Purity in a Relationship

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Cabbage

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Now, I know this post will seem definitely unusual and you will probably disagree. You don't have to follow any of this, but my boyfriend and I have made a vow to God and to each other that we would not kiss before marriage. This is just something special we have that not many others do. Please post your comments back. We want to show the teenagers how to have a true, pure relationship.
 
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Forlorn-Hope

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Im confused how kissing removes the purity and truness of a relationship, but yah know w/e each to there own.
 
Liamson

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Cabbage said:
Now, I know this post will seem definitely unusual and you will probably disagree. You don't have to follow any of this, but my boyfriend and I have made a vow to God and to each other that we would not kiss before marriage. This is just something special we have that not many others do. Please post your comments back. We want to show the teenagers how to have a true, pure relationship.
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Thats intriguing but, I'm also assuming that you have something special that is just you and your BF. I don't have a problem with the no kissing thing but, there should be something that you and he share that is just yours alone, otherwise he might as well be anyone that tells you nice things and spends time with you.
 
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Cabbage

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Liamson- we don't have anything special as far as intimacy goes. I have seen so many people just let intimacy come between them and that is all they want in a relationship.
 
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Kooper

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Cabbage said:
Now, I know this post will seem definitely unusual and you will probably disagree. You don't have to follow any of this, but my boyfriend and I have made a vow to God and to each other that we would not kiss before marriage. This is just something special we have that not many others do. Please post your comments back. We want to show the teenagers how to have a true, pure relationship.
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Pushing purity to the extreme. Nice. *thumbs up*

I hope the best for the both of you. :)
 
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Japh

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thats gr8 i luv it. hope u'll maintain it?
 
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delive

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thats good.. kissing isnt a sin, but can lead you to sin.
 
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Cabbage

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Yes, I recognize it is not a sin and I don't have problems with it. I have been in 2 relationships that were abusive and I want to know that he loves me not for something I will give him.
 
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delive

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awesome thing Cabbage, thats a big love proof from him :)
 
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REDMama

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Kisses in the Song of Solomon

I support you, you will have something special on your wedding day. A memory to last a lifetime, even if it seems kinda childish to others, or to even you.

Many of us just go with the flow and then don't realize we missed out on alot, and then we meet someone new, and they don't like us, because we made past choices, and some we could not even get out of, we had to survive. You know, you remember high school.

Anyway, nice to hear something beautiful and good, God Bless your marriage.

Have you ever read Song of Solomn? In the Old Testament in the Bible. It has some verses about kisses. And how intimate and what the ideal between husband and wife.

Now that I think of it that would be a nice scripture reading for a wedding ceremony.

What do you think?

I don't know, everyone is different.
 
Megatron

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I would never do that personally, but if youre committed to it then ill offer you my support that you stick without
 
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marissamilkshake

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I think that's amazing :) When i find the one, I am committed to staying pure to that extent as well! I'm 17 and have never had a boyfriend, kissed a boy or anything more!
 
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chel15

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i believe that you sholud alway be pure before marriage
 
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GreenNnice

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JOSHUA Harris wrote book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye.

So maybe your book can be , I Kissed Kissing Goodbye.


---on what you said, that's fine to have that mind of relationship, as long as God is in the center of that understand thinking from both of you, Cabb. You definirlo do mucho batters job of not awaken God's love inside you for your mate if íntimacy of mouth is not done. :)


Sinceros we are on this topic of purista, I alwaways like to mentioning a book Ive read and reread, Passion & Purity, by Elizabeth Elliott.

May God give you the strength you need to carry about your relationship in that way of no kissing. I think your courtship can be less time and engagement, but that'.s me speaking, I highly recommend at least SIX MONTHS engagement período before marriage. But my ultimátum recommendation is mucho bigger tgan that: Pray ceaselessly to God for direction from Him.
 
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Cabbage

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GreenNnice said:
JOSHUA Harris wrote book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye.

So maybe your book can be , I Kissed Kissing Goodbye.


---on what you said, that's fine to have that mind of relationship, as long as God is in the center of that understand thinking from both of you, Cabb. You definirlo do mucho batters job of not awaken God's love inside you for your mate if íntimacy of mouth is not done. :)


Sinceros we are on this topic of purista, I alwaways like to mentioning a book Ive read and reread, Passion & Purity, by Elizabeth Elliott.

May God give you the strength you need to carry about your relationship in that way of no kissing. I think your courtship can be less time and engagement, but that'.s me speaking, I highly recommend at least SIX MONTHS engagement período before marriage. But my ultimátum recommendation is mucho bigger tgan that: Pray ceaselessly to God for direction from Him.
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We have discussed and I think probably a year or two for engagement, but I am only 18, so those things will happen later.
 
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GreenNnice

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Great, sounds like you've found a guy who truly loves you for who you are. Bruno Mars anyone? Tongue-in-cheek said, but dont let song of Bruno or Pyrámid song by charise and lyaz emoción you, this beau of yourself should want you to he the ONLY GIRLs his world from God telling him and not Rihanna ;) listening to good música, God música, too.

You can think to be headstrong enough (pun intended) to not do kisses of the mouth, and, milady , mamared, mentoned song of solomon book in bible. I just did a lengthy expository in a thread titled, 'Do not AWAKEN love before its time.'

Both these things next said TIE together with being headstrong in love , as opposed to maybe head-over-heels. The SOS book really, really, really is a beautiful example of love, but, evento though its in the bible, this book is without something , or, rather someone who should always be your most cherished in your relationships of your life and, that someone neither Solomon nor his lover and then wife mention is...God.
This fact of romántic, beautiful but Godless love of Sol and girl in SOS is very distressing of a signal to me, especially knowing Solomon ende up marrying 700 women and having a harem of 300. So zar for Sol, but the sins of his father, David, adultery with Bathsheba likely influenced Solomon unbeneficially as Sol tried to become great leader figure like his great army general dad.

So, I just say to you, milady, to NOT willpower yourself (nor your beau) to not kiss in dating, its not you two that ALONE can make that no-kisses pact happen. But to will on the power of God to be able to withhold physical intimacy (except do at léast give beau hugs). You must be headstrong with God not to iss, this goes for your beau too. That kind of way of doing things will keep God strong in your relationship and things will be most beautiful for you and your beau as your beau works very hard for you (and you work very hard for he) in these colllege/work/play/church formative 1-2 years of courtship and ensueing engagement and, perhaps, after a short time after that, a wedding of celebration beautifully consecrating the rest of your life as one with him from God. God bless your great decisión, you will be blessed for doing this, Cabb :) .
 
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VikkiKate89

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Cabbage said:
Liamson- we don't have anything special as far as intimacy goes. I have seen so many people just let intimacy come between them and that is all they want in a relationship.
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You do know the difference between intimacy and just carnal desires right? Because intimacy is not a bad thing to constantly want with your partner/spouse. It's what brings you closer and means a lot more than just the physical actions. It's what separates sex from making love. There's nothing wrong with desiring intimacy in your relationship (and intimacy doesn't always mean sex, it can be a variety of things).
 
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Meridoc

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Cabbage said:
Now, I know this post will seem definitely unusual and you will probably disagree. You don't have to follow any of this, but my boyfriend and I have made a vow to God and to each other that we would not kiss before marriage. This is just something special we have that not many others do. Please post your comments back. We want to show the teenagers how to have a true, pure relationship.
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Amen and more power to you!! There are too many people who just treat purity as an outdated concept. I don't personally think that kissing before marriage is a big deal, but excited to see others who are drawing a line in the sand and sticking to it. God Bless you!
 
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Boanerges

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Somebody said me once: "Think, When you get married, and you see an ex from you wife, you will see somebody who kissed your wife. And how many wive did you kiss?"
 
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