Older women and younger men
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I agree with what zaoman said in the first part of his post,that age certainly does not bring about the maturity factor in a woman. I too have worked/worked with/known plenty of women age 30 & upwards who act worse than some unsaved high school 16 yr old girl on meth!
I recently mentioned in another thread that all I have ever been with are older women...not really because I have set out to do so. It just worked out that way. My ex-wife was just about 2 yrs older than me. She'd never dated a guy younger than her before. In fact most were 8-12 yrs older than her.
Growing up I almost never heard about an older woman dating/marrying/or wanting to be with a younger man...let alone a man who was,let's say 20 & she was 35-40. This has become some new trend over the past 10-15 it seems with women liking or paying interest in younger guys.
I have no problem with being with an older women or younger...just not young young. I don't want children of my own,so as an older guy I have no desire or need to find a young woman that I can make babies with ,so that my legacy will continue when I'm 6 feet under. lol
Lord knows that most women over the age of 27 have at least one child nowadays...if I really want a child to have my last name I suppose I could always find a woman that wants me to adopt her kid's,or we'd go and adopt from an agency.
I suppose it's pointless for me to have chimed in on this thread anyways,seeing as how my life is so unstable now that the last thing I can or want to do is bring so wonderful woman into all this nonsense I have to deal with now. A woman deserves security & love,no matter what age she is,and I highly doubt I could provide either for her at this time.
* I could really go for one of Pipp's house of horrors cupcakes right about now..I'm feeling fragile. lol *
I recently mentioned in another thread that all I have ever been with are older women...not really because I have set out to do so. It just worked out that way. My ex-wife was just about 2 yrs older than me. She'd never dated a guy younger than her before. In fact most were 8-12 yrs older than her.
Growing up I almost never heard about an older woman dating/marrying/or wanting to be with a younger man...let alone a man who was,let's say 20 & she was 35-40. This has become some new trend over the past 10-15 it seems with women liking or paying interest in younger guys.
I have no problem with being with an older women or younger...just not young young. I don't want children of my own,so as an older guy I have no desire or need to find a young woman that I can make babies with ,so that my legacy will continue when I'm 6 feet under. lol
Lord knows that most women over the age of 27 have at least one child nowadays...if I really want a child to have my last name I suppose I could always find a woman that wants me to adopt her kid's,or we'd go and adopt from an agency.
I suppose it's pointless for me to have chimed in on this thread anyways,seeing as how my life is so unstable now that the last thing I can or want to do is bring so wonderful woman into all this nonsense I have to deal with now. A woman deserves security & love,no matter what age she is,and I highly doubt I could provide either for her at this time.
* I could really go for one of Pipp's house of horrors cupcakes right about now..I'm feeling fragile. lol *
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Pardonner mon ami! I had to go slip into something a little mor comfortable with my avatar'e! So happy you asked this question! Wait moi sucre'! Where do you go? Ahhhh - playing hard to get! Two can play at that game! I shall chase and you.........wait mon cheri' - my cabbage - my pastry! You play too hard! I cannot catch up! Ahhhh, but this is how you play, oui? Now I cannot find you? (sniffing the air) oh my fille magnifique! When I catch you, age will not blind me!~
Thanks Liamson. I was really shocked at the high percentage of women until I realized that all forms of abuse (neglect and physical, not only sexual) were lumped together. Sexual abuse seems to be the main form of abuse for people who actually seek out other victims. I don't know if this skews the results on this site for our purposes or not though.
My kids are 14 and 17 years old... I'm almost an empty nester, crazy as that sounds to my own ears. Still a danger here, but not the same danger it would be if they were much younger.
My kids are 14 and 17 years old... I'm almost an empty nester, crazy as that sounds to my own ears. Still a danger here, but not the same danger it would be if they were much younger.
The number of mothers who abuse their children is likely because a greater number of mothers take an active role in their children's lives, both in two-parent and in single-parent homes. Step-parents or biological parent's significant others are more likely to abuse children.
'Mothers are almost twice as likely to be directly involved in child maltreatment as fathers. Mothers are more likely to abuse or neglect their children than fathers because they bear a larger share of parenting responsibilities in two-parent families and because a large percentage of families today are headed by mothers. In some communities, they are the majority[SUP].[/SUP]erpetrator patterns differ, however, by type of maltreatment. Mothers are not more likely to be the perpetrator when it comes to sexual abuse; fathers are more likely to be reported for this crime.'—https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/usermanuals/fatherhood/chapterthree.cfm[SUP].
[/SUP]'As one study found, “the risk of abuse and neglect is likely to be exacerbated where substitute individuals fill the roles of biological parents.” A study by two Canadian professors of psychology found that when all the variables of class and maternal age are accounted for, “preschoolers in stepparent-natural parent homes . . . are estimated to be 40 times as likely to become abuse statistics as like-aged children living with two natural parents.”' —Child Abuse and Family Structure
'Mothers are almost twice as likely to be directly involved in child maltreatment as fathers. Mothers are more likely to abuse or neglect their children than fathers because they bear a larger share of parenting responsibilities in two-parent families and because a large percentage of families today are headed by mothers. In some communities, they are the majority[SUP].[/SUP]erpetrator patterns differ, however, by type of maltreatment. Mothers are not more likely to be the perpetrator when it comes to sexual abuse; fathers are more likely to be reported for this crime.'—https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/usermanuals/fatherhood/chapterthree.cfm[SUP].
[/SUP]'As one study found, “the risk of abuse and neglect is likely to be exacerbated where substitute individuals fill the roles of biological parents.” A study by two Canadian professors of psychology found that when all the variables of class and maternal age are accounted for, “preschoolers in stepparent-natural parent homes . . . are estimated to be 40 times as likely to become abuse statistics as like-aged children living with two natural parents.”' —Child Abuse and Family Structure
Aren't older women who go after younger men called "cougars"? I thought there was even a whole show about it on TV. It seems that the connotation for that term is used more when older women go after younger men for more than their personality...
Otherwise, I'm not sure age is so important. You hear stories of age gaps all the time, both with the male being older and the female being older, and the relationship being fine. Everyone has their own preferences and what they're comfortable with.
I find it a bit funny that both use the reason of "maturity". Younger women who like older guys for their maturity, and younger men who like older women for their maturity. If both of the younger generations are looking for maturity, is there really no one else around their age who is just as mature as they apparently are? Obviously there are more reasons than just maturity, as every relationship is different. I just found that ironic.
Otherwise, I'm not sure age is so important. You hear stories of age gaps all the time, both with the male being older and the female being older, and the relationship being fine. Everyone has their own preferences and what they're comfortable with.
I find it a bit funny that both use the reason of "maturity". Younger women who like older guys for their maturity, and younger men who like older women for their maturity. If both of the younger generations are looking for maturity, is there really no one else around their age who is just as mature as they apparently are? Obviously there are more reasons than just maturity, as every relationship is different. I just found that ironic.
The empty nest represents the next exciting and wonderful stage of my life. Who am I to deny that? 
It's almost time to TRAVEL THE WORLD!!
It's almost time to TRAVEL THE WORLD!!
I learned no matter where ya was, it was the same stuff just the look changed.
plus traveling get old pretty quick. (it did for me) now i hate leaving the house.
Allow me to tell, according to my experience: I never like older women. Today youngs, both men or women, try to learn from the older ones and, in the case of women, some may call her cougars (I don´t know why) except that having younger people by sides makes you to feel younger.
Tina Turner may call that "successful", like many others who has got what they like and, ALL are free to get the parner any could be given (GOD-GIVEN) but I can assure what I have heard from the people I have met is sordid.
What do I have in common with a teen? What do I have in common with a foreigner in a remote country I cannot walk in her culture or economy?
LOVE seems to be a need EVERYWHERE, but the commonwealth of ideas, likes, and a bunch of things do matter to make it successfully; because beauty and health may fade away.
Older people can be ill-biased. Teens are those who risk themselves to start a new relationship at ease, and I had a fortyniner friend who married 5 times (From USA, by the way).
Marriage has to be given by God. It´s not based on beauty, a nice roof richly kept or sex. It´s a miracle to find one and a miracle to be found.
So I remember those words Jesus said about "the eunuch"...
Tina Turner may call that "successful", like many others who has got what they like and, ALL are free to get the parner any could be given (GOD-GIVEN) but I can assure what I have heard from the people I have met is sordid.
What do I have in common with a teen? What do I have in common with a foreigner in a remote country I cannot walk in her culture or economy?
LOVE seems to be a need EVERYWHERE, but the commonwealth of ideas, likes, and a bunch of things do matter to make it successfully; because beauty and health may fade away.
Older people can be ill-biased. Teens are those who risk themselves to start a new relationship at ease, and I had a fortyniner friend who married 5 times (From USA, by the way).
Marriage has to be given by God. It´s not based on beauty, a nice roof richly kept or sex. It´s a miracle to find one and a miracle to be found.
So I remember those words Jesus said about "the eunuch"...
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I think if a relationship works for a couple of a significant age-gap, they should just tell the people who make rude comments to mind their own beeswax!!
Not everyone has the maturity to understand...(heck, even I don't...honestly, I find it kinda weird when I see someone on TV my mom's age who prefers to date men my age...). But if it's not hurting anybody, who cares?
Not everyone has the maturity to understand...(heck, even I don't...honestly, I find it kinda weird when I see someone on TV my mom's age who prefers to date men my age...). But if it's not hurting anybody, who cares?
