Love means never having to say your sorry

[Galatea]

...Under her name, it says that she's 28...

I am on my phone, and when I was writing the reply, I did not see the poster’s age. I assumed the poster’s age was listed as 28, hence the 89 reference- but I am tired of assuming things. I am almost always wrong when I make assumptions.

 

[Grock89]

I don’t know how old you are, but it is absurd to think you will never hurt the one you love. It is inevitable. Most of the time, it is not even intentional. Let us say your girlfriend or wife gets a new haircut. You don’t notice. Her feelings are hurt, you certainly did not mean to hurt her- but there it is. You then tell her that you are sorry and you love her and you did not mean to hurt her with your inattention. The only person who never hurts is God. If you will only love someone you won’t hurt or who won’t hurt you- you will never be in love. You have to be vulnerable enough to be willing to be hurt and know you will cause hurt.

Well your reading too deep..it doesn't mean u will never hurt the person it means u don't want to hurt the person hence never having to say sorry...that quote doesn't mean I will never say sorry.... n my age is clearly written under my name...that quote is like symbolic not quotes u take at face value..

 

[Grock89]

I am on my phone, and when I was writing the reply, I did not see the poster’s age. I assumed the poster’s age was listed as 28, hence the 89 reference- but I am tired of assuming things. I am almost always wrong when I make assumptions.

Assumptions r never good true true....yea it's understandable

 

[Galatea]

Well your reading too deep..it doesn't mean u will never hurt the person it means u don't want to hurt the person hence never having to say sorry...that quote doesn't mean I will never say sorry.... n my age is clearly written under my name...that quote is like symbolic not quotes u take at face value..

Even on its face symbolically, it sounds like a set up for heart break. If you start out a relationship by thinking “I love him or her so much, I’ll NEVER hurt him or her. I’ll NEVER do anything for which I will have to say “I’m sorry”, then that is starting out with unrealistic expectations. It is almost as silly as saying “We’ll never argue”.

If it is symbolic, then how am I reading too deeply and taking the quote at face value simultaneously?

I should think love presupposes you don’t want to hurt the other person.

 

[melita916]

I don’t know how many times I’ve apologized to my husband. I have hurt him unintentionally. He has hurt me unintentionally. We are both quick to apologize through the help of the Holy Spirit.

 

[Stranger36147]

Love means never having to say you're sorry........that you just farted. Now that's true love right there.

 

[zeroturbulence]

OK maybe I'm wrong but..... I think that in the movie, what it meant was.....

You (my love) never have to tell me that you're sorry because whatever happens, I already forgave you... (his wife was dying of cancer)

 

[melita916]

OK maybe I'm wrong but..... I think that in the movie, what it meant was.....

You (my love) never have to tell me that you're sorry because whatever happens, I already forgave you... (his wife was dying of cancer)

no!!!!

lol jk.

there have been times i apologized to my husband, and he says, "for what?" and i explain. he then said an apology wasn't necessary. perhaps not for him, but for me, i needed to apologize.

 

[notmyown]

spouses and significant others are not the only people we apologize to when we've wronged them...

... just making that point. it can be siblings, friends, or even (gasp!) one's children.

 

[christian74]

Hahahaha....

I think this thread took a couple of sudden unexpected turns by WineRose

The way I took it in, while I haven't watched the movie and not familiar with its plot but assume it's some kind of love story, is that when two are in love, there's no need to say sorry because the act that would normally prompt an apology was not intended/intentional. And not noticing the hair cut example, while I see your point, you are not in love with her if you don't notice your gf/wife's hair cut, period, thus, it's a deeper issue than having to say sorry for hurting other's feeling.

When two are in love... I mean in love where one gives everything and vice versa
When everything you do you say you think is for that person only
The other person would just know why there was this "hurtful" act or omission of it, which would hurt the person's feeling typically, but not to the person because he/she would just know it was not intended. And can actually smile about it, knowing it was a byproduct of him/her loving wholeheartedly.

 

[zeroturbulence]

Ok guys, I figured it out!

A kind gentleman on youtube explained why the character (Jenny) says it in the movie....

Oliver (Ryan O'Neal) gets upset when Jenny tries to persuade him to take advantage of an opportunity to mend his relationship with is father and he yells at her for it.... Jenny (who has terminal cancer) runs off heartbroken.... Oliver runs after her looking for her... When he finally finds her freezing on the front steps of their house... She had forgotten her house key... He is obviously very sorry for getting upset at her and she is still sobbing but waiting for him to say something.... Then he says, "Jenny.....I... I'm sorry." ....And Jenny looks at him and tells him assuredly... "Don't. Love means never having to say you're sorry."

So I was right... She was telling him that he never needs to tell her he's sorry... (because she loves and trusts him with all her heart)

Here is the clip... (spoiler alert!)

[video=youtube;P-4jKZ3X1zQ]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P-4jKZ3X1zQ[/video]

 

[laughingheart]

That's not love. It is pride.

 

[Lynx]

The way I took it in, while I haven't watched the movie and not familiar with its plot but assume it's some kind of love story, is that when two are in love, there's no need to say sorry because the act that would normally prompt an apology was not intended/intentional. And not noticing the hair cut example, while I see your point, you are not in love with her if you don't notice your gf/wife's hair cut, period, thus, it's a deeper issue than having to say sorry for hurting other's feeling.

A comic strip called Pickles would disagree...
https://www.cartoonistgroup.com/store/add.php?iid=39148

 

[maxwel]

Ok guys, I figured it out!

A kind gentleman on youtube explained why the character (Jenny) says it in the movie....

Oliver (Ryan O'Neal) gets upset when Jenny tries to persuade him to take advantage of an opportunity to mend his relationship with is father and he yells at her for it.... Jenny (who has terminal cancer) runs off heartbroken.... Oliver runs after her looking for her... When he finally finds her freezing on the front steps of their house... She had forgotten her house key... He is obviously very sorry for getting upset at her and she is still sobbing but waiting for him to say something.... Then he says, "Jenny.....I... I'm sorry." ....And Jenny looks at him and tells him assuredly... "Don't. Love means never having to say you're sorry."

So I was right... She was telling him that he never needs to tell her he's sorry... (because she loves and trusts him with all her heart)

Here is the clip... (spoiler alert!)

[video=youtube;P-4jKZ3X1zQ]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P-4jKZ3X1zQ[/video]

Love means...

never asking someone to watch a movie from 1970 with Ryan O'Neal.

 

[Stranger36147]

Love means...

never asking anyone to watch a movie from 1970 with Ryan O'Neal.

It seems Ryan O'Neal could be quite humorous, even unintentionally. Here's proof of that.


[video=youtube;ozQjMDZZIW0]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ozQjMDZZIW0[/video]

 

[hornetguy]

Ok guys, I figured it out!

A kind gentleman on youtube explained why the character (Jenny) says it in the movie....

Oliver (Ryan O'Neal) gets upset when Jenny tries to persuade him to take advantage of an opportunity to mend his relationship with is father and he yells at her for it.... Jenny (who has terminal cancer) runs off heartbroken.... Oliver runs after her looking for her... When he finally finds her freezing on the front steps of their house... She had forgotten her house key... He is obviously very sorry for getting upset at her and she is still sobbing but waiting for him to say something.... Then he says, "Jenny.....I... I'm sorry." ....And Jenny looks at him and tells him assuredly... "Don't. Love means never having to say you're sorry."

So I was right... She was telling him that he never needs to tell her he's sorry... (because she loves and trusts him with all her heart)

Here is the clip... (spoiler alert!)

[video=youtube;P-4jKZ3X1zQ]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P-4jKZ3X1zQ[/video]

Ryan O'Neal told us what he really thought of that phrase, in "What's Up Doc?" ....

 

[polychoroprene]

that means we never have to say I'm sorry to God? well, that's a huge relief....or not?

 

[Galatea]

Hahahaha....

I think this thread took a couple of sudden unexpected turns by WineRose

The way I took it in, while I haven't watched the movie and not familiar with its plot but assume it's some kind of love story, is that when two are in love, there's no need to say sorry because the act that would normally prompt an apology was not intended/intentional. And not noticing the hair cut example, while I see your point, you are not in love with her if you don't notice your gf/wife's hair cut, period, thus, it's a deeper issue than having to say sorry for hurting other's feeling.

When two are in love... I mean in love where one gives everything and vice versa
When everything you do you say you think is for that person only
The other person would just know why there was this "hurtful" act or omission of it, which would hurt the person's feeling typically, but not to the person because he/she would just know it was not intended. And can actually smile about it, knowing it was a byproduct of him/her loving wholeheartedly.

The other does not necessarily just “know” why the hurtful act or words occur. Let’s say that a man is at work and his boss cuts him down in front of his coworkers. The man is embarrassed and angry. He comes home and says a few choice hateful things to his wife. She doesn’t know why he is running her down. She thinks it is probably something to do with her. She doesn’t automatically know “Right, he is angry and hurt from stuff at work and just taking it out on me.” He should definitely apologize and tell her what is going on with him.

Unless a haircut is dramatic, a man may very well not notice his wife or girlfriend’s haircut or new dress or something.

 

[Galatea]

Ok guys, I figured it out!

A kind gentleman on youtube explained why the character (Jenny) says it in the movie....

Oliver (Ryan O'Neal) gets upset when Jenny tries to persuade him to take advantage of an opportunity to mend his relationship with is father and he yells at her for it.... Jenny (who has terminal cancer) runs off heartbroken.... Oliver runs after her looking for her... When he finally finds her freezing on the front steps of their house... She had forgotten her house key... He is obviously very sorry for getting upset at her and she is still sobbing but waiting for him to say something.... Then he says, "Jenny.....I... I'm sorry." ....And Jenny looks at him and tells him assuredly... "Don't. Love means never having to say you're sorry."

So I was right... She was telling him that he never needs to tell her he's sorry... (because she loves and trusts him with all her heart)

Here is the clip... (spoiler alert!)

[video=youtube;P-4jKZ3X1zQ]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P-4jKZ3X1zQ[/video]

That’s kind of selfish, though. Like Melita said, the one in the wrong has a desire to express sorrow. If you refuse to let someone apologize, that is not letting them say what they need to say.

 

[Tommy379]

"Goonies never say die." Would be a much better movie quote.