So my question is how do you really 'get to know' somebody? I mean I've had experiences in the past where I thought I've known this guy only to find out he's the total opposite of who he claimed to be...but anyway that's another story.
I guess this question arose from a conversation I had with my mother this morning. To give you background I started a relationship almost 6 months ago now with a guy who lives in California (I'm in Australia). Things are great. I was talking with my Mum this morning about a friend who recently met a guy online and bla bla. My Mum commented on how hard that must be to which I replied 'Yes, but look at us, we're making it work'.. to which my Mother replied 'Well, yes but you don't REALLY know him now do you?".
I thought to myself hmm what an interesting comment to make? By what factors do we determine knowing somebody. My mother has this thing in her head that you have to spend time with a person to really know them (sure, that's true, I don't disagree) but isn't communication the most important element? You get to know a person by talking to them right? Having those deep conversations and being totally honest with one another. Not just talking about shallow topics, but really digging below the surface and having in depth conversations about life, values, experiences, faith etc. Those conversations help you shape an opinion about a person and really get to know their belief systems etc.
I guess I'm wondering people's opinions on what you think are key elements in really getting to know a person when you're separated by distance? Other than daily Skype video calls (which include, times of prayer and bible reading along with just regular conversation) and viber messages a zillion times a day how else can a couple so far apart deepen their relationship when going out together each weekend or once a month even simply isn't an option?
I guess this question arose from a conversation I had with my mother this morning. To give you background I started a relationship almost 6 months ago now with a guy who lives in California (I'm in Australia). Things are great. I was talking with my Mum this morning about a friend who recently met a guy online and bla bla. My Mum commented on how hard that must be to which I replied 'Yes, but look at us, we're making it work'.. to which my Mother replied 'Well, yes but you don't REALLY know him now do you?".
I thought to myself hmm what an interesting comment to make? By what factors do we determine knowing somebody. My mother has this thing in her head that you have to spend time with a person to really know them (sure, that's true, I don't disagree) but isn't communication the most important element? You get to know a person by talking to them right? Having those deep conversations and being totally honest with one another. Not just talking about shallow topics, but really digging below the surface and having in depth conversations about life, values, experiences, faith etc. Those conversations help you shape an opinion about a person and really get to know their belief systems etc.
I guess I'm wondering people's opinions on what you think are key elements in really getting to know a person when you're separated by distance? Other than daily Skype video calls (which include, times of prayer and bible reading along with just regular conversation) and viber messages a zillion times a day how else can a couple so far apart deepen their relationship when going out together each weekend or once a month even simply isn't an option?