stuck in the mirry muck
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Many details are missing. What is your objective? How do you want to move forward toward it? Why are you stuck? I can't even tell from the first post what you're stuck in.
My best guess right now is you want to get back out in the dating scene and find a new husband, but you are afraid to make the move. But that's just a guess - I have no idea if I'm right. Give us a clue here.
My best guess right now is you want to get back out in the dating scene and find a new husband, but you are afraid to make the move. But that's just a guess - I have no idea if I'm right. Give us a clue here.
Hi! I thank God for your reply. Yes, you are correct; I want to have a Christian relationship; but the past keeps my bound. I know Christ as my savior; that is spiritual. Physically I have cats and a family, but as a woman I am alone, and I really feel that lone;omess/ Past relationships have not been good, some ended cruelly. What steps can I take?
I have a question for you. Have you taken your situation to God or are you looking to find a man yourself? If you have spoken with God about this, then I would you suggest that you trust Him to know who and what is best for you and also the timing of it. Wait on Him. This takes the pressure off of you. It is really God's job to put His children together in marriage. Look at the pattern in Scripture. Adam, Isaac, Jacob, all received their brides from God. He had plans for them, just as He does for you and those plans include the right spouse, someone who will love and be faithful to you for the rest of their life, not end the relationship in cruel rejection. God wants better than that for His children. Why don't you make a list from Scripture of everything that a godly, loving man should be. Start with Micah 6:8. Ask God for a man like that. Then make a list, using Scripture, of everything that God finds unacceptable in a man. When you see these characteristics in a man, run for the hills. You will know he is not the one God has for you! Waiting on God and trusting Him is not being stuck, it is being smart. I will be praying for you as you work this out with God.
...A man was there who had been ill for thirty-eight years. When Jesus saw him lying [there], and knew that he had already been a long time [in that condition], He said to him, "Do you wish to get well?" The sick man answered Him, "Sir, I have no man to put me into the pool when the water is stirred up, but while I am coming, another steps down before me." Jesus said to him, "Get up, pick up your pallet and walk." Immediately the man became well,and picked up his pallet and [began] to walk.
(John 5:5-9 NASB - The Pool at Bethesda)
(John 5:5-9 NASB - The Pool at Bethesda)
Love yourself and others will love you. Just offer yourself as company and you will have company. Things will go naturally.
I dont even try anymore but I am a younger man and the ladies are not as trustful to strike up a conversation nowadays, they are also alot more rude than they used to be. Usually just saying Hello to a random person in a big city, the first thought I have to work around is 'Is this guy talking to me some psycho that wants to kidnap me?'. Even if they trust you and are not interested they usually just have explain the reason in detail by putting you down and trying to crush you. Its just the way the world is now. But I know that in my life I have lived as my own hero and lived the depths of things, seen secrets of the world and heaven, am a hard worker and a good man and would have made them the happiest person alive but they will never know it because they didnt get to know me because they are the ones incapable of holding a conversation or looking at whats around them passed 2 inches deep so they didnt deserve it and if they are like that then they are likely boring to live with.
I dont even try anymore but I am a younger man and the ladies are not as trustful to strike up a conversation nowadays, they are also alot more rude than they used to be. Usually just saying Hello to a random person in a big city, the first thought I have to work around is 'Is this guy talking to me some psycho that wants to kidnap me?'. Even if they trust you and are not interested they usually just have explain the reason in detail by putting you down and trying to crush you. Its just the way the world is now. But I know that in my life I have lived as my own hero and lived the depths of things, seen secrets of the world and heaven, am a hard worker and a good man and would have made them the happiest person alive but they will never know it because they didnt get to know me because they are the ones incapable of holding a conversation or looking at whats around them passed 2 inches deep so they didnt deserve it and if they are like that then they are likely boring to live with.
Pray on it and God will lead the right person to you. It will take patience, confidence in yourself, and a trust in God's will. Have you been going to church? Does it offer activities you like to go to? If you need a change, you may want to look at different churches and visit them to see what they are like and what activities they offer. A new start! It's a good way to meet good people and build safe friendships.
Hi! Thanks for the response. Yes I have prayed and taken this to God. If I just wanted "a man" it would be easy. Because I am well aware of God's commands not to be sexually immoral; I don't want that route. I do want a christian spouse; I have an ideal; the type of man I believe God wants for me; however; fear keeps me alone. I believe it is my own issues that keep me stuck. I will continue to keep God's guidance.