The Bad Boy Trap

[Jullianna]

Several of the guys have posted about the bad boy thing over the years in here, but I've never seen anyone share with young ladies how to avoid falling for one. I've bumped into one or two (or 50) over the years, so I would like to share some red flags that the guy you just met might be a bad boy.

He MIGHT be a bad boy if:

1. He smiles way too much and way too big
2. He knows exactly how to flatter a lady
3. He knows how to ACT adorable even if he doesn't look it
4. He has a prop of some sort: car, hair, clothes, a guitar, is an amazing dancer and/or any combination thereof
5. How does he talk to his mom?
6. How does he talk about women in general?
7. Where do his eyes go when you are talking and another woman walks by?
8. Where do his eyes go when he's talking with YOU for the first time?
9. What are his friends like? The REEEEEEEEEALLY bad boys have few, and those they DO have are just like them.
10. He can be overly romantic.
11. He does NOT want to meet your friends because he knows they'll see right through him; he'll try to separate you from them, sometimes even your family
12. He's the jealous type because he's gauging your behavior based upon his own
13. 95% of the time he will talk about stupid or fun stuff/make you laugh; the other 5% will be devoted to one or two topics he actually THINKS he knows something about
14. He doesn't handle serious or deep conversations well at all
15. If you dare to disagree with him no matter how tactfully or nicely, he will NOT like it because HE needs to be in control at all times
16. If you DO have a disagreement, he will twist your words into something you never said
17. He'll be really good at telling you PART of the truth
18. If he thinks he has you on the string and for some reason you don't turn into a bowl of jello whenever he says something or jump at his every command, he will be very confused and become angry
19. He'll be sweet to YOU, but a jerk to other people; he'll embarrass you often by what he says and does
20. He'll expect other people to notice his moods, laugh at his jokes, be concerned about HIM, and accept whatever excuses he makes; but will cut no one else any slack
21. He buys you gifts (with strings attached)
22. He has invested a great deal of time into coming up with the smoothest of lines and delivers them flawlessly; sometimes even to the point that you might not recognize them as a line right away
23. He's moody and tempermental
24. Once he thinks he "HAS" you, he will begin to attempt to make you feel inferior or beat you down in some way so he can control you.

You can't change him. Why? Because to him you are simply a trophy. He has no respect for you, your faith or anything else that's important to you. He wants what he wants when he wants it and will do whatever he has to do to get it.

If any other ladies or gentlemen would like to share, please do.

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

Guys that are gonna play you act a lot like this as well. There the guys that are gonna date you, your sister and everyone else behind your back

 

[LightningClap0002]

Is it bad that people say I do at least half of those things????

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

yes...........

 

[LightningClap0002]

Or maybe half of them are signs of a real good man.

Seriously, though. A lot of those things, if not combined with certain other things, are actually signs of really good things. It's because they aren't genuine that they are bad. Unfortunately figuring out how genuine someone is can be quite a trick. The "better" the player, the "better" his game... But he never will be genuine.

 

[zeroturbulence]

Several of the guys have posted about the bad boy thing over the years in here, but I've never seen anyone share with young ladies how to avoid falling for one. I've bumped into one or two (or 50) over the years, so I would like to share some red flags that the guy you just met might be a bad boy.

He MIGHT be a bad boy if:

1. He smiles way too much and way too big
2. He knows exactly how to flatter a lady
3. He knows how to ACT adorable even if he doesn't look it
4. He has a prop of some sort: car, hair, clothes, a guitar, is an amazing dancer and/or any combination thereof
5. How does he talk to his mom?
6. How does he talk about women in general?
7. Where do his eyes go when you are talking and another woman walks by?
8. Where do his eyes go when he's talking with YOU for the first time?
9. What are his friends like? The REEEEEEEEEALLY bad boys have few, and those they DO have are just like them.
10. He can be overly romantic.
11. He does NOT want to meet your friends because he knows they'll see right through him; he'll try to separate you from them, sometimes even your family
12. He's the jealous type because he's gauging your behavior based upon his own
13. 95% of the time he will talk about stupid or fun stuff/make you laugh; the other 5% will be devoted to one or two topics he actually THINKS he knows something about
14. He doesn't handle serious or deep conversations well at all
15. If you dare to disagree with him no matter how tactfully or nicely, he will NOT like it because HE needs to be in control at all times
16. If you DO have a disagreement, he will twist your words into something you never said
17. He'll be really good at telling you PART of the truth
18. If he thinks he has you on the string and for some reason you don't turn into a bowl of jello whenever he says something or jump at his every command, he will be very confused and become angry
19. He'll be sweet to YOU, but a jerk to other people; he'll embarrass you often by what he says and does
20. He'll expect other people to notice his moods, laugh at his jokes, be concerned about HIM, and accept whatever excuses he makes; but will cut no one else any slack
21. He buys you gifts (with strings attached)
22. He has invested a great deal of time into coming up with the smoothest of lines and delivers them flawlessly; sometimes even to the point that you might not recognize them as a line right away
23. He's moody and tempermental
24. Once he thinks he "HAS" you, he will begin to attempt to make you feel inferior or beat you down in some way so he can control you.

You can't change him. Why? Because to him you are simply a trophy. He has no respect for you, your faith or anything else that's important to you. He wants what he wants when he wants it and will do whatever he has to do to get it.

If any other ladies or gentlemen would like to share, please do.

You just forgot one thing, Jullianna... women find him very attractive.

 

[Oncefallen]

Several of the guys have posted about the bad boy thing over the years in here, but I've never seen anyone share with young ladies how to avoid falling for one. I've bumped into one or two (or 50) over the years, so I would like to share some red flags that the guy you just met might be a bad boy.

He MIGHT be a bad boy if:

1. He smiles way too much and way too big
2. He knows exactly how to flatter a lady
3. He knows how to ACT adorable even if he doesn't look it
4. He has a prop of some sort: car, hair, clothes, a guitar, is an amazing dancer and/or any combination thereof
5. How does he talk to his mom?
6. How does he talk about women in general?
7. Where do his eyes go when you are talking and another woman walks by?
8. Where do his eyes go when he's talking with YOU for the first time?
9. What are his friends like? The REEEEEEEEEALLY bad boys have few, and those they DO have are just like them.
10. He can be overly romantic.
11. He does NOT want to meet your friends because he knows they'll see right through him; he'll try to separate you from them, sometimes even your family
12. He's the jealous type because he's gauging your behavior based upon his own
13. 95% of the time he will talk about stupid or fun stuff/make you laugh; the other 5% will be devoted to one or two topics he actually THINKS he knows something about
14. He doesn't handle serious or deep conversations well at all
15. If you dare to disagree with him no matter how tactfully or nicely, he will NOT like it because HE needs to be in control at all times
16. If you DO have a disagreement, he will twist your words into something you never said
17. He'll be really good at telling you PART of the truth
18. If he thinks he has you on the string and for some reason you don't turn into a bowl of jello whenever he says something or jump at his every command, he will be very confused and become angry
19. He'll be sweet to YOU, but a jerk to other people; he'll embarrass you often by what he says and does
20. He'll expect other people to notice his moods, laugh at his jokes, be concerned about HIM, and accept whatever excuses he makes; but will cut no one else any slack
21. He buys you gifts (with strings attached)
22. He has invested a great deal of time into coming up with the smoothest of lines and delivers them flawlessly; sometimes even to the point that you might not recognize them as a line right away
23. He's moody and tempermental
24. Once he thinks he "HAS" you, he will begin to attempt to make you feel inferior or beat you down in some way so he can control you.

You can't change him. Why? Because to him you are simply a trophy. He has no respect for you, your faith or anything else that's important to you. He wants what he wants when he wants it and will do whatever he has to do to get it.

If any other ladies or gentlemen would like to share, please do.

At least Jullianna clarified her list with the word MIGHT be, since some of those traits are not necessarily bad in and of themselves, but when in combination with several others can be a warning.

As for myself I'm a hopeless romantic, and can be very complimentary of women, especially those who I am involved with romantically. By themselves it's not a bad thing, but couple them with a man who is generally disrespectful of women the red flags should be flying high.

I have found that however a person treats and speaks of their parent of the opposite sex is a good indicator as to how they will treat and speak of their spouse.

 

[wanting2believe]

XD girls will never say no to them tho.. Ive met quite a few girls that been honest and say thats the guys they like... but still end up heartbroken still go back cuz they know a few good guys.. but they find them boring.. but still good list.

 

[JimJimmers]

The only thing I'd like to add is that a lot of these things apply to "That Woman" as well. It's not just girls who can go down the wrong road with the opposite sex.

 

[GreenNnice]

25. He will NOT bring up God the very first time you meet him if he is a bad boy.
* Note: YOU can not bring up God either. He MUST let you know on his own cognizance. And, believe you me, IF you bring up God, a 'bad boy' will hook you so quick with sweetly agreeing, you will be hooked. Line. Sinker. The Lord leads, but, a bad boy can quickly turn a negative against him positive.
That's why he's a playyah.
And, sure, I'm not saying God can't have you discern God''s telling you this guy is still OK, for God can, I'm just like your dad who is going to bring you the reddest of warnings because he knows one slip could get you in bad trouble, potentially, not just changing your life but destroying it.

Over-protective, green, you think? Perhaps. I just care you pick the right boy, and, I do know in a thread I did asking in a OP with a poll, 'At what point do you tell a girl you're a believer the very FIRST TIME you meet her?'

A. 2 Minutes .
B. 5 Minutes
C. 10 Minutes
D. Never tell girl I'm a christian when I first meet her, at library, in grocery line, at beach, at LA Fitness, etc.

Around 15-20 guys voted in the poll, and, the thread lasted a good week of replies, if I rembember right,, and, there was 1 'never' vote, and, I know I asked guy to step forward who voted that way and they did, saying they understood the question wrong, and wanted to change it to A, B, or, C. Also, this guy's vote came, pretty certain, after there were no 'never' votes up to that point, and, this was a week into the thread.

Just saying to be careful , scripture 1 Peter 5:7 says, 'Cast all your cares on Him (God), for He cares for you.' I think, that God will treat you greatly IF you think of this 25th reason of julieannie's exhaustive, dead-on 'bad guy' warning signs list as your 1st reason for giving guy a chance or not.

Miladies, miladies, miladies, you do not want a guy who does not just HAVE God first but who does NOT mention God first, you CAN pray about guy's not telling you this but unless the guy miraculously justifies himself for not mentioning Christ 1st in life at end of this first chance encounter, fleeeeeeeeeee!!!! And, as much as you may KNOW you like the guy, turn yourself 180° and, run, and, unlike Lot's wife who didn't heed God''s warning and turned around and became a pillar of salt, don't you dare look back !

 

[zeroturbulence]

Several of the guys have posted about the bad boy thing over the years in here, but I've never seen anyone share with young ladies how to avoid falling for one. I've bumped into one or two (or 50) over the years, so I would like to share some red flags that the guy you just met might be a bad boy.

He MIGHT be a bad boy if:

1. He smiles way too much and way too big
2. He knows exactly how to flatter a lady
3. He knows how to ACT adorable even if he doesn't look it
4. He has a prop of some sort: car, hair, clothes, a guitar, is an amazing dancer and/or any combination thereof
5. How does he talk to his mom?
6. How does he talk about women in general?
7. Where do his eyes go when you are talking and another woman walks by?
8. Where do his eyes go when he's talking with YOU for the first time?
9. What are his friends like? The REEEEEEEEEALLY bad boys have few, and those they DO have are just like them.
10. He can be overly romantic.
11. He does NOT want to meet your friends because he knows they'll see right through him; he'll try to separate you from them, sometimes even your family
12. He's the jealous type because he's gauging your behavior based upon his own
13. 95% of the time he will talk about stupid or fun stuff/make you laugh; the other 5% will be devoted to one or two topics he actually THINKS he knows something about
14. He doesn't handle serious or deep conversations well at all
15. If you dare to disagree with him no matter how tactfully or nicely, he will NOT like it because HE needs to be in control at all times
16. If you DO have a disagreement, he will twist your words into something you never said
17. He'll be really good at telling you PART of the truth
18. If he thinks he has you on the string and for some reason you don't turn into a bowl of jello whenever he says something or jump at his every command, he will be very confused and become angry
19. He'll be sweet to YOU, but a jerk to other people; he'll embarrass you often by what he says and does
20. He'll expect other people to notice his moods, laugh at his jokes, be concerned about HIM, and accept whatever excuses he makes; but will cut no one else any slack
21. He buys you gifts (with strings attached)
22. He has invested a great deal of time into coming up with the smoothest of lines and delivers them flawlessly; sometimes even to the point that you might not recognize them as a line right away
23. He's moody and tempermental
24. Once he thinks he "HAS" you, he will begin to attempt to make you feel inferior or beat you down in some way so he can control you.

You can't change him. Why? Because to him you are simply a trophy. He has no respect for you, your faith or anything else that's important to you. He wants what he wants when he wants it and will do whatever he has to do to get it.

If any other ladies or gentlemen would like to share, please do.

I used to have a friend who was a lot like this. He was an amateur bodybuilder and almost every woman he met wanted his phone number. He had this wavy blonde mane sort of like the tron guy in avengers and he had a powerful build. He rode a motorcycle and drove a mustang (sorry Jullianna) and almost every girl I knew would tell ME that they thought he was cute (the word 'hot' was not yet around) .

He's the guy that first got me interested in bodybuilding (to lose weight) although I don't look anything like a bodybuilder. He had little respect for women though. I knew he was sleeping with more than one at a time and at that time in my life I actually envied him for that. I envied him a lot actually. It took me awhile to finally see that he was just really conceited. It turned out that he was making fun of me behind my back. That's when I decided to drop him as a friend. He did help me get a job once though. I have to give him credit for that.

 

[iraasuup]

Several of the guys have posted about the bad boy thing over the years in here, but I've never seen anyone share with young ladies how to avoid falling for one. I've bumped into one or two (or 50) over the years, so I would like to share some red flags that the guy you just met might be a bad boy.

He MIGHT be a bad boy if:

1. He smiles way too much and way too big
2. He knows exactly how to flatter a lady
3. He knows how to ACT adorable even if he doesn't look it
4. He has a prop of some sort: car, hair, clothes, a guitar, is an amazing dancer and/or any combination thereof
5. How does he talk to his mom?
6. How does he talk about women in general?
7. Where do his eyes go when you are talking and another woman walks by?
8. Where do his eyes go when he's talking with YOU for the first time?
9. What are his friends like? The REEEEEEEEEALLY bad boys have few, and those they DO have are just like them.
10. He can be overly romantic.
11. He does NOT want to meet your friends because he knows they'll see right through him; he'll try to separate you from them, sometimes even your family
12. He's the jealous type because he's gauging your behavior based upon his own
13. 95% of the time he will talk about stupid or fun stuff/make you laugh; the other 5% will be devoted to one or two topics he actually THINKS he knows something about
14. He doesn't handle serious or deep conversations well at all
15. If you dare to disagree with him no matter how tactfully or nicely, he will NOT like it because HE needs to be in control at all times
16. If you DO have a disagreement, he will twist your words into something you never said
17. He'll be really good at telling you PART of the truth
18. If he thinks he has you on the string and for some reason you don't turn into a bowl of jello whenever he says something or jump at his every command, he will be very confused and become angry
19. He'll be sweet to YOU, but a jerk to other people; he'll embarrass you often by what he says and does
20. He'll expect other people to notice his moods, laugh at his jokes, be concerned about HIM, and accept whatever excuses he makes; but will cut no one else any slack
21. He buys you gifts (with strings attached)
22. He has invested a great deal of time into coming up with the smoothest of lines and delivers them flawlessly; sometimes even to the point that you might not recognize them as a line right away
23. He's moody and tempermental
24. Once he thinks he "HAS" you, he will begin to attempt to make you feel inferior or beat you down in some way so he can control you.

You can't change him. Why? Because to him you are simply a trophy. He has no respect for you, your faith or anything else that's important to you. He wants what he wants when he wants it and will do whatever he has to do to get it.

If any other ladies or gentlemen would like to share, please do.

*GASP*... did you just do a personality analysis of my ex? Are you writing his biography or something? Creepy stuff.

Although he wasn't a bad boy as such. He meets many of the above criteria but not all of them. I have never been attracted to the 'bad boy' type. He definitely wasn't what I'd deem a 'bad boy'..I'm thinking more along the lines of heartless Jerk.. but similar attributes all the same.

 

[Ugly]

Other things to look for, one of which i'll elaborate on someone elses comment. Women are attracted to him. Some of these men will study body language techniques. They know how to stand, walk, place hands, etc to increase a sense of connect, attraction, compatibility, etc.. There are books out there written specifically for this for men. So if you find a lot of women tend to always be eyeballing him, especially if hes not amazing looking, then it could be he's putting out those signals.

Also, this one should be obvious, but somehow, it doesn't seem to be as so many women fall for it, even Christian. He wants to get in your pants. Hes relentless. He does and says whatever he can, including guilt. 'If you loved me we'd have done it already'. 'Come on whats the big deal?'. 'Ok, we won't go all the way, we'll just touch and play'. 'There's nothing in the bible that says oral sex is wrong'. etc etc
I'd like to note that there is a difference between a lapse of judgment and a goal of bedding you. If you 'get caught up in a moment' and maybe got a little far don't assume thats the same. We can all make mistakes. Its not the guy that got carried away one time that is a problem, its the guy that makes you a goal.

 

[ashlaa]

Sigh, I just absolutely agree with everything in this post Julianna. I'm reluctant to say that ALL the 'men' I've dated have exactly every single bad quality listed. Somehow I wish I had been some what enlightened beforehand about how foolish I was being and it would've been easy to avoid all the heart-ache and drama.

I do take responsibility though in my lack of good decision making and being a slave to my flesh. Although it's all been a learning experience for me, I realize that the more I mature in the Lord, the more I'm able to clearly see now the difference between, A man of God and A man of Himself.

I pray that a lot of the younger girls on this site actually stumble upon this post and are encouraged when it comes to being careful in dating and whom they choose to date. Lord knows that in this day in society with such heavy bad influences and expectations on dating and sex, they need to be aware.

 

[Liamson]

Several of the guys have posted about the bad boy thing over the years in here, but I've never seen anyone share with young ladies how to avoid falling for one. I've bumped into one or two (or 50) over the years, so I would like to share some red flags that the guy you just met might be a bad boy.

He MIGHT be a bad boy if:

1. He smiles way too much and way too big
2. He knows exactly how to flatter a lady
3. He knows how to ACT adorable even if he doesn't look it
4. He has a prop of some sort: car, hair, clothes, a guitar, is an amazing dancer and/or any combination thereof
5. How does he talk to his mom?
6. How does he talk about women in general?
7. Where do his eyes go when you are talking and another woman walks by?
8. Where do his eyes go when he's talking with YOU for the first time?
9. What are his friends like? The REEEEEEEEEALLY bad boys have few, and those they DO have are just like them.
10. He can be overly romantic.
11. He does NOT want to meet your friends because he knows they'll see right through him; he'll try to separate you from them, sometimes even your family
12. He's the jealous type because he's gauging your behavior based upon his own
13. 95% of the time he will talk about stupid or fun stuff/make you laugh; the other 5% will be devoted to one or two topics he actually THINKS he knows something about
14. He doesn't handle serious or deep conversations well at all
15. If you dare to disagree with him no matter how tactfully or nicely, he will NOT like it because HE needs to be in control at all times
16. If you DO have a disagreement, he will twist your words into something you never said
17. He'll be really good at telling you PART of the truth
18. If he thinks he has you on the string and for some reason you don't turn into a bowl of jello whenever he says something or jump at his every command, he will be very confused and become angry
19. He'll be sweet to YOU, but a jerk to other people; he'll embarrass you often by what he says and does
20. He'll expect other people to notice his moods, laugh at his jokes, be concerned about HIM, and accept whatever excuses he makes; but will cut no one else any slack
21. He buys you gifts (with strings attached)
22. He has invested a great deal of time into coming up with the smoothest of lines and delivers them flawlessly; sometimes even to the point that you might not recognize them as a line right away
23. He's moody and tempermental
24. Once he thinks he "HAS" you, he will begin to attempt to make you feel inferior or beat you down in some way so he can control you.

You can't change him. Why? Because to him you are simply a trophy. He has no respect for you, your faith or anything else that's important to you. He wants what he wants when he wants it and will do whatever he has to do to get it.

If any other ladies or gentlemen would like to share, please do.

I have a rule against dating anyone that I know any of my friends have dated. Because I have one friend in particular that just ruins women. AND I have one lady friend who wraps all of my guy friends around her finger and just leaves them hanging on.

Because I have a friend who is a Youth Pastor and he will systematically date every attractive girl he can find. He will come on strong and charming for about 3 weeks and then ignore them completely. He Looks the part and they think they are special but for some reason women just don't see through it. Its really frustrating for me to watch. I see the women that are with him and I think, how do you not know? Its the same song and dance every single time. Then the girl will want to go out with me because I seem like the nice alternative. Not so much, if she couldn't see through him, I don't want to be with her.

But maybe its just something we have here but, there are WOMEN who do the same thing. Whether its amazing hair or a nice car or a cool job, they have a prop too. She will flirt with everyone, there are no attentions or affections that are special. She will whine and complain that no guy is asking her out, when she is SURROUNDED by guys at all times that have at one time or another ALL asked her out. She will downplay it and say things like, "Oh he was just being silly." They all spend massive amounts of time with her alone, take her out, go to movies, buy her stuff but, she never lets any of them get too close. I think because she just likes the attention. Having all of the perks of dating without any of the commitment or exclusivity. She can do whatever she wants, whenever she wants and never have to pay for any of it.

Or I should say, THEY like the attention. There is no genuine sincerity about any of it. They do not have ONE person they want to be with, they just want whatever it is they are looking for.They will take you to the nicest places, say the sweetest things, but at the end of the day it was nothing personal, nothing special. They can't help it, they can't turn it off and I'm pretty convinced that they don't see that there is a problem.

 

[eugenius]

In my opinion, you reap the consequences of falling for these so called bad boys. You get what you deserve. If you could look past the external superficial aspects of a person, perhaps you will find something much better and will have a successful marriage. But you don't, so you get what you deserve. Keep going. Youre doing a nice job so far. Points to divorce rates and walks away.......

 

[simplyme_bekah]

me, I am so so close to God to the point that he is the first one I say good morning to and the first one I talk to and the first one I think about when I open my eyes. If a man came out within the first two minutes telling me that he is a child of God....that shows amazing character and a complete love for our God and he'd have half of my heart by letting me know that is the number one priority in his life. Real women that are more spiritual then worldly want a man that is proud & shows his love for our King. I think Christian men are HOT because of what they have inside. Bad boys have no appeal because they are selfish, self centered little boys that have to have flashy whatever to get attention that they cant get on their own because of what they lack inside. I think that Christian men are sorta the now days knights in shining armor because of who lives inside of them (holy spirit) who changes them to be more like him. If God deems this relationship I am in to not be his will and he has a hand in it ending....I will never ever date anyone but a man of God. Bad boys can totally keep themselves lol

 

[Jullianna]

Sadly, I absolutely agree that we can't let women off the hook. There are women out there that your momma should have warned you about. They are a little different than this type of guy, but they are bad news nonetheless. Maybe we'll have to make a thread about them too.

Some of the things on the list CAN be good things IF done in a GOOD way, but the bad boy doesn't do them in a GOOD way and doesn't do them for GOOD reasons.

EXAMPLE:

The good guy tells you that you look pretty today, your hair looks nice, that you have a good heart, etc.

The bad boy says: Baby, you look SMOKIN today!! or encourages you to wear clothing that you know you shouldn't or makes you uncomfortable.

I agree with Gabe and Ugly. The bad guy does this stuff because he WANTs something and he makes it very clear, very quickly what that something is or he's gone. But "if you LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE him, you will" or "It's not sin if we are in LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE" ......pleeeeeze don't buy that junk...

I had the benefit of having very protective older stepbrothers and a very observant stepdad when I was young, but I know a lot of ladies don't and someone needs to share this information with them.

Thanks to all of you who have shared more information. Who knows how many ladies will be helped by it IF they pay attention.

 

[Jullianna]

In my opinion, you reap the consequences of falling for these so called bad boys. You get what you deserve. If you could look past the external superficial aspects of a person, perhaps you will find something much better and will have a successful marriage. But you don't, so you get what you deserve. Keep going. Youre doing a nice job so far. Points to divorce rates and walks away.......

As christians, should we really want anyone to "get what they deserve"? Afterall, thanks to the work of Christ, we aren't getting what we deserve, you know? We should be gracious and merciful in turn.

The idea behind this thread is NOT to make excuses for anyone, but simply to be a tool for young ladies who have been sheltered or are naive and truly don't understand what is happening to them when a bad boy comes along. This is EXACTLY the sort of girl they are looking for. Someone who doesn't know any better...until she's pregnant and he's long gone.

This is something I want to lovingly share with younger sisters in Christ because it is the scriptural obligation of the older ladies to do so. And I deeply appreciate everyone's help with that in this thread.

 

[Liz01]

Julliana, you reminded me something, when i was young, older ppl always gave me the advice that if a man really loved me then he was going to accept to wait for me and he wont force me (emotionally) to make something that i didnt want. Like bad boys that never wait or always push too much to get what they want.

And when i was young i used to think that was a very very useless and ancient advice.

But now that im older, one of the advices that i give to young women is that one.

Sometimes is so incredible to see that the old ppl of our family or friends that really loved us were right even with those "ancient" advices lol