Only dating one person your entire life and having them be your life partner

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LoVeRoFmYsOuL

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Hello Emily,

I just wanted tell my story. I was lonely and having really nothing to do with my life. When I was in high school I felt in love with a girl from the schoolbus. I prayed so she could be the one but God has other plans with me. Later she told me that I was not the one and was not interested in me.

I was down, very. But I had a strong feeling of continueing with my study, somehow. I remember, there were night I couldn´t sleep till 4, 5 o clock.And this is what happened! One night, I cried and prayed that HE would give me someone who understands me and loves HIM like I do. The funny thing though, I wasn´t yet a real Christian! I was muslim at that time.

Now one day, I was still asleep, my brother woke me up and said:" Do you want to go to Mexico?" I, with half eyes open, said yes? Then it became clear that it was about a scholarship in Mexico! I was trilled. Be able to continue studying. Thats not all, during the selection process (I got selected) Ive met someone! And thats when everything has started. Here in Mexico I went and still go to church with her. Ive accepted Jesus in my life and Iam very happy with her and I thank GOD everytime I pray, for her in my life. She is the only one Iam dating and we´re planning to marry next year.

Hoping and praying that everything´s going well, like how He have planned. Offcourse we have our issues and disagreements, but they are to bring us closer to GOD and remembering that He only is GOD Allmighty. I hope that I didn´t bore you and that I might help.


GOD BLESS!!
 
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Emily

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Thank you all for your encouragement. I have to say though,a few months ago I had a boyfriend.I truly thought he was the one God had picked for me. We dated for about a month. We took long walks and hung out alot. Then one day he met me at the park and told me that we should just be friends. He said I wasn't talkative enough and he wants someone who likes math and science. I thought those were the dumbest reasons of breaking up ever! So, yes, I was upset and cried and wondered how this had happened. It truly broke my heart to think that my prayer of only dating one person my entire life did not come true. I prayed alot about it and had alot of people around me to encourage me. I now know he definitely was not the right one. I do wish that we had gotten to know each other better before we said we were dating, but at the time we were together all the time and felt like that's what we should do. But, I can't go back and fix what happened. I guess what I'm saying is, I know that God has someone way better out there for me and I think that he used this past relationship to show me what I truly want in a spouse and to wait a long time before ever dating. I'm having a hard time right now waiting though. I now know how it is to have a relationship and how great it is, but I also know if I wait for the right one our relationship will be ten times greater than any past ones.I'm twenty now and I honestly want to get married in a couple of years, but that obviously means I need to meet the right one first. It's so hard to be patient and wait on the Lord.
 

Sharp

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Yeah those are pretty dumb reasons for breaking up with someone. I'd say he was lying.
 
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christiancollegegirl

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yeah, he was probably lying. There was one guy who wanted me to be his girlfriend 2 days after we met, but I wanted to be friends first. I found out through a buddy of his that he didn't think things were gonna work out. Turns out he already had a girlfriend.
 
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Matthew

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Hi Emily,

I undertand your feeling and I share it, I often hope that at some point I will meet someone who has kept themself and not rushed into relationships but it has not happened yet and I am beginning to reconcile the fact that it is unlikely to happen, I'm 26 now and the more time passes the less likely I will meet someone also in the same situation.

I can understand how frustrated you must feel but hold onto your faith and it will happen when it's right, in the meantime try and do the only thing you can and that's too embrace your current circumstance, not see it as something to move away from to get to the next stage, but as a great oppourtunity in itself to expericence things and enjoy being open to all the possibilties that exist.
I try not to dwell on the fact that I am still alone, even though part of me wishes I weren't, if I did I might miss out on the things that are good about it.

Good Luck.
 
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buckeyegirl700

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I got saved a little over a year ago, before I was saved I dated guys that were not good choices for me. I believe it is wonderful if two people can date only each other for the rest of their lives. Since I have been saved I have chose not to date anyone because I want to get grounded in my faith and let God prepare me for my future mate. When I do meet my future mate that God has chosen just for me I will look forward to spending the rest of our lives together on earth as well as in heaven.
 
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pinkstix56

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I believe that it is possible :) God knows the desire of our hearts. And if that is what you sincerely want then He will start to work with the both of you to prepare you guys to be mates. But you have to go by God's will in this, pay attention to God don't just try to flatter Him to get what you want.
 
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collective

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I think it would be real aweing to have a relationship that is your first love and never touched until yous were married, it takes God to answer that prayer but it also would take some endurance of temptation and wise thinking because the flesh has a way of pulling, I dont think that its impossible but youd have to be vigilent
 
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jasperjedi

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men are like parking spaces... all the good ones are taken and the one's left are handicapped :D
could you please explain this quote, because I am disabled and as I see this as implying that disabled people are not qualified for dating..which I really find offensive.
 
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sabella22

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I do hope you find someone and I'm sure god will bless you with the right guy,see ijust got my heart broken by this guy tolled me he really liked me,but apparently he was lying..but once again ihope you find your prince..
 
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Leilaii425

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I think you should only date and marry someone that you knew as a fetus.
 
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christiancollegegirl

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Then you'd be marrying your twin brother/sister, and that's just gross. lol ;)
I'd rather marry my best friend. He knows me better than anyone, loves me anyway, and is willing to put up with me for the rest of hs life. What else could a girl ask for?
 
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Wow, that's quite a prayer Emily. I think it speaks much to the purity of your heart. God's will be done my sister.
 
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Tegelik

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That's not strange at all. I would be very pleased and happy, if my future spouse would've never dated or kissed anyone else. I haven't actually thought about that before, but yes I do want that and I think it's very possible. I believe a lot of people want that. Maybe I'll start praying about it, cause such a thing would be so cool.
 
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bambi21

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Emily, yes it is possible!! I know a friend that said the one guy she ever dated ended up being her husband and she thanks God for it! So yes it is! That can't happen for me since I've been in a relationship before, (but he wasn't a Christian) and I ended up doing things i shouldn't have been doing... but we have our second chances and we can always ask God to help us to stay pure until we meet the right one! :)
 
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Ugly

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Emily, yes it is possible!! I know a friend that said the one guy she ever dated ended up being her husband and she thanks God for it! So yes it is! That can't happen for me since I've been in a relationship before, (but he wasn't a Christian) and I ended up doing things i shouldn't have been doing... but we have our second chances and we can always ask God to help us to stay pure until we meet the right one! :)
This thread is from 2009. Most of the posters are no longer members. Including Emily.
 

Phia

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I've always prayed that God would send me the right person and that would be the one that I would marry. I know that it might not be possible, but I've also prayed that he's never dated anyone either. I would like to know what everyone thinks on this subject. Do you think it's possible and do you think it's strange that I'm thinking that way? Does anyone else pray this too?
Personally I do think it is possible. Actually that's pretty much what I want too. I think it sounds really romantic and I don't have it in me to want to just date a couple of guys before I find "Mr Right". I just want God to send the right guy along in His perfect timing and that will be it. Honestly, I've been jaded by what some male people in my life have done, and I'm really skeptical. In regards to myself..it's really hard for me to think that there might be someone out there for me and I don't want to have to deal with unnecessary drama. I won't purposely put myself out there..but God knows my heart..if He brings someone along at some point for me, then that would be pretty epic :)
 

Phia

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This thread is from 2009. Most of the posters are no longer members. Including Emily.
Hahaha oh dear..I only read your post AFTER I posted. Eish..I'd call this a blonde moment, but I wouldn't want to offend any blondes on here (no offense to any blondes by the way)
 
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bambi21

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oh my goodness!! sorry....