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I think lightnin' did this thread with different contextual thinking than we thought, regarding those 2 statements, need vs want....
And...so now I will approach the two statements differently. Both words contribute differing meaning, but both speak of control desired. By wanting something or desiring something, we want control.
So, in a relationship setting, and, I don't want to walk on eggshells, but tne guy should not use those two words , need and want, in statement form , most of tne time, in a relationship. Instead, He should use them in question form.
”Would you want to go to Cafe Igalianini?
Instead of: I want to go to Cafe Igalianini.
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Another way of looking at those two statements, 'I need you,' and, 'I want you,' is the seriousness of the situation. For example: ”I know you don't want to go to my friend's wedding but I need you to go. ”
Truly, context matters the most as IF it is needy sounding of 'I need you,' that will scare the other person into thinking co-dependency. But if it is an occassion that you just want the other petson to do something with you, like a wedding invitation, then the 'I need you' statement is much more powerful than, 'I want you to go to the wedding invite and it skips having to go from 'I want you to go,” to 'I need you to go.'
The proper context means everything with those 2 statements . Above all, follow the Lord's leading. God lists self-control as one of the fruits of the Spirit, be slow to speak, quick to listen and understand what another is REALLY saying to you and ALWAYS pray that you are understanding things correctly.
The Lord will lead you in your relationship, greatly, you need it to work if He wants it to work despite what you THINK you want or need.
God knows your needs and wants better than anyone else, even better than you. Remember, He made you , uniquely qualified to carry out your calling to fulfill His needs and wants (purpose) for your life
Psalms 139
Jeremiah 29:11