Opening the Doors for Guys and Other Fun Things

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Do you find it rude when others open the door for you (answer according to gender)

  • Yes ( I am a man. I don't like it when others open the door for me)

    Votes: 1 3.0%

  • No (I am a man)

    Votes: 16 48.5%

  • Yes ( I am a woman. I don't like it when others open the door for me)

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • No ( I am a woman)

    Votes: 13 39.4%

  • Other opinion

    Votes: 3 9.1%
  • Total voters
    33
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1still_waters

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#21
#21
Most men are fine if a woman...

Cooks for him.
Cleans for him.
Does his laundry.
Brings him the paper.
Brings him a beverage.


But if a woman opens a door for a guy, some men act insulted at the concept of not being able to do something? Uhh....reference list above then laugh at yourself.

Any woman who can do my laundry, bring me a sandwich, cook me dinner, bring me a paper, bring me a beverage, is more than welcome to open my door too. :p
 
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Tintin

Guest
#22
#22
I've had some women snarl at me, insult me or just ignore me when I open a door for them. I didn't need them to thank me but treating people with some respect doesn't go astray.
 
hayliegrace

hayliegrace

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Sep 3, 2013
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I personally think it's really kind when someone else opens the door for me, or when I see someone doing it for someone else. I really like it, and think it's a simple and kind gesture that doesn't take much effort but is really lovely.

However, my dad told me once that he opened a door for a woman with a pram, and she was very offended that he had done so, which I found to be quite fascinating! Of course, my dad didn't do this to offend the woman, but as a kind gesture.
 
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ServantStrike

Guest
#24
#24
I don't mind it when others open the door for me, and sometimes I even fall into the trap of being the guy left holding the bag (I mean door). I'll open the door for someone and then a ton of people will just keep coming in. That really annoys me as I'm not a doorman. The proper etiquette in that situation is for someone else in line to hold the door part way through, allowing me to enter. I want to say more guys do this than women in my experience (perhaps the women are uncomfortable holding the door for men, or perhaps it's just where I live, as a lot of people are shocked when you hold the door for them).

When more than one person decides to hold a door though, it's pretty awesome. The second person relieves you, allowing you to continue on your way, but not before a "thanks" is said, and "have a good one" is said back in reply. Also, if the other person is a man, there's an 80 percent chance that one or both parties will do "the nod", in which case "have a good one" is the only necessary interaction. Then both parties silently think to themselves how lucky they were that their parents taught them to have manners.


The only time I don't like having the door held for me is when I was in a mad dash to hold it for someone else (especially a woman). I mean, that's my job right?

One thing no one has mentioned so far though - guys, if you're dating a woman or interested in her, make sure not to completely get out of the way when opening the door. Leave plenty of space, but if she has to walk past you just the slightest bit, you get a momentary chance to make eye contact as she does.
 
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Tintin

Guest
#25
#25
ServantStrike said:
I don't mind it when others open the door for me, and sometimes I even fall into the trap of being the guy left holding the bag (I mean door). I'll open the door for someone and then a ton of people will just keep coming in. That really annoys me as I'm not a doorman. The proper etiquette in that situation is for someone else in line to hold the door part way through, allowing me to enter. I want to say more guys do this than women in my experience (perhaps the women are uncomfortable holding the door for men, or perhaps it's just where I live, as a lot of people are shocked when you hold the door for them).

When more than one person decides to hold a door though, it's pretty awesome. The second person relieves you, allowing you to continue on your way, but not before a "thanks" is said, and "have a good one" is said back in reply. Also, if the other person is a man, there's an 80 percent chance that one or both parties will do "the nod", in which case "have a good one" is the only necessary interaction. Then both parties silently think to themselves how lucky they were that their parents taught them to have manners.


The only time I don't like having the door held for me is when I was in a mad dash to hold it for someone else (especially a woman). I mean, that's my job right?

One thing no one has mentioned so far though - guys, if you're dating a woman or interested in her, make sure not to completely get out of the way when opening the door. Leave plenty of space, but if she has to walk past you just the slightest bit, you get a momentary chance to make eye contact as she does.
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Ooh, good one! I'll remember it.
 
JesusLives

JesusLives

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#26
Oct 11, 2013
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I am woman hear me roar, Please oh Please for me open the door....lol
 
cinder

cinder

Senior Member
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Mar 26, 2014
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It is difficult to make an act of service inherently rude. That being said, it takes a certain amount of humility to let yourself be served. Sometimes I have difficulties with people doing things for me that I can and am perfectly willing to do for myself. God's been working on me on this area, but there are still times when someone offers to do something for me or starts doing something for me and I shrug them off and tell them I can do it myself.

Still I don't think I've ever snapped at someone for holding a door; I just say thank you as I walk on through. Though as more and more doors become automatic, that happens less.
 
wisebeardman

wisebeardman

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Mar 22, 2013
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#29
Rachel20 said:
Oh really?

I was surprised at how all the American men were always being so courteous and nice or maybe it was my location.

I can understand if not everyone is that kind.
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it was the area you were in. some consider us mean and rude people, but we are not we are just trying to get though another miserable day.
 
JimJimmers

JimJimmers

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Apr 26, 2012
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Once I was working at a botanical garden, and was watering some large planters out front. I pretty much just had to let the water run (most people under-water containers, you should soak them thoroughly.) so I also opened the front door for people. I wanted to warn them of the loose hose anyway, so no one would trip.

Two women pushing strollers were so delighted, I thought they were going to find my boss and demand I receive a commendation. It seemed common courtesy, but I think the eye contact, greeting, hose warning etc. all came together to just delight the socks off of everyone. I never heard a complaint from anyone.
 
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jennymae

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#31
#31
JimJimmers said:
Once I was working at a botanical garden, and was watering some large planters out front. I pretty much just had to let the water run (most people under-water containers, you should soak them thoroughly.) so I also opened the front door for people. I wanted to warn them of the loose hose anyway, so no one would trip.

Two women pushing strollers were so delighted, I thought they were going to find my boss and demand I receive a commendation. It seemed common courtesy, but I think the eye contact, greeting, hose warning etc. all came together to just delight the socks off of everyone. I never heard a complaint from anyone.
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Awww, that was so sweet of you. I have been reading this thread, and I got to say I'm surprised to learn how many of yall telling about experiences where the lady given the courtesy of somebody opening the door is throwing back an insult. I'm expecting a man to open the door, and then I'm saying thanks with a smile and we've both made each others day.
 
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Rachel20

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May 7, 2013
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1still_waters said:
Any woman who can do my laundry, bring me a sandwich, cook me dinner, bring me a paper, bring me a beverage, is more than welcome to open my door too. :p
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You are so magnanimous Mr. 1still_waters. :p
 
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biscuit

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#34
#34
Great thread Rachel20
 
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Rachel20

Senior Member
#36
May 7, 2013
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Also, here's a thing we can start.

You know how we're all about giving out *hugs* and *hi fives*,

Next time let's all be like

*opens door for you*
 
Pipp

Pipp

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#37
Sep 17, 2013
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I appreciate the kind gesture. I also hold doors open for other people every chance I get. A lot of times if it's for a man he'll thank me.. walk in.. then hold the door so I can go out. :)
 
Grace-Like-Rain

Grace-Like-Rain

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Sep 6, 2013
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I love door holding! I think it just makes everyone's day happier. And if it doesn't... what is wrong with them??

If I'm the first in the door, I check to see if someone is coming in after me. If there's someone close, I will always hold the door for them to enter. I actually find it rude for anyone - man or woman - to walk through a door and let it slam in someone's face without even looking back.

Then there's the person who walks ahead of the group to open the door, stands back and allows everyone to pass through. I do this a lot too, and I always appreciate when someone does it for me, though sometimes I feel awkward if there's a waiting line inside and I find that I've effectively made the door holder give me his or her place in line. I usually try to wave them on ahead once we are inside.

I always feel grateful for kind people who think to hold a door open for me, whether it's a man, woman or child. And I hold doors for other people. Men often will take the door themselves and "invite" me to go in first, which is great too. Whichever they feel more comfortable with. I just think that a friendly exchange goes a long way in making the world a better place.
 
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NestForASparrow

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Feb 10, 2014
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As a man, I am not offended when a woman opens the door for me, but it feels awkward just the same.
 
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