Sis, you might find it helpful to simply post here in threads that interest you, being vocal about abstinence when appropriate. Many of us find our online buddies to be a good distraction from loneliness and other issues. Not that we should simply ignore things, but some of us find it actually harder to behave in that area of life when we discuss it a lot; it reminds us of something that isn't a part of our lives right now.
Also, reading what others have to say here is a great way to meet guys and see who's like-minded
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