So there might be this girl I like?

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dothackzero

dothackzero

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Okay, so it looks like there's this girl I like. That I actually might think has a decent chance of liking, I mean we actually connect. Still not 100% if she lives in my area or in ohio, that it does look like she probably does live around. I should probably ask her.

Anyway, I pretty much been going from at peace waiting for the girl. To becoming restless about wanting to be that one. Mostly I'm just trying to say that I've been at peace wait for a girl, now there is one I have a decent chance of getting. and I'm not wondering if it's problem for the future that I'm restless when there is a girl that I like.(You know, I'm talking in the future after marriage)

Though now that there's a girl I might like, It seems that the problem of what if she's not a virgin rises up again. Once I again, I can forgive girl that have done it. But there is just the awkwardness of another guy's thing having been there.(Obviouly waiting till marriage, but this still bugs me)


Also would it be a good idea to ask if I can come along, if she leaves church early to hang out with some girls?
 
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Hi! Here's my thoughts:

So, how much do you like her? You say "might have a decent chance of liking." Do you think you like her, or do you know that you are falling for her? Sometimes when there is pressure or a strong desire to move out of singlehood, people get just get attached to a certain person, not necessarily for no apparent reason, but because there are simply connections between them.

About her virginity...If she's not, there's nothing that can be done about the past situation really. If she feels the same way about waiting for marriage, but messed up, don't judge her too harshly. It's good that you say that you are able to forgive her of that. Yes, you may feel awkward about it if she's not a virgin, but say you two end up getting married. Will it bother you then when you love her that much?

Also, if you want to hang out with her and her friends after church, I would say go for it! (Though she will probably catch on that you like her, if she hasn't already!) It would be a good idea for you to figure out if she lives in your state, too. And if she's seeing anybody...

Wishing you the best!

In Christ,
River
 
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I normally don't give advice like this, but just ask her out and see what happens. You don't seem like the kind of person who would take that particular approach and fall into utter dissolution.

As for her virginity, if she is repentant, there is not great reason to care IMAO.
 
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