focus on God and not what you don't have at the moment. The Lord says He will give us everything we ask for, so why not just trust that?

Praying for you Keep seeking Him!

 

[kayem77]

I see people making an idol of their future spouse and being completely consumed with getting married it literally just I dunno, irks me.

Why waste all my time daydreaming and setting my heart on tomorrow, when God’s desire for me is to simply be faithful and obedient to where He has me and what He’s calling me to today?

Yes, I want to get married someday; that would be beautiful and such a gift. But if God is more glorified in my singleness, then heck I’m all for it.

I don’t want to be distracted; I want to be devoted. I feel like sometimes we sing, “Bind my wandering heart to Thee” but when we wander, it’s like… well, I thought they were amazing but it turns out You are more so and now I realize it. Sorry. But to bind our hearts to His means it’s joined, fused, interlocked. One and the same, together. Think of what would happen if God’s desires to become one with ours. How often do our desires conflict with His? Isn’t this our struggle often times?

This is not a choice you make: “I’m going to be content in being single!” Yeah, you go ahead and try that and see how that works out. No, this only happens by God working in you. It’s when you surrender your heart to God and spend your time searching out His. It’s when He takes your heart and engages it, exchanges it with His heart.

And then you will be so full of joy and peace you won’t know what to do with yourself!! Instead of investing all your time thinking about one day loving one special person, think of all the people God already has placed around you that you can love and love the heck out of them. Let His love overflow out of you. Be filled up daily by simply fixing your eyes on Jesus and abiding in His love.

What about preparing for getting married? What about praying for my future spouse? What about… Stop. No matter how prepared you try to be, you always are going to need to depend on God in your relationships. It’s not going to be perfect. You should pray for them, but also trust God is taking care of them. He is able. And the best preparation happens by letting God do it. He knows how to ready a bride.

Everyone wants to hear about how God has someone special for them and to wait for that day and spend this time preparing for your future spouse. But I encourage you to pour out your whole life to Christ right now and just watch what He makes of it.

Ashla has spoken! I agree with you

 

[Ugly]

You are old enough to get married. Do not let anyone discourage you. A year is thousands of years to the Lord. You have been a Christian long enough. I will pray for you and God will send you a wife, so be prepared. I prophesy that you will have a wife within three years. Maybe soon or maybe in three years. Be prepared to meet her by faith, says the Lord.

I just..... but..... you must be..... *sigh....

 

[Mikhal88]

To those who say they do not mind being single are you remaining celibate or are you saying you single but then will still go find another to satisfy your desires. Just making sure of this matter.

As to the question, i feel the same and i have been a Christian from birth and i kept away from society due to the immoral lifestyles people live by. I am 22 years old and still a virgin and wish to find my future wife to be also as i am, but it appears that hope is a lost cause today and i feel my fate is to be alone. I really don't want to be alone though, but so be it if it must be so.

 

[brokenheart69]

Really there are no christian women out there. I know for sure that there are plenty of christian women in Australia. Sorry that the plank in your eye is bloking your site and you can see clearly. If you see your self as a true christian than why is it that your see peoples sin/faults insted of focuing in showing LOVE like Jesus did. (the woman cought in the verry act of adultry comes to mind) the religious leaders wanted to kill her and Jesus showed compacion and love to her. Don't focus on whats wrong with other and focus on how to improve your self for the kingdome of GOD.
Being single isn't that bad if your focus on Jesus, and maybe your not really ready to be Mr. right and somethings need to be worked out in you first.
Or Frankleespeaking may be correct and your feauture wife is not ready for you. (Matthew 6:33) Sorry if i'm tuff in my reply.

 

[Ugly]

Why is it always the 18-26 year olds that complain the most about not being married. You'd think it would be the 30+, or 40+.. but not, its the kids barely out of school or still in college that act like all is lost and marriage is no hope.

 

[mystdancer50]

To those who say they do not mind being single are you remaining celibate or are you saying you single but then will still go find another to satisfy your desires. Just making sure of this matter.

As to the question, i feel the same and i have been a Christian from birth and i kept away from society due to the immoral lifestyles people live by. I am 22 years old and still a virgin and wish to find my future wife to be also as i am, but it appears that hope is a lost cause today and i feel my fate is to be alone. I really don't want to be alone though, but so be it if it must be so.

Celibate and single go hand-in-hand for me. Good question, as in this day and age it isn't always the case.

 

[mystdancer50]

Why is it always the 18-26 year olds that complain the most about not being married. You'd think it would be the 30+, or 40+.. but not, its the kids barely out of school or still in college that act like all is lost and marriage is no hope.

I know, right? But I daresay that a lot of things appear "end of the world" when you're that young, if I remember correctly.

 

[rainacorn]

Why is it always the 18-26 year olds that complain the most about not being married. You'd think it would be the 30+, or 40+.. but not, its the kids barely out of school or still in college that act like all is lost and marriage is no hope.

18-26 years cannot handle rejection and that's pretty much all dating is until you get married.

They can't handle it at work, either.

 

[Mikhal88]

Really there are no christian women out there. I know for sure that there are plenty of christian women in Australia. Sorry that the plank in your eye is bloking your site and you can see clearly. If you see your self as a true christian than why is it that your see peoples sin/faults insted of focuing in showing LOVE like Jesus did. (the woman cought in the verry act of adultry comes to mind) the religious leaders wanted to kill her and Jesus showed compacion and love to her. Don't focus on whats wrong with other and focus on how to improve your self for the kingdome of GOD.
Being single isn't that bad if your focus on Jesus, and maybe your not really ready to be Mr. right and somethings need to be worked out in you first.
Or Frankleespeaking may be correct and your feauture wife is not ready for you. (Matthew 6:33) Sorry if i'm tuff in my reply.

You are a typical example of many that twist the words of the Bible to satisfy your own lifestyle. So now you will justify your sin to be forgiven because Christ forgave this one women who committed a sin. It is the few scriptures that people deliberately choose to go by and neglect the rest, and these chosen scriptures can be easily misinterpreted. If you think if you commit adultery and know it is a sin and believe Christ will forgive you, then you are the fool. People who speak of such supposed evidence in the Bible to justify your sins are the people who spread The False Word of God and i say your punishment will be the greatest. When Christ first came He was here to deliver the message of the truth and at this time He would not strike the people down for that was the period of redemption and to accept the truth. Just as when the women poured the oil on Christ He rebuked His disciples when they complained about wasting the oil, for He was there for a short time and during His presence on Earth He is to deliver the truth.

You are particularly saying we must forget a persons past and look at their future, i will by no way marry a prostitute nor a whore for no child of God must make his flesh impure with such heinous people. To forgive someone and intending for the person to be your spouse is a complete different matter.

"Sorry that the plank in your eye is bloking your site and you can see clearly" --- Don't quote a text if you do not understand its true meaning as this text actually refers to yourself. I understand what you are trying to imply to everyone and this is either because you have done wrong and wish for the sin to be seen as acceptable or you encourage false teachings. Many of the youth are promiscuous in life and that is a sin and their sins will be accounted for. Just because you are young you will not get away from the judgement. If you have been one of these people, then accept it and repent of your ways and live a true life away from such ways. If a more devout Christian refuses to be with someone because of their history that is his/her choice and not yours and thus the one who has less sin has more authority on his/her choices. Yet anyone who is a hypocrite and teaches without being taught will be targeted specifically by Christ for personal redemption.

You say there are female Christians in Australia? I know of Australia and people there are none caring and have no pride in themselves and are promiscuous by nature. In every nation you will have a share of good and bad and of course there are some women there who are truly Godly but the number today is low. If you think women who sleep around and hold a Bible in their hand are Christians you are greatly mislead, such a person is a deceiver. A Christian is one who follows the teachings of Christ not just saying i accept Him as my saviour and then say goodbye to Him and then call for Him only when needed. He will turn Himself away from you when you call for Him on the final day.