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We all know that there are attractive men AND women who play games to an extent, and there are a couple of reasons I've seen for that. And you probably have too:
The most obvious: some ppl love the power trip and don't care who they hurt in the process. Avoid them like the plague. You're really not even human to them, simply a pawn. You know who they are because they're usually looking over your shoulder into the mirror to adjust their hair or makeup while they talk AT you.
The ones who have been hurt in the past by saying yes too quickly. Like one of the posts alluded to earlier in this thread, they might play hard to get for a time in order to determine whether the interest is genuine or if they just want a challenge and intend you to be another notch on the belt/lipstick case. Have you ever given a guy/girl the benefit of the doubt and gotten too close, too soon...and then have to be unkind to get them to understand that your NO really does mean NO when you find out that there's no way a relationship with that person could be healthy?
And sometimes...they really just want some time to see what makes YOU tick...and why you are interested in them. How can someone like you that much from seeing you across a room, without taking the time to actually have a conversation with you?
The guy/girl who can make you laugh/feel comfortable to be yourself/talk with you about things you feel strongly about is the person most of us really want to spend time with...unless I'm the only oddball in this thread. lol Prince/Princess Charming will get old too, just like the rest of us.
A lot of times you will see a person with a spouse/date and you wonder how they ever got together....it's because one of them had the courage to ask....there are a lot of attractive people out there who are alone because others are somehow intimidated by them. If you're interested in one of them, take note of the way they interact with other people...do they expect favors? do they demand attention? are they unkind to others? Sometimes you can learn more by watching and listening than you can by talking. Don't assume that they are "out of your league" though. They cry and bleed too, right? Quiet confidence (not cockiness...which is a major turn off) is amazingly attractive to most ppl I know of both genders.
The most obvious: some ppl love the power trip and don't care who they hurt in the process. Avoid them like the plague. You're really not even human to them, simply a pawn. You know who they are because they're usually looking over your shoulder into the mirror to adjust their hair or makeup while they talk AT you.
The ones who have been hurt in the past by saying yes too quickly. Like one of the posts alluded to earlier in this thread, they might play hard to get for a time in order to determine whether the interest is genuine or if they just want a challenge and intend you to be another notch on the belt/lipstick case. Have you ever given a guy/girl the benefit of the doubt and gotten too close, too soon...and then have to be unkind to get them to understand that your NO really does mean NO when you find out that there's no way a relationship with that person could be healthy?
And sometimes...they really just want some time to see what makes YOU tick...and why you are interested in them. How can someone like you that much from seeing you across a room, without taking the time to actually have a conversation with you?
The guy/girl who can make you laugh/feel comfortable to be yourself/talk with you about things you feel strongly about is the person most of us really want to spend time with...unless I'm the only oddball in this thread. lol Prince/Princess Charming will get old too, just like the rest of us.
A lot of times you will see a person with a spouse/date and you wonder how they ever got together....it's because one of them had the courage to ask....there are a lot of attractive people out there who are alone because others are somehow intimidated by them. If you're interested in one of them, take note of the way they interact with other people...do they expect favors? do they demand attention? are they unkind to others? Sometimes you can learn more by watching and listening than you can by talking. Don't assume that they are "out of your league" though. They cry and bleed too, right? Quiet confidence (not cockiness...which is a major turn off) is amazingly attractive to most ppl I know of both genders.
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