What Do You Do When People Want To Take Advantage of You Because You're Single?
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I'm pretty sure Lynx didn't mean any offense.
Something really important to keep in mind is that everyone here says, "FIND A GOOD, SOLID CHRISTIAN!!"
But if the guys who say they're Christian are saying things like, "Hold that beautiful body against me, baby... and be sure to take advantage of mine!" they don't sound any different from guys who are not Christians. And brushing it off with an, "Oh, just kidding there, Sweetheart! Have a sense of humor!" doesn't cut it. At least not for me.
That's why I often have a problem in that I've frequently been attracted to "worldly" guys, because although the guy I was formerly married to wasn't a Christian, he didn't make those kind of remarks. He had two sisters and was vehemently protective of them. And unlike the guys who went to my Christian high school, he didn't give himself away.
I know this is "wrong", but I'm much more attracted to non-Christian guys who don't "joke" like this over a Christian one who does. *shrugs*
It might be just me though. Syd, I know you have a good heart and I'm not meaning to go overboard with this at all. But I did think it was an important point. As I said, this is why I'm single. When I hear men "joking" like this, I'm definitely not interested. And if they happen to say things like this on a date, they'll most definitely never hear from me again.
It's not that I'm "all that" or anything--I'm certainly not!! But... when a guy says that and looks straight at me, I feel pretty uncomfortable.
Something really important to keep in mind is that everyone here says, "FIND A GOOD, SOLID CHRISTIAN!!"
But if the guys who say they're Christian are saying things like, "Hold that beautiful body against me, baby... and be sure to take advantage of mine!" they don't sound any different from guys who are not Christians. And brushing it off with an, "Oh, just kidding there, Sweetheart! Have a sense of humor!" doesn't cut it. At least not for me.
That's why I often have a problem in that I've frequently been attracted to "worldly" guys, because although the guy I was formerly married to wasn't a Christian, he didn't make those kind of remarks. He had two sisters and was vehemently protective of them. And unlike the guys who went to my Christian high school, he didn't give himself away.
I know this is "wrong", but I'm much more attracted to non-Christian guys who don't "joke" like this over a Christian one who does. *shrugs*
It might be just me though. Syd, I know you have a good heart and I'm not meaning to go overboard with this at all. But I did think it was an important point. As I said, this is why I'm single. When I hear men "joking" like this, I'm definitely not interested. And if they happen to say things like this on a date, they'll most definitely never hear from me again.
It's not that I'm "all that" or anything--I'm certainly not!! But... when a guy says that and looks straight at me, I feel pretty uncomfortable.
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Yeah, IF that was said that's pretty offensive.
What's also offensive is completely changing someone's words,
which changes their meaning and intent, and then accusing
someone of saying and meaning what they didn't.
That's just perverted, and very un-christian.
Here's the grouchomarxism, (a light-hearted
flirty one-liner that has been used countless times
and chuckled at by many, male and female, over the years.)
--->'If I told you you had a nice body,
would you hold it against me?'<---
GET IT? Pretty funny line, right?
Here's what you wrote, as quoted in your post,
completely changing the words,
and twisting the intent, and meaning:
--->Hold that beautiful body against me, baby... and be sure to take advantage of mine!"<---
Seoul, sorrybut with all due respect, that's just sick,
and very dishonest. And to accuse someone,
or even imply that THAT was what they said,
is a very sad thing to do to someone,
very dishonest, and very 'un-christian'.
And it's a shame, because it's the 'holidays',
a time for good cheer and friendly banter,
and groucho-isms and the like often bring a smile,
a rolling of the eyes and a chuckle
.
I, like many, welcome that kind of humor,
But what YOU said, seoul, was rather sick and offensive.
In 2016, I really hope we can grow closer
together in good-natured understanding,
not further apart in bitter misunderstandings.
Jesus loves you, and I mean that!
What's also offensive is completely changing someone's words,
which changes their meaning and intent, and then accusing
someone of saying and meaning what they didn't.
That's just perverted, and very un-christian.
Here's the grouchomarxism, (a light-hearted
flirty one-liner that has been used countless times
and chuckled at by many, male and female, over the years.)
--->'If I told you you had a nice body,
would you hold it against me?'<---
GET IT? Pretty funny line, right?
Here's what you wrote, as quoted in your post,
completely changing the words,
and twisting the intent, and meaning:
--->Hold that beautiful body against me, baby... and be sure to take advantage of mine!"<---
Seoul, sorrybut with all due respect, that's just sick,
and very dishonest. And to accuse someone,
or even imply that THAT was what they said,
is a very sad thing to do to someone,
very dishonest, and very 'un-christian'.
And it's a shame, because it's the 'holidays',
a time for good cheer and friendly banter,
and groucho-isms and the like often bring a smile,
a rolling of the eyes and a chuckle
.I, like many, welcome that kind of humor,
But what YOU said, seoul, was rather sick and offensive.
In 2016, I really hope we can grow closer
together in good-natured understanding,
not further apart in bitter misunderstandings.
Jesus loves you, and I mean that!
Yeah, I get that tourist.
I have only email messaged one friend here first and it was simply out of concern, nothing more.
I rarely, if ever, PM a girl in the chat rooms first either.
For Blondie to Google up scriptures and post about a naughty person, a wicked man, who walks with a fraudulent mouth and being wicked and perverse, well, that's just not acceptable.
I have never once wrote anything negative about anyone here on this site for others to read.
And Seoul, it's okay if you didn't think my post was cute, playful, or funny.
If you didn't like that, just pass it over and I'm sorry you found it offensive.
I'm not like the other men you know though so please don't cluster me in with them.
If you want to judge me, get to know me first please.
I'm completely harmless.
I have only email messaged one friend here first and it was simply out of concern, nothing more.
I rarely, if ever, PM a girl in the chat rooms first either.
For Blondie to Google up scriptures and post about a naughty person, a wicked man, who walks with a fraudulent mouth and being wicked and perverse, well, that's just not acceptable.
I have never once wrote anything negative about anyone here on this site for others to read.
And Seoul, it's okay if you didn't think my post was cute, playful, or funny.
If you didn't like that, just pass it over and I'm sorry you found it offensive.
I'm not like the other men you know though so please don't cluster me in with them.
If you want to judge me, get to know me first please.
I'm completely harmless.
Yeah, IF that was said that's pretty offensive.
What's also offensive is completely changing someone's words,
which changes their meaning and intent, and then accusing
someone of saying and meaning what they didn't.
That's just perverted, and very un-christian.
Here's the grouchomarxism, (a light-hearted
flirty one-liner that has been used countless times
and chuckled at by many, male and female, over the years.)
--->'If I told you you had a nice body,
would you hold it against me?'<---
GET IT? Pretty funny line, right?
Here's what you wrote, as quoted in your post,
completely changing the words,
and twisting the intent, and meaning:
--->Hold that beautiful body against me, baby... and be sure to take advantage of mine!"<---
Seoul, sorrybut with all due respect, that's just sick,
and very dishonest. And to accuse someone,
or even imply that THAT was what they said,
is a very sad thing to do to someone,
very dishonest, and very 'un-christian'.
And it's a shame, because it's the 'holidays',
a time for good cheer and friendly banter,
and groucho-isms and the like often bring a smile,
a rolling of the eyes and a chuckle .
I, like many, welcome that kind of humor,
But what YOU said, seoul, was rather sick and offensive.
In 2016, I really hope we can grow closer
together in good-natured understanding,
not further apart in bitter misunderstandings.
Jesus loves you, and I mean that!
What's also offensive is completely changing someone's words,
which changes their meaning and intent, and then accusing
someone of saying and meaning what they didn't.
That's just perverted, and very un-christian.
Here's the grouchomarxism, (a light-hearted
flirty one-liner that has been used countless times
and chuckled at by many, male and female, over the years.)
--->'If I told you you had a nice body,
would you hold it against me?'<---
GET IT? Pretty funny line, right?
Here's what you wrote, as quoted in your post,
completely changing the words,
and twisting the intent, and meaning:
--->Hold that beautiful body against me, baby... and be sure to take advantage of mine!"<---
Seoul, sorrybut with all due respect, that's just sick,
and very dishonest. And to accuse someone,
or even imply that THAT was what they said,
is a very sad thing to do to someone,
very dishonest, and very 'un-christian'.
And it's a shame, because it's the 'holidays',
a time for good cheer and friendly banter,
and groucho-isms and the like often bring a smile,
a rolling of the eyes and a chuckle
.I, like many, welcome that kind of humor,
But what YOU said, seoul, was rather sick and offensive.
In 2016, I really hope we can grow closer
together in good-natured understanding,
not further apart in bitter misunderstandings.
Jesus loves you, and I mean that!
Addison, I'm not judging you (or Syd.) I simply stated why I don't agree with the comments made. I didn't say anything in judgment of those who said them.
There will always be different opinions and differing points of view.
Clearly, we know what ours are, and will carry on.
J
I've been taken advantage of plenty by "friends" and coworkers/friends, even leaders at work when I was single. And I've learned greatly from it. Last time was when I was going to the church I went to last year. I just consider it "wisdom in life". Not something my parents taught me, had to learn it the hard way, and it was hard.
This is why I keep few friends, just real good ones. Unfortunately one is married to an unbeliever. My best friend is going steady with someone whose attitude is totally distasteful. I went to a gathering in our Car Club for a Christmas party. I will never hang out with her again. She knows what I've been through with women and so does my other friend's wife (the gal who is not Christian.) She treats him terribly (!), but she knows he's stuck. They have a daughter, and he can't get custody til 11 in our state. (I was in this spot years earlier). so I understand. It will be even tougher in the county he lives in though. Like night and day.
This world can be a very cruel place when you're stuck with an evil partner, esp. when their friends kick in some power. So I'm just very picky what situations I get into. When I go somewhere with them, I make sure my car is around so I can leave when the situation gets deep for me.
I consider myself a MGTOW right now. It will allow me to do what I want in life, until I'm ready to be yoked with a love. I love women, but the power they yield in the world, and the game scares me no end. Staying emotionally strong and safe, while learning wisdom online about women and dating, as well as the virtues of true Manliness are my hope for the future.
This is why I keep few friends, just real good ones. Unfortunately one is married to an unbeliever. My best friend is going steady with someone whose attitude is totally distasteful. I went to a gathering in our Car Club for a Christmas party. I will never hang out with her again. She knows what I've been through with women and so does my other friend's wife (the gal who is not Christian.) She treats him terribly (!), but she knows he's stuck. They have a daughter, and he can't get custody til 11 in our state. (I was in this spot years earlier). so I understand. It will be even tougher in the county he lives in though. Like night and day.
This world can be a very cruel place when you're stuck with an evil partner, esp. when their friends kick in some power. So I'm just very picky what situations I get into. When I go somewhere with them, I make sure my car is around so I can leave when the situation gets deep for me.
I consider myself a MGTOW right now. It will allow me to do what I want in life, until I'm ready to be yoked with a love. I love women, but the power they yield in the world, and the game scares me no end. Staying emotionally strong and safe, while learning wisdom online about women and dating, as well as the virtues of true Manliness are my hope for the future.
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Depending on the request I usually just comply. I perceive most people that ask requests of me are sincere. Though if I feel they are trying to take advantage of or manipulate me there's always the Don Corleone card I keep up my sleeve.
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I just got back from my lunch hour and on my way in, overheard 2 other guys, one who just got back from paternity leave, griping in an elevator that all the single people could take off work to "do whatever they want" while they were "tied down to their families".
reminded me of this thread.
I didn't have sympathy. Now I'm the smug one.
reminded me of this thread.
I didn't have sympathy. Now I'm the smug one.
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The single girl having to stay back and watch their kids is messed up lol
This has never happened to me, but with my personality, I'd probably just tell them off tbh. People are responsible for their own stuff. If they want something done, then they should do it themselves.
This has never happened to me, but with my personality, I'd probably just tell them off tbh. People are responsible for their own stuff. If they want something done, then they should do it themselves.
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If you are a single woman in a church/group function/anywhere in life you are automatically the babysitter! Because apparently being single means you're somehow fully capable of looking after children?
But to be honest I do love playing with kids and passing them off to their parents when they crap themselves.
But to be honest I do love playing with kids and passing them off to their parents when they crap themselves.