I was outside one evening just talking to God.. I asked Him to show me what a healthy relation ship looked like.. He showed me my relationship with Him first... My trust in him, my dependence in Him, my confidence in Him, my hope in Him,.. I then saw a man and a woman standing with equal value before Him... The man stood before God and the woman stood as a supporting role helping the man keep His focus on God.. Both had their focus in God... When the mam turned to the woman , the image of Jesus reflected out of Him to Her.. And the woman having her focus on God reflected the same image back to Him when she looked at Him... God is always the same... If both people have their focus on God.. They do as Jesus does .. And meet the needs of one another as Christ does for us.. I was then shown a few other things.. I saw a man and a woman each holding a basket.. Each one handing the other their emotions to manage.. The baskets got to heavy and neither could manage holding the weight of what the other had put in the other persons basket...god wants the first of everything .. He put emotions in us to relate to Him... He has also put emotions in us to act like a built in alarm system when we have strayed away from Him...
Anger- an alarm that goes off when we Are buying into a lie that we do not have to release forgiveness or mercy.. There is a blockage in ourselves when we are not doing this.. What kind of mercy and forgiveness has God shown us? Have any of us gotten what we deserve or has our heavenly father released mercy and forgiveness to us? even when we reject Him he is loving and kind.. God never changes , we do .
Loneliness - another alarm that goes off when we are buying into a lie that someone or something can love us more than God does.. Lonliness is an alarm to remind us.. " am I spending enough time with the Lord".
Stress and anxiety- an alarm that goes off when we are buying into a lie we can handle anything without Gods Help.
His word tells us "you can do nothing without me" but with me you can do anything..
Fear- an alarm that goes off when we are buying into a lie that someone or something is in more control than God is...
We must be secure in our relationship with God first before thinking He will allow anyone or anything to give us that.. When we are secure in Him.. He is then able to work in and through us to celebrate and find satisfaction in doing what pleases our partner.. Otherwise , we become like leeches... We hold our partner accountable .. We go to our partner with "expectations" of "i need" instead of "what need can i meet for you today?". instead of going to my partner first, I must first go to God He can manage my emotions better than anyone and he can handle them.. If I care for my partner, why would I want to weigh Him down with something that wasn't created for
Him to manage in the first place and vice versa? we must first be on the lookout with our relationship with God... How can there be any blessing on what hasn't been re established in our relationship with Him first? In all areas , we must check our own life and evaluate ourselves to see if we are healthy enough to be of service to another person ... Love is an action verb... Am I looking to "get love". Or looking to "give love". If we are looking to anyone or anything other than God first to be filled with love, you can bet there will be mire withdraws from your account than deposits... what's the need in a disagreement? Is the person needing time alone with God so God can fill what I can not? What's the need? Im not focused in what I can get at this point in my life.. I am full with God and it is beginning to overflow.. It is at this point we are able to do as we should in a relationship .
Amen, putting God first seems easy to do, but its sacrifice, that is a fact, a sacrifice is,never eazy, but so worth it, borda d big by God, course God wants us to 'obey over sacrifice,'too, His power will overpower all temptation, He is the Power, even mentioned so a word in scripture in addition to our Great Hope, Mighty Counselor, Almighty God and, let's,not forget, in this war-torn worls we live in, He is our Prince Of Peace
This post had power, speaking of such, speaking of you, your av nane, kind of, pow, Isn't 'pow' a kind of power? Lol, seriously, my green brains being serious, I thought I was reading right out revelation, as to me, your vision and 'your evening just taoking with God.' Made me startnsinging, 'An-n-n-n-d-d, He walks with me, and, He talks with me, and, He tells me I am His own.'
Well said milady, the Lord,leads and right there you all said IS a wealth of wisdom packed powerfully into those many words, a good blessing (like those who read Revelation) for all who read it
I tip I always promote is this; Know your boundaries. Before you get into a relationship think about somethings like- How far is too far? Is it OK if I spend the night at his/her house if we don't do anything? If you seriously consider where you feel safe and right with God in a premarital relationship you will have an easier time saying "No" when your partner tries to push those boundaries. (And you won't trip and fall into sin while just feeling things out)
((Another tip for both boys and girls is to learn how to say NO. You like that person a lot and you'll be scared that if you don't do something they suggest or you think they might suggest that they'll leave you. If you like pleasing people in general and have trouble saying no to uncomfortable situations- get into practice. For your own safety.))
Once you get into a relationship, that first month that you are dating you need make certain both parties are clear about each others comfort zones.
I have had a lot of girl friends. The ones that have no idea what they are OK with get into abusive relationships or destroy a previously healthy one. Also, knowing your boundaries helps you decide to say know and gives you discernment for when it is time to give the person the boot. Like a friend of mine was able to get out of a relationship with a guy who did the nicest thing anyone had ever done for her then asked in return a big sexual favor.
Good advice, unsmudged, yes, setting boundaries before is good, do note, of our own free will we will fail, we need His power in us because Satan is,real and in boy-girl settings of two in aloneness you can be sure Satan will attack. But, yes, set your sights on Jesus' plan as outlined perfectly in scripture, as our Father knows perfect way for us. Ephesians 6 , know the 'full armor of God' is neededin our pre-serious relationship plans, milady.
Scripture is clear, and, this is true for guys and dolls, let your 'yes' be yes and your 'no' be 'no.'
Use God's name too, in reverent way, from the git, IF any problem's. Tell that schmuck if he gets too close, 'I am God's girl. He says 'no' to 'this' before martiage so I need you to stop. Now!.' Amazing how God enters too, when bring in His Name to the conversation. Just changes things, just does, so great. So great of power is our God
1 Cor. 7:10
The fruits of the Spirit are ; Love joy peace kindness patience and long suffering... I must first ask myself , are the fruits of the Holy Spirit in me? Because I will be tested in a relationship in all these areas . Dare I run out ahead Of God and go searching? He is Lord and the Lord has perfact timing.. Do I trust in myself to find the person just for me, or do I trust and believe God to bring Him to me? My hope and confidence is in the Lord.. My relationships have all failed because I ran out ahead of Him... Being the wonderful Father He is, He allowed
Me to do this... it took
Many times before I realized what was happening.. I ran ahead Of God like a horse with no training.. Took off without asking God a single thing or who He had planned for my life.. I listened to anything that looked good and sounded good.. Big mistake.. Once my relationship with God was restored , he revealed to me " I have you on my arm for a reason Michelle. My kingdom has many rooms , I have you in one of them for my safe keeping.. you are like a diamond in "my" treasure box..are diamonds exposed out in the open, or have I encased them for someone to find? You are rarer and more precious than these... I have you hidden for a reason.. Many are seeking an easy find, a quick score , they go after what is easy and accessible.. The mite precious the stone the
More hidden it is.. You are like a rare find.. And you are precious to me.. Do you think I would put my precious things out in the open for wolves to get? No, I protect and keep what is precious to me hidden.. Just as I did my son.. The world was looking for a king dressed up in fine clothing when He came.. they were focused on the finest horses and chariots and men with fancy speech ... but I came under radar, barely detected, and hardly recieved. A rough exterior protected my most precious stone. this is what the Holy Spirit spoke into my heart... Go seeking? I am in perfact peace waiting in the Lord..
Store up your treasures in Heaven, where rust, moth, cannot destroy.
You are treasure to, more priceless to God than any thing else
