What does 'LOVE' mean to YOU?

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niceguyJ

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Jullianna,

I'm saddened by what I read up there, but unfortunately not shocked. People are often too selfish and self absorbed to bother reaching out a hand. Yet sometimes the simplest little gestures can make a world of difference and provide so much encouragement.

A lot of people would've certainly been bitter towards that church AND God if they had been treated like your family was. People tend to blame God for the poor actions of those who claim to be His children. I'm so thankful that you are strong in God even after all of that.

This past year I've often kept coming back to "Be the change you want to see", and that's exactly the route you've taken. I'm sure it shows where you live, and it shows right here on CC too. :)
 
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Brighthouse

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Brother Liamson, many very fine examples spoken here!Most are on the right track on what love is to them.Many make love to be very complicated,some at times believe love should not be given unless deserved. I am a very simple man,life is complicated enough for all of us I think.Love is,treating others like you wish to be treated.Understanding another like you wish to be understood,and finally speaking to others just like you wish to be spoken to.

To first speak love,we must understand what love is really to us.To understand love,we must acquire knowledge.Jesus said these things "I have spoken to you so that MY joy may be in you and that your joy may be made in full". The reason for love.so verse 12 states( john 15:11-17) It was not asked to do by Jesus,it was rather commanded to do.Why a must do one may ask?

Because what many have never seen in scripture is that love covers a multitude of sins!! OUR SINS!! ( 1 Peter 4:8-16) Jesus died and rose again, so that we could know love is his very nature,and that since we follow Jesus,then love becomes our very nature as well.Thanks all!
 
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Jullianna

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That is kind of where the thread started too. I just feel like it looks different when a man is on fire and when a woman is on fire.

In a more romantic sense, I think about all the times that a woman has done something that is traditionally reserved for a man to do. There is definitely something to be said about reciprocation.

I've dated a LOT. But I've only ever had one woman deliver flowers to my work, bring me coffee, leave notes in my car for me to find, or just in general spend the day with me as I run errands. (when you work in a hospital full of women and a woman who doesn't work there gets you flowers, I think its more of a "this one is mine" thing.)

So in a sense, I think that most women are significantly less romantic. They like GETTING the attention but, when it comes to giving something in return, its as if it never occurs to them. So they might cover dinner once or twice but, its not the same as something that requires forethought and meaning.

I have no doubt in my mind that women love Children.
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Wow, sweetie, you have seriously been dating the wrong ladies. :( Some of us have sent guys poems, songs, candy, balloon bouquets, gag gifts to cheer them up, plants for their offices (cos I didn't think guys would LIKE flowers), gloves, knives, t-shirts, desk sets, cakes, cookies, magazines, sports equipment/knickknacks/apparel, pens, watches, necklaces, bracelets, cupcakes, books, colognes, stuffed animals and even a new sweater/tie/shirt that made their eyes look amazing....washed their cars, cleaned their homes, bathed their dogs, babysat their kids.... :) That's what I meant about nurturing your man, not just your kids. :)
 
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Jullianna

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niceguyJ said:
Jullianna,

I'm saddened by what I read up there, but unfortunately not shocked. People are often too selfish and self absorbed to bother reaching out a hand. Yet sometimes the simplest little gestures can make a world of difference and provide so much encouragement.

A lot of people would've certainly been bitter towards that church AND God if they had been treated like your family was. People tend to blame God for the poor actions of those who claim to be His children. I'm so thankful that you are strong in God even after all of that.

This past year I've often kept coming back to "Be the change you want to see", and that's exactly the route you've taken. I'm sure it shows where you live, and it shows right here on CC too. :)
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Okay...now you've done it. You made me cry :)
Nothing fruitful comes from bitterness ever, huh?
 
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Jullianna, I am so sorry for what I would call a bad experience with the church. It is sad when the church neglects their God ordained responsibilities to both their members and communities. It seems that as government aid programs increase, the church has just stepped away from it's responsibilities. Likewise I continue to see a growing trend of "door turners" at church, they want the benefits of the church, but not the responsibilities. The church was intended to be a tight knit community of believers who were interdependent on each other, but for many it has become a thing they do, just something to check off the weekly activities list.

I consider myself fortunate to have had a very different experience in the churches I have attended. The church I grew up in routinely would band around those in the church who needed help. I can't remember the number of times I was involved in a group of people helping someone move, or drug along when my folks when to visit someone who was in the hospital. Likewise I have been on the receiving end of this type of ministry. Thirteen years ago, right after having moved to Co Springs I spent a little time in the county jail on the other side of the state. People from the church I was attending here sent me letters, and even went to the extent of arranging for somewhere for me to stay on that side of the state when I got out when there became concern that I might not be able to return home right away.






 
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Jullianna

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If I had not grown up in the church and had not seen the works done for others by the members of my family and other churches, I might have been one of those people who assumed that all churches were like that. They most definitely are not, Oncefallen. You are correct. J I have, however, seen in most every church I’ve attended that the burden of the many is borne by the few.

I hope from the bottom of my heart that no one has the impression that my post was intended to bash the Church or some sort of pity party. We get that enough, don’t we? Individually and collectively. My sole intent is to remind us all, myself included, to keep our head up and our hearts open, because all is not always as it seems with those around us. Even the mightiest of pillars can crumble without care.
 
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niceguyJ

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Jullianna said:
Okay...now you've done it. You made me cry :)
Nothing fruitful comes from bitterness ever, huh?
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Aw. :)
Exactly!

I didn't take your post as bashing or a pity party. It's just the reality of what happened, and still happens in places. Hopefully, anyone reading would be more motivated to not let such things happen.
I found it encouraging and a great reminder. Even if the people around us forsake us, God never will.
 
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Oncefallen said:
Jullianna, I am so sorry for what I would call a bad experience with the church. It is sad when the church neglects their God ordained responsibilities to both their members and communities. It seems that as government aid programs increase, the church has just stepped away from it's responsibilities. Likewise I continue to see a growing trend of "door turners" at church, they want the benefits of the church, but not the responsibilities. The church was intended to be a tight knit community of believers who were interdependent on each other, but for many it has become a thing they do, just something to check off the weekly activities list.

I consider myself fortunate to have had a very different experience in the churches I have attended. The church I grew up in routinely would band around those in the church who needed help. I can't remember the number of times I was involved in a group of people helping someone move, or drug along when my folks when to visit someone who was in the hospital. Likewise I have been on the receiving end of this type of ministry. Thirteen years ago, right after having moved to Co Springs I spent a little time in the county jail on the other side of the state. People from the church I was attending here sent me letters, and even went to the extent of arranging for somewhere for me to stay on that side of the state when I got out when there became concern that I might not be able to return home right away.
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JAIL TIME!?!?!?!?! TELL!!! TELL!!! (listens expectantly)

Sorry, just teasing you :)

But....maybe you you and Julianna are a perfect match for each other? She likes arresting people, sooooooooo......sounds promising, right? ;).......... :D.......:p
 
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Snackersmom said:
JAIL TIME!?!?!?!?! TELL!!! TELL!!! (listens expectantly)

Sorry, just teasing you :)

But....maybe you you and Julianna are a perfect match for each other? She likes arresting people, sooooooooo......sounds promising, right? ;).......... :D.......:p
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I like snacking, does that mean.... :D...........:p ? ;)
 
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^^^^^LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!

In your dreams, Buster! :D :p ;)
 
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Okay, now to re-rail our derailment.........:D

I do think that men and women express love differently. Men are called to love their wives to the point that they would die for them, women are called to be submissive to their husbands, because they love them and respect the authority that God has given them.

I honestly think that it would weird out a guy if I told him that I would die for him, though I've never tested the theory (never tried out the flowers-at-work thing, either).

Most women seem to show their love through nurturing, encouragement, and devotion, it just seems to fit better :).
 
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YahsPrincess

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I never knew love until I met my saviour, and I pray that I will learn 2 love how He loves.
 
Oncefallen

Oncefallen

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Snackersmom said:
JAIL TIME!?!?!?!?! TELL!!! TELL!!! (listens expectantly)

Sorry, just teasing you :)

But....maybe you you and Julianna are a perfect match for each other? She likes arresting people, sooooooooo......sounds promising, right? ;).......... :D.......:p
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Listen expectantly all you want, all you'll hear is.... Simon And Garfunkel - The Sound of Silence - YouTube :D that part of my life story is reserved for those closest to me.:)

As for Jullianna and her fondness for arresting people, I found out 13 years ago that I'm not too fond of stainless bracelets. :D Besides, I heard that Jullianna kidnaps the guys she likes and locks them in her basement. :eek:
 
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