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It's hard to say really. For example, though I do believe people can change, don't try to make your loved ones into someone they're not. Sometimes people expect you to be different than you are (not in the easily changeable ways, but by nature or deepy ingrained habits/beliefs).
We just have to be open, honest, and okay with really accepting someone for who they are, and not just who they could (or we want them to) be.
Apart from that, I'm sure their are a few more. Like how some women almost expect a guy to be like another woman. Seriously, we're not supposed to be. We're Men.
On that note, some girls think they want prince charming, but call many of the acts/principles of chivalry, chauvinism. You can't literally have both. Either be okay with a guy treating you somewhat in the typical 'woman' model, or don't. Many things in life aren't customizable, lol.
I'll try to think of some more, but that's a start anyway. I think the typical 'be great looking, successful, sensitive, good at everything, and perfect' expectations everyone has are obviously unrealistic. The same goes for the intense romanticism that oversweeps our country. There are just a lot of lofty expectations sometimes....
We just have to be open, honest, and okay with really accepting someone for who they are, and not just who they could (or we want them to) be.
Apart from that, I'm sure their are a few more. Like how some women almost expect a guy to be like another woman. Seriously, we're not supposed to be. We're Men.
On that note, some girls think they want prince charming, but call many of the acts/principles of chivalry, chauvinism. You can't literally have both. Either be okay with a guy treating you somewhat in the typical 'woman' model, or don't. Many things in life aren't customizable, lol.
I'll try to think of some more, but that's a start anyway. I think the typical 'be great looking, successful, sensitive, good at everything, and perfect' expectations everyone has are obviously unrealistic. The same goes for the intense romanticism that oversweeps our country. There are just a lot of lofty expectations sometimes....
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Well, you know the problem with modern day expectations.
Everyone wants a perfect counterpart.
This is unrealistic. Because it supposes we are perfect (as we are) while
we are searching.
God isn't finished with us yet.
The worst part of it IS the expectations.
Like are they good enough. - - - - Well if they aren't then we aren't happy......
and if they are then they aren't happy.
We mustn't sum each other up like commodities, ...........to be bought and sold
like stock market ventures.
Wait for Jacob to show up, .... or Rachel. - (God chooses better than us.)
Everyone wants a perfect counterpart.
This is unrealistic. Because it supposes we are perfect (as we are) while
we are searching.
God isn't finished with us yet.
The worst part of it IS the expectations.
Like are they good enough. - - - - Well if they aren't then we aren't happy......
and if they are then they aren't happy.
We mustn't sum each other up like commodities, ...........to be bought and sold
like stock market ventures.
Wait for Jacob to show up, .... or Rachel. - (God chooses better than us.)
H
If I'm going to be honest, I haven't encountered a guy who has higher expectations of me than I do of myself, which can freak some people out. There's no one else who puts more pressure on me to try to do it all, or do everything right ...I'm the one guilty of having unrealistic expectations of men, rather than the other way around which was definitely evident in my past dating choices.
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I suppose I'm kind of like this too...but I try to live up to the same standards, for the most part, that I hold for anyone I would date as well. Which is why I got from this post. lol Though, I don't know of any that are unrealistic. :/
As long as he can come along side me to fight off zombies during the zombie apocalypse, we'll be good.
As long as he can come along side me to fight off zombies during the zombie apocalypse, we'll be good.
J
I appreciate those who've shared. I've heard people of both genders complain about members of the other expecting them to be mindreaders and thought this might be an opportunity to share some things that might not occur to us. I learned quite a bit from something Ugly posted recently and thought other people might have something to share as well, so thank you for doing so. Learning from one another is one of the benefits of this forum..or at least it has been for me.
Learning from one another is one of the benefits of this forum..or at least it has been for me.
R
I've only ever dated one person, and he's never expected more from me than I can give.
And I don't expect more from him than he can give.
Our personality quirks have so far been compatible.
We're both sensitive people, so it's like our unspoken agreement that we'll be each other's break from the daily criticisms of the world.
And I don't expect more from him than he can give.
Our personality quirks have so far been compatible.
We're both sensitive people, so it's like our unspoken agreement that we'll be each other's break from the daily criticisms of the world.