What is your biggest fear?
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Failure - I'm so worried I'll disappoint. I feel like I need to be perfect, that my worth comes from doing things right. I know in my head that this is not true, that I am loved despite my imperfections, and that Jesus did not save me because I'm good enough. But I still struggle with it.
Something happening to my child
Something happening to my child
I dislike snakes very much - but I live with that fear as long as they keep their distance.
My biggest fear is drowning - don't get me wrong I live in Florida and I know how to swim and I am not afraid of the water, but say you are in an airplane flying over water the plane goes down and now you are trapped in it and you know you are going to drown - there is the fear.
Back in 2008 a family member got married in Hawaii and the 5 1/2 hours flight over water there and back was not a fun thing for me do to but I faced my fear and did it anyway so this fear does not keep me from living life. So I guess that is a good thing.
My biggest fear is drowning - don't get me wrong I live in Florida and I know how to swim and I am not afraid of the water, but say you are in an airplane flying over water the plane goes down and now you are trapped in it and you know you are going to drown - there is the fear.
Back in 2008 a family member got married in Hawaii and the 5 1/2 hours flight over water there and back was not a fun thing for me do to but I faced my fear and did it anyway so this fear does not keep me from living life. So I guess that is a good thing.
J
My fear .. hmm. I´m afraid that I´ll never get married and have kids one day. It´s always been a dream. Something that´s always been clear to me, to get married and have kids. I don´t want to end up alone you know 
I totally get you, Zero. I have some big fears too that I wouldn't mind getting out in the open just to discuss and get some feedback but... I was part of a church for many years that always emphasized "speaking life and not death" and "calling things into being as if they already were" and unfortunately, that went for the negative things as well.
I got to a point where I felt as if you had to just stuff it down even if the cold reality was staring you in the face (for example, a medical diagnosis... They would advise not to speak about your condition but to praise God you were healed), and it's left me feeling as if I talk about fears, they're all the more likely to come true, and soon.
I got to a point where I felt as if you had to just stuff it down even if the cold reality was staring you in the face (for example, a medical diagnosis... They would advise not to speak about your condition but to praise God you were healed), and it's left me feeling as if I talk about fears, they're all the more likely to come true, and soon.
My fear .. hmm. I´m afraid that I´ll never get married and have kids one day. It´s always been a dream. Something that´s always been clear to me, to get married and have kids. I don´t want to end up alone you know
25 was a long time ago. I'm 40 now--no marriage, no kids. People always say (and still do) that, "You're so young." Well, when you can start to say that literally, DECADES have gone by... you're not so young anymore. I don't want to dash anyone's hopes but yes, it's entirely possible that you may not marry or have kids. Yes, yes, everyone tells me about Sarah and I KNOW God can do ANYTHING but I have no desire, none at all, to have babies in my mid-40's.
Sometimes, as heartbreaking as it is, God's plan for us... is to change our plans.
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I think it is your decision if you want to move on
Make new friends, travel out of USA and both things will make an impact in you
About marriage thing, I cannot advise you since I am only 28 years old and I never had a woman with me.
If you really feel you want someone with you. What are you waiting for?
Stand up in the name of Jesus and find that person with integrity and respect.
The beautiful thing is when you make friends, you will start to gain more confidence than before
and security will aid you.
I think it is your decision if you want to move on
Make new friends, travel out of USA and both things will make an impact in you
About marriage thing, I cannot advise you since I am only 28 years old and I never had a woman with me.
If you really feel you want someone with you. What are you waiting for?
Stand up in the name of Jesus and find that person with integrity and respect.
The beautiful thing is when you make friends, you will start to gain more confidence than before
and security will aid you.
A
My fear .. hmm. I´m afraid that I´ll never get married and have kids one day. It´s always been a dream. Something that´s always been clear to me, to get married and have kids. I don´t want to end up alone you know
Make new friends in Christ.
That will give you more confidence than ever.
If you know how to cultivate friendships
You will know how to cultivate a relationship
Hi Agnus,
My divorce was in 1999, so yes, I've done a lot of moving, literally. In that time I've done a lot and met a lot of people. It would take me a while to list everything here, but yes, I've traveled to 4 countries outside the USA and have been to about 20 states within. I've lived in one area of the USA for 38 years, then up and moved across the country for some time, and have just recently moved to yet another part of the country once again. I've participated in probably a dozen ministries, taken just as many Bible classes, went through new membership classes with a friend who was joining our church and was scared to do it alone, even though I'd already been a member of that church for almost 10 years. I spent several years writing to and visiting prison inmates. People seem to think singles are single because we sit live in caves watching TV and eating Cheetos all day . I do go through times of being an introvert but I haven't spent the entire time sitting on my couch (though don't check up on me right now ).
Many people believe that "finding that right person" is as easy as getting up and "getting out there" but for some of us who are living full lives, it's not. People assume that if we don't have someone, we're "not trying hard enough" but that's not always how it works.
I'm at a point right now where for whatever reason, I've met lots of people who are in the same position as I am. Life and God's plans for us are not always what we think or want, and it's hard to accept. I know a kind, noble Christian man who lost his child and wife tragically when he was 28. You'd think if God would have it for anyone to marry again and have a family, it would be this man. But he is now in his 70's, and has been alone all that time, despite being one of the hardest-working, most outgoing people you'll ever meet.
This is the hard part of Christianity, where we have to say, "Lord, your will, not mine, be done." Even if that means being alone, which, for many years, was my biggest fear as well.
My divorce was in 1999, so yes, I've done a lot of moving, literally.
In that time I've done a lot and met a lot of people. It would take me a while to list everything here, but yes, I've traveled to 4 countries outside the USA and have been to about 20 states within. I've lived in one area of the USA for 38 years, then up and moved across the country for some time, and have just recently moved to yet another part of the country once again. I've participated in probably a dozen ministries, taken just as many Bible classes, went through new membership classes with a friend who was joining our church and was scared to do it alone, even though I'd already been a member of that church for almost 10 years. I spent several years writing to and visiting prison inmates. People seem to think singles are single because we sit live in caves watching TV and eating Cheetos all day . I do go through times of being an introvert but I haven't spent the entire time sitting on my couch (though don't check up on me right now ). Many people believe that "finding that right person" is as easy as getting up and "getting out there" but for some of us who are living full lives, it's not. People assume that if we don't have someone, we're "not trying hard enough" but that's not always how it works.
I'm at a point right now where for whatever reason, I've met lots of people who are in the same position as I am. Life and God's plans for us are not always what we think or want, and it's hard to accept. I know a kind, noble Christian man who lost his child and wife tragically when he was 28. You'd think if God would have it for anyone to marry again and have a family, it would be this man. But he is now in his 70's, and has been alone all that time, despite being one of the hardest-working, most outgoing people you'll ever meet.
This is the hard part of Christianity, where we have to say, "Lord, your will, not mine, be done." Even if that means being alone, which, for many years, was my biggest fear as well.