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[Tintin]

The experience confused me and angered me because her friends were upset at me for not asking her out. They said things along the lines of "don't you go hurting my 'sister'" and "don't lead her on" and "just ask her out, already!", "I don't know what she sees in you?", "why are you such an idiot?" and a whole lot of other stuff, but I wasn't even interested in girl and I didn't know what was going on. Her friends were very antagonistic and hounded me for a few weeks, it was most unpleasant. The whole time I was thinking, "This is messy. What are we in, middle-school?" Yes, I was new to the whole thing but the girl's friends did not help, they made it worse. Finally, talking to a girl doesn't automatically mean I'm romantically interested in them. I talk to many guys and girls, I'm generally a friendly person.

 

[FireWire]

Well Tintin,

Looks like you were a scapegoat for the lack of ability of that girl to attract a guy. Wouldn't want to get involved with her with friends like that.

Women can be so very cruel and evil. I've had things said to me which are just vile because I'm not interested in women anymore. The whole reason I'm not interested anymore is because of their attitude toward me in the first place. All this even from so called Christian girls.

I'm really sad that's how you got treated. Such is the quality of women these days.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

The experience confused me and angered me because her friends were upset at me for not asking her out. They said things along the lines of "don't you go hurting my 'sister'" and "don't lead her on" and "just ask her out, already!", "I don't know what she sees in you?", "why are you such an idiot?" and a whole lot of other stuff, but I wasn't even interested in girl and I didn't know what was going on. Her friends were very antagonistic and hounded me for a few weeks, it was most unpleasant. The whole time I was thinking, "This is messy. What are we in, middle-school?" Yes, I was new to the whole thing but the girl's friends did not help, they made it worse. Finally, talking to a girl doesn't automatically mean I'm romantically interested in them. I talk to many guys and girls, I'm generally a friendly person.

What a terrible experience! I wonder if the girl herself knew that her friend were doing that. I would be so upset and horrified if my friends did something like that to someone I was interested in.

Tintin, I imagine girls are interested in you more often than you realize. If you are interested in being interested in an interesting girl, you'll have to take an interest in their interests. However, if you are content as things are, even better, and more power to you. Generally friendly people, unite!

 

[Tintin]

Well Tintin,

Looks like you were a scapegoat for the lack of ability of that girl to attract a guy. Wouldn't want to get involved with her with friends like that.

Women can be so very cruel and evil. I've had things said to me which are just vile because I'm not interested in women anymore. The whole reason I'm not interested anymore is because of their attitude toward me in the first place. All this even from so called Christian girls.

I'm really sad that's how you got treated. Such is the quality of women these days.

The girl herself wasn't the issue. She's a godly woman but I just wasn't interested in her. Her friends on the other hand... words best left unsaid.

 

[Tintin]

What a terrible experience! I wonder if the girl herself knew that her friend were doing that. I would be so upset and horrified if my friends did something like that to someone I was interested in.

Tintin, I imagine girls are interested in you more often than you realize. If you are interested in being interested in an interesting girl, you'll have to take an interest in their interests. However, if you are content as things are, even better, and more power to you. Generally friendly people, unite!

Thanks, Grace. You're awesome. I'm not sure if the girl caught wind of what her friends were 'really' doing but she wasn't the sort to agree with such behaviour.
As for the rest, I hope you're right (not in an egotistical sense but it would be nice). If I'm interested in a girl, they'll know. I'm fairly shy when it comes to such things but yeah... my affection would be overt. For now, I'm content to just enjoy my God-given friendships but I'm not shutting myself away from the world. I'm not crying out to God for a girl but I'm very open to whatever happens.

 

[iraasuup]

The experience confused me and angered me because her friends were upset at me for not asking her out. They said things along the lines of "don't you go hurting my 'sister'" and "don't lead her on" and "just ask her out, already!", "I don't know what she sees in you?", "why are you such an idiot?" and a whole lot of other stuff, but I wasn't even interested in girl and I didn't know what was going on. Her friends were very antagonistic and hounded me for a few weeks, it was most unpleasant. The whole time I was thinking, "This is messy. What are we in, middle-school?" Yes, I was new to the whole thing but the girl's friends did not help, they made it worse. Finally, talking to a girl doesn't automatically mean I'm romantically interested in them. I talk to many guys and girls, I'm generally a friendly person.

Wow! They sound like some seriously messed up friends. I don't think that's 'normal' behaviour at all. Normal behaviour would be to ask you in a round-about kinda way if you were interested in her (as girls do lol) not to accuse you when you clearly had no idea. Those girls sound weird, and childish!

 

[RickyZ]

Okay, this is a very easy question. I'm sure I've heard the topic come up before but would like to hear your thoughts anyway (particularly from guys) haha. This stems from a conversation I had with a friend recently, who is in a bit a predicament.

Should a girl tell a guy she likes him?

I'm particularly interested in what guys think about this. Appropriate or not?

To help you decide, I'll provide a scenario for you:

Girl and guy have been friends for sometime. Recently the friendship has deepened and they've become very close. Girl has developed feelings for this friend but isn't sure if the guy feels the same way about her. She knows him well enough to know that he isn't always the best at communicating his feelings in general situations as he doesn't have the most amazing social skills in the world. But, she is one person who can draw him out and he does the same for her. So, that being said...should she take a risk and tell him how she feels? If his feelings aren't the same as hers, it could potentially affect their friendship which is the last thing she wants. Or, should she give it some time and try to gauge his feelings or wait for him to ask her? What if he thinks the same about her and doesn't express his feelings at risk of losing the friendship? So, guys (and girls) any suggestions?

It could be that the guy is holding back because he doesn't want to ruin the friendship with a rejection.

As a kid who couldn't get a girl's attention if he was on fire outside a boarding house, I would have loved it if a girl had come up to me and expressed an interest. Game playing never works. Honesty also has it's failures, but that's part of the risk of living, and how God expects us to act towards each other.