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vonieykha

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hello,

relationship, dating? what your opinion about this words? what you really know about to have a date with someone.

If you date with no intention of marriage, you are acting like a child who plays with new toy and then discards it. I involve in online relationship before but its not work at all. That a so big mistake when you decide be a gf/bf to someone in online. well it happen to me and I know it a big mistake I do. I stopped looking for online relationship. Yes, something feel lonely. But Jehovah God can see the bigger picture, whereas we can't. we just have to trust Jehovah. why not you decide be a friend first? Then lets God make the way. He so much better know which man/woman suit for you. Dont waste your time looking for relationship with someone. Go out and enjoy your life. it so much fun. Believe me. At the time you realize, you never alone and God always make you day. If she/he really for you, you don't have to worry. Even dead cannot separate you two. I think you should date someone when that person really means something to you and you feel your future together has potential. You care about a person not just the idea of dating.
 
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mystdancer50

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Personally, I don't believe in dating. I know a lot of people will say that I'm just mincing words, but I believe in courtship. :) if you look up the definitions, you'll see that date is a noun (person place thing) and court is a verb (action), just like love is a verb. Anyway, I know what you were saying and I'm not disagreeing...just stating that I don't believe in dating. :)

It's late...I probably am not making sense. Have a great day/night!
 
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Ugly

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I'm sorry, OP, your logic makes no sense. Because you had a failed online relationship that means all online dating is bad? So have you ever had a failed relationship with someone in real life? If so, then according to your logic, then all real life dating must be bad as well. Don't let one bad experience make you have a wrong understanding. I've known a number of people who have had successful online relationships, even to the point of marriage.

I seem to do better online because i get to know the people better. I can sit in chat, not talk, watch the people, see who's immature, who has off doctrine, who seems 'off' and all kinds of other things... all before i even say a word to a person. Then i can have one on on PM's with a person to get to know them better.
 
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Fidelis

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I think dating is a great way to find out if the person you are dating with is really the one for you. Besides that, the experiences and knowledge you will gain because of the dating, will be of great value in the future while you're with your future husband/wife.
 
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vonieykha

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Ugly said:
I'm sorry, OP, your logic makes no sense. Because you had a failed online relationship that means all online dating is bad? So have you ever had a failed relationship with someone in real life? If so, then according to your logic, then all real life dating must be bad as well. Don't let one bad experience make you have a wrong understanding. I've known a number of people who have had successful online relationships, even to the point of marriage.

I seem to do better online because i get to know the people better. I can sit in chat, not talk, watch the people, see who's immature, who has off doctrine, who seems 'off' and all kinds of other things... all before i even say a word to a person. Then i can have one on on PM's with a person to get to know them better.
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its okay. we have different opinion. ya we can still chat, not talk and watch the people. especially here, at CC. For a serious relationship, I think better make it as a online friendship. ya I learn from the experience. I am not going to say I will not involve in online relationship anymore but now better stop it. if you more prefer for the online relationship and you say it more better to know that person, that good. Maybe I cannot do as you do. I means online relationship is work for you and its not for me. Thanks for your opinion and I am happy for your response. God bless you :)
 
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vonieykha

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Fidelis said:
I think dating is a great way to find out if the person you are dating with is really the one for you. Besides that, the experiences and knowledge you will gain because of the dating, will be of great value in the future while you're with your future husband/wife.
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yup.I like your opinion!! :) I am not regret about the thing happen to my relationship. our life something is sweet and something it bitter. when life is sweet say thank you and celebrate but when life is bitter say thank you and grow.
 
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CC_Bride

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I met my husband here in CC, and were in an online friendship first before we met each other, then after that it was a long distance relationship, then he moved to my country and city and we married 6 months later with our families blessing.

Online worked for us and it can be God centred and biblically driven, but I personally don't endorse it as the right method for everyone. Its financially expensive and emotionally difficult and requires solid trust and research into each other very early on which is less stressed on at the beginning of 'normal' relationships given you have more time to physically see each other in various environments.
 
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vonieykha

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CC_Bride said:
I met my husband here in CC, and were in an online friendship first before we met each other, then after that it was a long distance relationship, then he moved to my country and city and we married 6 months later with our families blessing.

Online worked for us and it can be God centred and biblically driven, but I personally don't endorse it as the right method for everyone. Its financially expensive and emotionally difficult and requires solid trust and research into each other very early on which is less stressed on at the beginning of 'normal' relationships given you have more time to physically see each other in various environments.
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congrat CC_bride. I am glad you two do it. May you love and hold each other in the worst of times with trust, faith and belief; hoping the best for you on your auspicious married. Now, I more prefer for online friendship than online relationship. Your husband have to move to your country to make it ease for you two. online friendship then make a real relationship. congrat to you two once again..
 
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Lightwalker

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I had a sticky situation with an online relationship so I admit that I'm a little wary with it. However, I do know that God is in control and whether its on the internet on in person He will send the right one.
 
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Jullianna

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I think one has to be more cautious and patient about meeting someone online, but so far it seems to have about the same success rate as dating in person :)

Besides, you can broaden your horizons in the meantime. I live in a rural area and a lot of the guys here aren't interested in many of the things that interest me and there aren't many places to meet them with the long hours I work. Then again, I could be hiding :)
 
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Lightwalker

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Hehehe! Very true!
 
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erika07

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I think, however the dating may be, online or in actual person, it really depends on the people. Either may work depending on the person you're dating. I believe that however God will make you meet your special person, either online, in person, snail mail, or whatever other means God may think of, when the people are true and the feelings are real, it could be wonderful. :)
 
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bekoo282

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If there is anyone wants to try to be in relitionship with me (in every ages), they can add me on skype(skype name : beko_ceto)
 
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RPM

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Online dating can be good for some people, I mean it really depends, granted sometimes you really can meet a great person and fall in love, I know of a couple who did that and they are now married even though they lived in different states, but the girl moved to her husband's state and the couple both believe in Christ as well :)

Can bad things happen with online dating? of course, I mean good things and bad things can happen anywhere in the world, whether we like it or not, and of course there are horror stories about online dating too but as I said there are also good stories too, so best thing to do is pray to the Lord about it and ask him to help you make the best judgment on if you should online date or not, as well as if an individual really is who they say they are.
 
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Lightwalker

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RPM said:
Online dating can be good for some people, I mean it really depends, granted sometimes you really can meet a great person and fall in love, I know of a couple who did that and they are now married even though they lived in different states, but the girl moved to her husband's state and the couple both believe in Christ as well :)

Can bad things happen with online dating? of course, I mean good things and bad things can happen anywhere in the world, whether we like it or not, and of course there are horror stories about online dating too but as I said there are also good stories too, so best thing to do is pray to the Lord about it and ask him to help you make the best judgment on if you should online date or not, as well as if an individual really is who they say they are.
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That is very true. :)
 
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sailet

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Dating in general, sometimes sucks if you bump into a dishonest person. Its very devastating when you trust that person and all of sudden he changed. It hurts, big tme. But, I so love the feeling of having much atention from someone I like and getting to know more of that person. Despite of the hurtful experiences, I still choose to seek and open my heart for that person, whoever he may be :).
 
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..is not for me :)
 
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but i must admit that i kinda like someone who lives far away from me.
 
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vonieykha

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thanks guy for you all opinion. I am so much enjoy my life now. I thought life be lonely without someone special. keep growing and skip dating for few year. be more mature in relationship and better focus to my study. The best is yet to come. yea..I have answer now. One think I am sure God is always have great plan.

" For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11
 
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