Remarriage after divorce?

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God covers these things, absolutely you can pray and ask for a good christian husband and to have a family in the future. Nothing is wrong with that, we all make mistakes, when Jesus died on the cross He took all of our sins upon Himself and wiped your slate clean. He doesn't hold anything against born again Christians, including divorce. He hates divorce because of what it does to us and the problems that arise from divorce, God won't be mad or angry at you if you remarry. God can bless and give you the man that you desire, allow Him to grow you and prepare you for whatever He has for you, wait on Him and make Him closer than close in your life. The Bible says that He's as close to you as your breath, He knows you from the inside out and knows you better than you know you, allow Him to lead and guide you and to bless you when you trust and give yourself completely over to Him. Allow Him to also heal you of your wounds and understand that He loves you more than you can imagine and that He will NEVER be angry or surprised at something that you have done, God the Father wipes these things from His memory because Jesus already paid for them, nothing is held against us :) Thank you Jesus!

Be blessed sister and remember God loves you and He is not angry with you:)
 
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He doesn't hold anything against born again Christians, including divorce
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It's good to know we can freely ignore the Lord's instructions on getting remarried when our original spouse is still living!

We are called to be followers of God as dear children so when God makes a promise, He keeps it... but some now claim we can make a promise and not keep it and it's all good.

No, this would not be the unpardonable sin... but it is an open door to more trouble as it is a sin according to what Jesus taught on the subject.

It would be better to quit making an idol out of marriage and having a spouse and walk with the Lord instead... once we enter in to eternity there will be no more marriage.
 
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Littlemissprim said:
I know I'm OK to divorce on infidelity, it's the remarriage bit I struggle with,
I pray about it all,but deep down I just have this feeling it's wrong. I'm not sure if it's cultural or biblical though
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Have you found a biblical answer to these questions yet? This video sparked a very long study for me. You can download a Strong’s Concordance for free to look up original Greek and Hebrew terms for a better understanding. Don’t take anyone’s word obviously, dive into the word.
 
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NOV25 said:
Have you found a biblical answer to these questions yet? This video sparked a very long study for me. You can download a Strong’s Concordance for free to look up original Greek and Hebrew terms for a better understanding. Don’t take anyone’s word obviously, dive into the word.
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It's been since 2017. I'm guessing she doesn't still need answers. Particularly since I've not seen her active on the site since 2017.
 
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Littlemissprim said:
What are people's thoughts on remarriage after divorce?
I left my husband after a 8 year abusive relationship with no children. I then found out he was unfaithful most of our marriage. So I divorced.
I would love a family of my own.
But is it wrong of me to ask God to provide me that?
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No it isn't. You had justification to leave. My ex-wife filed for divorce and left after I lost my job (corporate merger). Unfortunately people don't always live up to their obligations.

I had always wanted a large family (3+ kids) but it is statistically looking less and less likely.
 
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KhedetOrthos said:
No it isn't. You had justification to leave. My ex-wife filed for divorce and left after I lost my job (corporate merger). Unfortunately people don't always live up to their obligations.

I had always wanted a large family (3+ kids) but it is statistically looking less and less likely.
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I am so very sorry that you went through that sort of betrayal. It is a lonely, painful thing. I pray that God blesses you with unexpected joy. All the best brother.
 
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Littlemissprim said:
I know I'm OK to divorce on infidelity, it's the remarriage bit I struggle with,
I pray about it all,but deep down I just have this feeling it's wrong. I'm not sure if it's cultural or biblical though
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Where biblical divorce is allowed, biblical remarriage is assumed. To strap the one who was cheated on with not being able to marry is double jeopardy.
 
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Littlemissprim said:
What are people's thoughts on remarriage after divorce?
I left my husband after a 8 year abusive relationship with no children. I then found out he was unfaithful most of our marriage. So I divorced.
I would love a family of my own.
But is it wrong of me to ask God to provide me that?
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Hey my name is Daniel and it’s not wrong for you to ask God that since he is abusive and everything. That was not right on what he did and that is an exception to get remarried. I am a Christian and I am separated waiting to see what God has in stored for me. How are you?
 
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Danielswtt said:
Hey my name is Daniel and it’s not wrong for you to ask God that since he is abusive and everything. That was not right on what he did and that is an exception to get remarried. I am a Christian and I am separated waiting to see what God has in stored for me. How are you?
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That is only a Catholic vow. Are you Catholic?
 
BrotherMike

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God knows your heart. Even though God hates divorce, being unfaithful is a Biblical excuse to get a divorce. Ask for forgiveness if you feel you need to and move on with God's grace and perfect plan for you!
 
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Someone being unfaithful is The only reason I would move on with God's permission...
 
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Littlemissprim said:
I know I'm OK to divorce on infidelity, it's the remarriage bit I struggle with,
I pray about it all,but deep down I just have this feeling it's wrong. I'm not sure if it's cultural or biblical though
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To get at the root of WHY you feel wrong about remarriage ask yourself these kinds of questions.
Is it because someone has told you that the bible forbids remarriage after divorce for any reason?
Are you afraid that they were correct and you don't want to violate some scripture about it?
Is there a scripture that you have read that you interpreted as telling you that you should not remarry after the divorce even though it was a divorce on biblical grounds of adultery?
Did you divorce before you knew that your husband was unfaithful and this makes you feel like you were wrong for divorcing and do not have a right to claim that it was for the cause of adultery when at the time you were not divorcing for that reason?
Does your conscious smite you for this and you feel that you have sinned in your heart for the divorce before you knew about the adultery?
None of these questions might be relevant but YOU should be able to figure out what is at the root of your guilt feelings if you are honest with yourself.
If it is merely a matter of What does the Scripture say about it, then I would say that you need to read 1 Cor 7. If the unbeliever divorcing the believer gives the believer the right to remarry(only to a believer/in the Lord) (Paul said you are not in bondage in such cases) then certainly the one who's partner committed adultery is free to remarry, only in the Lord/ to a believer.

The guilt issue is complicated because it is often not due to whether the person "qualifies" for remarriage according the scripture but instead is rooted in the heart sins one committed in the previous divorce situation such as being also guilty of adultery in which case they cannot very easily consider themselves the innocent party. They are still feeling guilty about how the previous relationship ended and whether it could have been salvaged if they had tried harder to live the gospel.
 
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Littlemissprim said:
What are people's thoughts on remarriage after divorce?
I left my husband after a 8 year abusive relationship with no children. I then found out he was unfaithful most of our marriage. So I divorced.
I would love a family of my own.
But is it wrong of me to ask God to provide me that?
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Its a shame you didnt work out things with him, you married him for a reason, but circumstances ruined the relationship. I wish you all the best, at least you have no baggage with him (Kids) In your case i would say remarry, divorce should be the last option, when you have exhausted every other option.
 
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