Men are wonderful creatures, they are unique and needed in this world, their opinion and steadfastness is worthy. The right men out there do exist. I believe when the time actually comes for me to join with one of these men,
God is going to be at the center and straightening the path so that it's believable and my fears will be dispelled and it will simply be a miracle... that ONLY God can make happen.. Amen I love you God. 
Everything you said about men can also be applied to women. Heh.
I dated a woman with three kids. Granted their father was around, but he was a sorry excuse for a father. Really the biggest difficulty was him. He was an abuser, so he was controlling and selfish and as a result he would often have screaming matches at her if he found out i corrected the kids (notice this isn't punishment, just verbal correction). If it hadn't been for him it would've been a much easier time.
But really, a boyfriend/girlfriend shouldn't be in a parent role. I mean, if you aren't even a spouse, then how can you be a parent?
Are you sure you're not committing adultry? Even though the father doesn't treat the mother well, they're still married, yes?
Now are ALL kids bad. not really there is some good ones but they seem to be pretty rare these days.
We can all agree on that statement. Popular culture nowadays supports many nasty practices, from cheating on husbands and wives and calling abortion a 'choice'. Even family-friendly movies can impact children in negative ways.
and yes... the bottom of my list is the bottom of my list, even my friends are at the bottom of my list... I'm a terrible friend because I don't call, I don't write, I don't keep up with the drama... I DO pray, I AM available when needed, and I DO love my dear friends with agape love.... The few there are have been solid for a very long time. Fly by night and fair weather friends do not flock to me ..
A terrible friend is someone who would stab you in the back via verbal words, thoughts, and actions. Simply not calling or writing to someone does not/should not at all label you as a bad friend. You just don't have time for those persons at the current moment.
There is a time and place for everything, including talking to your friends.
What if...God put us last. Perish the thought!!
We should be grateful we're not cockroaches or pigs!
The only girlfriend I ever had said if we ever had kids (thankfully it didn't happen) I would have to treat that kid the same as her kids. Fair enough but that's a tricky situation to put me in. Anyway in the end she said I wouldn't be a good father anyway but later retracted it. I don't think I even go the right of a rebuttal.
With a face like that, you could be a con-artist!
That doesn't at all mean you'll be a bad father, who knows? Your strange looks can help you get food for the family!
Meh the putting boyfriends last I get, makes good sense to me. I would not personally date a single mother, but if I were forced at gun point to be a single mom's boyfriend or husband via that timeless ceremony of the shotgun wedding I'd at least have the understanding that the kids from her previous marriage come first and know that in a way I'm adopting/make myself responsible for them too but at same time a son don't serve two fathers so I can't expect that, that's just what's to be honorably expected is it not?
Really its just a messy affair to begin with, so when I say I wouldn't date a single mom, its not cause I hate single parents, lol its cause I simply am not gonna be able to handle any of the dramas or responsibilities myself (moreso a criticism of me than ye) like that unless forced to at gunpoint lol.
Just let yourself get shot. There's no point altering your beliefs when you're forced. If you truly think you're viewpoint is the right one, then be proud to die for it!
Boyfriends and husbands are two different roles in children's lives. Those children will always be there, the BOYFRIEND might not, so putting him second to your kids is how it should be, you don't want bitter children hating their mother years down the line about a man who left years ago. Have a friend who to this day is still bitter that her mum put her boyfriends first above her. If you can't accept that this is what a mother needs to do, then you shouldn't be dating woman with children, vice versa.
Husbands though are different, once the children have the left the home, it's just you and your husband and you are going to want him to put you first now that it's just you two but you always used to put your kids first, so this dynamic does not work. Parents disagreeing in front of children is also another mess that can allow children to set parents up against each other and cause trouble in the marriage. So husbands and wives need to be a united front when raising children and wives submit to their husbands- not their boyfriends, and not their children.
None of this is coming from personal experience but clinical cases. Granted, each situation is different though.
Yes. The marriage is the lifeblood of the family. If the marriage is bad, everything will be messed up.
lots of good points here, my take on it is that dating a women with children isn't a problem, because they are separate things. My intentions have always been honorable to the women I've dated, with kids or without. I never go into it with failure or an exit in my mind, to care for a woman is to care for her children as well, and bring something positive and worthwhile to the experience, otherwise there is no point in doing it all..all people are reactive to their own instincts and personal belief systems, children included..If you are fortunate enough to truly be an asset in a persons life, then you can just be and grow profoundly as a family, without erosion of what brings you together in the first place..it takes work yes, but it becomes a choice because you care, personally I'm always open to it, because you just never know how one person can totally transform life for the better just by being who they are..
God loves you!
*sigh* what a world
