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pshawitsashley

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Okay, so. Recently, I have become closer to the Lord, probably more than I've ever been in my life. Which is ironic, since I'm going through some rough stuff right now. Anywho. I'm finding myself struggling with being alone. I know I'm only 19, but it's hard right now to just be content with being "alone." I'm struggling with having only friendly feelings toward guys. It doesn't even matter whether I've known them for a long time or only a short while. Recently, I've been attracted to guys that actually know the Lord and has accepted Him as their savior. Which is a first for me. I really, really hate how I feel like I need to be needed. I know I don't. I know I don't need anyone but God, but it's hard to put those thoughts into action and just be on my own. And, what's worse is, once I notice that I'm attracted to these certain guys, I have a wonderful way of unintentionally screwing everything up. Either I'm come on too strong, look like an attention-seeking loser, or just seem totally needy and co-dependent and janky. I hate that about myself.

Any advice?
 
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Strong1

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One displays exactly what is within them, and if your coming of as "the needy cling-on girl, that not many guys find attractive" it's because that's exactly who you are right now. You say your feeling that you don't want to be alone. Right?
Many women go through this. Your 19, young, attractive and have a great deal to experience, that has nothing to do with guys. Experience the world..through the eyes of God. Travel, work, play, READ, Talk to many different people about many different things. Learn about you, and how you deal with life. Work on the things you love about you. Make it better. Work on the things you hate. Change your perspective if you can. Fall in love with Christ. He has a way of taking away lonely. By the time your done all of this, your older, a little more experienced, and look so much more attractive to those who will potentiay l be your Husband. :) Consider this.
 
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Tryndawin

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being single isn't really all that bad. Its nice not having to answer to anyone else in that capacity. Though at the same time I was once where you are now. And I didn't exactly make the best choices then. But the main thing is to find what makes you happy and throw your energy into that. Basically get a hobby. I found one, and have made some of the best friends of my life through it. And when you're surrounded by great friends you realize you don't need some of that other stuff. At least not to the degree you probably think you do right now.
 
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pshawitsashley

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Thank you guys so much, I really appreciate that. And for the comment about falling in love with Christ, I pray that it will happen. I know it will, I just have to put in the footwork.
 
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niceguyJ

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I think that longing you have is normal for most people. There is nothing better you can do than truly seek God with all you have. You'll find He's the only one that can truly satisfy you. You certainly don't need a man to complete you. When the time is right, the right man can be there for you in a God honoring relationship though.
In the meantime, just keep working on yourself, learning, growing, and becoming the woman God wants you to be. :)
 
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Timofree

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pshawitsashley said:
Thank you guys so much, I really appreciate that. And for the comment about falling in love with Christ, I pray that it will happen. I know it will, I just have to put in the footwork.
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He's already put in the footwork, 1 John 4:19 we love because He first loved us. And romans 5:5 says He's already poured out His love in our hearts by the Holy Spirit He's given us :) His word is true, so just believe, ask Him and receive :)
 
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