Chandler, I never once struck my wife. I suppose that if we just said, I am sorry we offended you enough to blow up the twin towers, the Moslems who want us dead would all change their mind and live in peace. I suppose that if Israel just gave everyone exactly what they said they wanted they would get to live in peace as well. I suppose if everyone gave Hitler what he wanted world war II wouldn't have happened. If we are all nice to evil, then good will prevail. That's what Israel believed when everyone wanted to destroy them in the O.T..
Actually, I wish I lived in the world you believe in. I worked for a couple of years as a Sherriff's officer.(Which explains why I knew that my wife would go to jail and not me.) I just wish that people would respond like Jesus did, and therefore everyone would leave us alone, just like they did Jesus. Oh wait ...
The point is this. I, never again, had to deal with the possibility of my wife hitting me. Self defense, which it would be at that point, since my warning was so clear, is not contrary to scripture. There are guys whose wives' who sneak up on their husband and beat them with bats or cast iron skillets and do so over and over again, and are afraid to leave lest their wives hunt them down. Sorry, almost all bullying ends when those doing the bullying figure out that they are going to get hurt if they do it. That's the facts, in jail, prison, on the streets ... Raise the costs so high that the behavior goes away.
I could have just put my wife in jail and pressed charges. She would have lost her job. She would have divorced me. We'd have lost our home, our cars ... Sure. No threat is involved. Perhaps I should have done it. Destroyed my life, her life, the kids life, only spent time with them every other week. Perhaps that would have been the better solution. I don't think so. Maybe you do. I got it done with a hole in the wall, and a promise that whatever she dished out, she would pay a price she never ever wanted to pay.
Sorry, the price of passivism, and just getting someone else involved to end the problem, like the Police, was just too much to pay when a little drywall and paint did the same job.