Manipulative Baloney

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Jullianna

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Have you ever watched a member of your own gender use certain manipulations on your friends? Do you want to grab your friends by the shoulders and say, "HEY! IT'S MANIPULATIVE BALONEY! SNAP OUT OF IT!" Here's an opportunity to sound off and help your friends by exposing said behaviors.
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Guys, if you see a girl do this stuff, it's MANIPULATIVE BALONEY! SNAP OUT OF IT! -
- "Oh my goodness..is this shirt too revealing?" Trust me. She KNOWS it is. She just wants you to notice that it is before she covers it up.
- The "poor little me, I'm so messed up, I might harm myself, I just can't figure it out on my own" junk...
- The defenseless little femme fatale. Beware of this one. If you confront her on her baloney, she will claw your eyes out.
- The girl who constantly claims guys are stalking her. Stalking does happen, but not all that frequently to the same person. Beware, as you could be the next person accused of stalking her to some other guy.
- The one who plays guys against one another.
- The one who constantly puts other women down to make herself look good. If she doesn't have other female friends or you never see her showing kindness to other females, take note. This one has serious insecurity issues.
 
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HEIsRiSen

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I notice this all to often among both genders, unfortunately, even here on CC. In my opinion manipulation is in the same boat as witchcraft.
 
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HEIsRiSen

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Here's another question: Have you ever called somebody out on their manipulation and had them get violently defensive about it? I have.
 
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1still_waters

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The..She doth protest too mucher....

Ie.. you made an observation that got right in her wheelhouse, and the only way to deflect it is to go in total denial mode!
 
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Relena7

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There are healthier ways of asking people for something you want without using dirty tricks that yank their emotions around like a sack of potatoes before they know what's happening.

I am good at detecting manipulation in a person, and I try not to befriend people who do this anymore.

And no, I don't mean the harmless manipulation of a pouty-lipped kid trying to get you to do them a favor. I mean adults who know exactly what they are doing and should know better.
 
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Yep! The first step of defeating a trap is to go in knowing it is one! Don't be caught unaware!
 
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arwen83

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Sweet-talkin charming guys who really have one thing in mind
 
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arwen83

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A Christian girl should only date Christian guys, at least then you know he ain't just lookin' for sex
 
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Pheonix

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The only gf I've ever had was rather manipulative. She tried to play games once too often and got burned for it. I find its hard to manipulate someone who wont play your game. Just keep that in mind folks...

I'd like to that defenceless little femme fatale try and claw my eyes out. She'd get a quick lesson in reality.
 
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arwen83

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Pheonix said:
This isn't always true!
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Well I guess I can only say that in my dating experience which maybe is a poor sampling, not a lot of non-christian guys are willing to wait until marriage. I personally rather stick to dating Christian
 
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Jullianna

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1still_waters said:
The..She doth protest too mucher....

Ie.. you made an observation that got right in her wheelhouse, and the only way to deflect it is to go in total denial mode!
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Good one, Stilly :)

arwen83 said:
A Christian girl should only date Christian guys, at least then you know he ain't just lookin' for sex
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Pheonix is right, unfortunately. A lot of guys (women too) will say they are a Christians to get close to you so they can ambush you once your guard is down. A relative of mine was sexually assaulted by a seminary student she really looked up to. :( Some guys intentionally prey upon the naivete of Christian young ladies....and some young ladies will fake that naivete too guys, so you have to be careful both ways.
 
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arwen83

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Jullianna said:
Pheonix is right, unfortunately. A lot of guys (women too) will say they are a Christians to get close to you so they can ambush you once your guard is down. A relative of mine was sexually assaulted by a seminary student she really looked up to. :( Some guys intentionally prey upon the naivete of Christian young ladies....and some young ladies will fake that naivete too guys, so you have to be careful both ways.
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Oh! I misunderstood his comment thinking that non-christian guys wouldn't be looking for sex. Yes I agree there are wolves in sheep's clothing in both genders. I'm sorry to hear about your relative.
 
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Jullianna

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Guys, what are some things you see guys use on the ladies that we aren't as aware of as we should be?
 
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Jullianna said:
Good one, Stilly :)

Pheonix is right, unfortunately. A lot of guys (women too) will say they are a Christians to get close to you so they can ambush you once your guard is down. A relative of mine was sexually assaulted by a seminary student she really looked up to. :( Some guys intentionally prey upon the naivete of Christian young ladies....and some young ladies will fake that naivete too guys, so you have to be careful both ways.
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I don't want to 'like' Julianna's post. But it is really true; the difference between a manipulative guy and a genuine guy can really only be seen over time. Initially they really do look the same. They will look just like that genuine guy you once knew.
 
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1still_waters

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Jullianna said:
Guys, what are some things you see guys use on the ladies that we aren't as aware of as we should be?
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Appealing to her nurturing side.

Appealing to her side that longs to see a guy "improving" himself and "changing".

Appealing to her side that wants to see "potential".

Appealing to her side that wants true committed you're the only one love.

Appealing to her side that wants to view a valiant man who is simply "misunderstood" by everyone else.
 
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libertygirl

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I met this "Christian" guy once. He added me on Facebook and saw how religious I was. He immediately added bible verses and christian quotes onto his profile. :rolleyes:
 
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HEIsRiSen

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Jullianna said:
Guys, what are some things you see guys use on the ladies that we aren't as aware of as we should be?
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Any time a guy tries to make you feel bad for something you have no reason to be sorry for such as: disagreeing with him, forgetting to call, spending time with friends, wanting some space.
 
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I've seen a few guys make their girlfriends feel worthless, making them feel like no one would ever love them, just so they could keep them from leaving the relationship. It's hard to see girls fall prey to that trickery.
 
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