* sighs*That one unwritten rule

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Theygaveutheirworst

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We all know it, and we all have been through it- okay, maybe not all. You know, it's that one unwritten rule/law that says, "a guy can't be friends with a girl unless it's his girlfriend" that's been driving me crazy. Heaven forbid I hang with a girl for a couple of hours without everyone assuming( a word I very much dislike) that we're dating.lol I'll be a happy man the day I find that rule book with this unwritten rule in it. :rolleyes:
 
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Eh, if I were a married man, I probably wouldn't wanna be out alone with another women, who isn't my wife. Something just ain't right bout that.
 
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Theygaveutheirworst said:
We all know it, and we all have been through it- okay, maybe not all. You know, it's that one unwritten rule/law that says, "a guy can't be friends with a girl unless it's his girlfriend" that's been driving me crazy. Heaven forbid I hang with a girl for a couple of hours without everyone assuming( a word I very much dislike) that we're dating.lol I'll be a happy man the day I find that rule book with this unwritten rule in it. :rolleyes:
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shawntc

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Really? I never had that problem. And if people do assume it, I usually don't hear about it. Nor do I care. Most peoples' opinions are irrelevant in daily life.
 
zeroturbulence

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There is a a little something called the "friend zone" or the "bro zone". Its what happens when a guy is friends with a girl even though she's still waiting for mr. right to come along.

 
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I had that problem back in Jr High... by high school it seemed to disappear. Maybe you need new friends.
 
VikkiKate89

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When has that EVER been a rule? Sounds like you're just setting yourself up for needless complication.
 
Theygaveutheirworst

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1still_waters said:
Eh, if I were a married man, I probably wouldn't wanna be out alone with another women, who isn't my wife. Something just ain't right bout that.
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I was mainly talking about two single people( a guy and a girl) hanging out together, and the assumption people get that creates an unnecessary awkward moment between two friends, which causes them to not want to hang out again.

Friend zone?lol I never thought of a girl using me in such a way!....... Myself? I'm okay with being single at the moment. * this is the part where you start laughing* It just seems people get weirded out when a guy just wants to be friends with a girl, instead of trying to date them.
 
Theygaveutheirworst

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Ugly said:
I had that problem back in Jr High... by high school it seemed to disappear. Maybe you need new friends.
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My friends aren't the problem- for the most part.lol It's the random people in public places who assume we're a couple that gets under my skin. They provide for the most awkward moments. Should I care? Nope, not at all. Is it annoying? Yes, very much so.
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Well, yeah, people think that because that's most common. I've worked with the public a lot and its a natural reaction to assume a guy and girl together are 'together'. Its nothing of an 'unwritten rule', but it is in fact, most common. So since its more common that they are a 'couple' than that they are just friends, it makes sense to assume the same of others.
I've had repeated times when i was out with my friend and her children and people would tell us what great kids 'we' have. A few times i was told how much one or more of them looked like me and they weren't even my kids. We weren't married. Or people just assumed we were married, kids or no kids. At first we corrected people. Eventually we just left it, unless it was a situation where i may run into the people again. Its not worth being worried about or bothered by. I never even thought of it as uncomfortable. Just laughed and said 'nope, not us'.
 
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I wonder why people care about random peoples opions that they dont even know and may never see again???
 
LightningClap0002

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Hmm, i dunno. Doesn't seem too annoying. Now when you're out in public with friends who are single mothers and you get called a dad... maybe. Not too bad for me, tho.
 
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If a man has too many female friends and not enough male friends I automatically think hes gay. And he probably wont be able to convince me otherwise.
 
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One of my female friends was having a rough time with her research, so she popped into my office and asked me if I'd like to go out for dinner. Her husband and my wife were both out of town.

They messed up her meal. Honest mistake. It didn't bother her and we were willing to wait for them to fix it. We were having a good time and she was blowing off steam.

Then: they offered me a free beer as an apology.
 
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Theygaveutheirworst said:
We all know it, and we all have been through it- okay, maybe not all. You know, it's that one unwritten rule/law that says, "a guy can't be friends with a girl unless it's his girlfriend" that's been driving me crazy. Heaven forbid I hang with a girl for a couple of hours without everyone assuming( a word I very much dislike) that we're dating.lol I'll be a happy man the day I find that rule book with this unwritten rule in it. :rolleyes:
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Sure it's common for waiters at a restaurant to assume that a guy and girl having a meal together are a couple. From their perspective it's safer to make that assumption, than make the fool mistake of assuming that a couple are just friends.

I do however, find it quite annoying to have that mistake made among friends. Simply put, I'm one of those people who assumes that a guy and girl that I know that are friendly with each other are nothing more than friends until one of them blatantly tells me that they are a couple. Outside of that, it is none of my business, and definitely not my place to pry into their business. I've seen good friendships ruined because of the constant prying from outsiders.
 
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