what scares you the MOST about getting married ?

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babarainbowsheep

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Nashah said:
To find out that she lied about things in the past.

Truth is such an obsession of mine >.<

Or...... that she have no sense of humor whatsoever! *gasp*
What.... a truly dreadful life that would be....
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:DThat would be dreadful a humorless wife......
Make sure you marry a woman with humor then.Make sure the woman you marry is someone who makes you laugh and make eachother laugh and can laugh 2gether.
Surely if you dated her a while you should notice these things.Unless she suddenly turns humorless for some reason in middle of marriage....
Nothing that a bita passion and lovin cant bring out or back again

Honesty and being able to trust your partner is important , I agree.
Have a concious, serious talk with her and tell her honestly how important it is to you top feel you can trust her and she wont lie to you.Look her in the eyes and get connection and understanding and truly talk and if she lies then she must be a good lier and thats darned ...

I would fear that my husband would not stand by me and if someone was abusive and criminal (like a x) that he would not care even if it hurt me and did everything to hurt me.That he would not call police or get restrainingorder and still have contact with someone who behaves truly badly ex stalks, threatenes and criminal behaviours etc.
I would feel so disapointed if he "dalted" and in that way allowed it or excusing her behaviour cause she x or he flattered she wants him (ego) or cause she mother or......
If he did allowed such behavioures or excused it etc then that may ruin our marriage and not be the man I want to marry should care and be of morals etc.
 
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GreenNnice

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babarainbowsheep said:
:DThat would be dreadful a humorless wife......
Make sure you marry a woman with humor then.Make sure the woman you marry is someone who makes you laugh and make eachother laugh and can laugh 2gether.
Surely if you dated her a while you should notice these things.Unless she suddenly turns humorless for some reason in middle of marriage....
Nothing that a bita passion and lovin cant bring out or back again

Honesty and being able to trust your partner is important , I agree.
Have a concious, serious talk with her and tell her honestly how important it is to you top feel you can trust her and she wont lie to you.Look her in the eyes and get connection and understanding and truly talk and if she lies then she must be a good lier and thats darned ...

I would fear that my husband would not stand by me and if someone was abusive and criminal (like a x) that he would not care even if it hurt me and did everything to hurt me.That he would not call police or get restrainingorder and still have contact with someone who behaves truly badly ex stalks, threatenes and criminal behaviours etc.
I would feel so disapointed if he "dalted" and in that way allowed it or excusing her behaviour cause she x or he flattered she wants him (ego) or cause she mother or......
If he did allowed such behavioures or excused it etc then that may ruin our marriage and not be the man I want to marry should care and be of morals etc.
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To your smile, babawhitesheep: :D That's my green-face-smile-back look if you can't tell .
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OK, to the topic .

I get scared of a lot of things about marriage, for starters, just thinking about it as I speak. AHHH!! :D
 
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Nashah

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babarainbowsheep said:
:DThat would be dreadful a humorless wife......
Make sure you marry a woman with humor then.Make sure the woman you marry is someone who makes you laugh and make eachother laugh and can laugh 2gether.
Surely if you dated her a while you should notice these things.Unless she suddenly turns humorless for some reason in middle of marriage....
Nothing that a bita passion and lovin cant bring out or back again

Honesty and being able to trust your partner is important , I agree.
Have a concious, serious talk with her and tell her honestly how important it is to you top feel you can trust her and she wont lie to you.Look her in the eyes and get connection and understanding and truly talk and if she lies then she must be a good lier and thats darned ...

I would fear that my husband would not stand by me and if someone was abusive and criminal (like a x) that he would not care even if it hurt me and did everything to hurt me.That he would not call police or get restrainingorder and still have contact with someone who behaves truly badly ex stalks, threatenes and criminal behaviours etc.
I would feel so disapointed if he "dalted" and in that way allowed it or excusing her behaviour cause she x or he flattered she wants him (ego) or cause she mother or......
If he did allowed such behavioures or excused it etc then that may ruin our marriage and not be the man I want to marry should care and be of morals etc.
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Why thank you for agreeing xD

Ah and I have no worries about that o....o
I am very accommodating when in a relationship. I have codes of honor that I stand by o_O
1. Never ever take a girl from another man
2. Never do anything that would give a girl you like even the right to be jealous (heck I will avoid contact with all other females if need be o_O)
3. Pay attention to how she feels and respect her feelings and treat them as important even if I can not understand them.
4. Never leave a girl (exception for if they start having feelings for another or if they change who they are)
5. Never leave a problem alone, always try to resolve them.

The list goes on but the rest don't really apply to relationships o_O

One thing people do to mess up relationships all the time is try to base it completely on emotions o.....o

And I can honestly say this with confidence. Emotions, SUCK! They have a way of back stabbing you :x
 
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christiancollegegirl

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#44
I'm scared he'll get bored and leave me for another woman.
 
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Jesally

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#45
What scares me the most is puting up with someone's different character traits for the rest of my of my life.
 
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perdonato

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#46
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Nashah said:
One thing people do to mess up relationships all the time is try to base it completely on emotions o.....o

And I can honestly say this with confidence. Emotions, SUCK! They have a way of back stabbing you :x
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I agree, it is not wise to base everything off of emotions. I'm generally not too emotional but emotions exist - as much as they suck. And that said, I think it would be a challenge if there weren't ANY emotions involved in a relationship. Though they certainly should not be the driving force, it's the constant argument of compatibility v. chemistry.

Love is a choice and compatibility makes for a great team and great partner in life... however, if there is no emotional connection *at all* then I dunno.

I just think it might be a bit bold to just say "emotions suck" - (though... I tend to agree..haha.) Aside from that I'm rambling. Hah.
 
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ashleyisafreak

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Well, gotta find the lucky guy that's willing to put up with all my crazy for a whole lifetime haha.

Then after that, actually letting myself trust someone and admitting to myself that I might actually need someone else in my life besides me. It's a pride issue really. I'm not proud of it and I'm working on it.
 
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GreenNnice

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ashleyisafreak said:
Well, gotta find the lucky guy that's willing to put up with all my crazy for a whole lifetime haha.

Then after that, actually letting myself trust someone and admitting to myself that I might actually need someone else in my life besides me. It's a pride issue really. I'm not proud of it and I'm working on it.
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Give it time, ash, yer young. :)
You n perdy, young'uns.

But I suggest (to you both) to give yourself to God and see what He wants from you. That may take whole lotta scare out of the equation, too. God's got plans for you in His time :)
 
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perdonato

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Haaa... Already doin' that ;-) I know what I can and can't pursue. I pursue God :-D It's awesome. He's in control and has a plan. I don't doubt that for a second. Haha.
 
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worldlover

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i would say an unplanned marriage and responsibilities to handle i think.
 
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GreenNnice

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perdonato said:
Haaa... Already doin' that ;-) I know what I can and can't pursue. I pursue God :-D It's awesome. He's in control and has a plan. I don't doubt that for a second. Haha.
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Awesome, Perdy, and, not JUST awesome, but God-awesome. You are modeling you life after Him, awesome. :).

----Yes, worldlover, and, the way to avoid an unplanned marriage is to plan your life, DAILY, with thoughts that emanate from your mind naturally of Him .

Verse I will add: Do not be conformed to the world and wordly things but be transformed DAILY by the renewing of your mind.

Sin--we all have, and, i will add do sin ALL THE TIME in our lives-- and immediately go to God in prayer for mercy, and, He will forgive us , always, forgetting to what we did. :)

His mercies are new every morning.
 
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Catlynn

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I don't know that I really have fear on the subject anymore. I used to have dozens of fears...I was very intimidated by such a difficult journey but now I look forward to it as a grand adventure that will bring me closer to God and closer to the man He has for me as we pursue God together. XD
 
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GreenNnice

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Catlynn said:
I don't know that I really have fear on the subject anymore. I used to have dozens of fears...I was very intimidated by such a difficult journey but now I look forward to it as a grand adventure that will bring me closer to God and closer to the man He has for me as we pursue God together. XD
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Nothing wrong with that mind of thinking, Catty, the only thing, ultimately, to fear is doing marriage (dating frienship, courtship, engagement) your way and not God's. That, of course, is where fearing the Lord and trembling at His words comes in. Not so coincidentally, my fave verse is isaiah 66:2 :)
 
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Catlynn

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Of course I fear God, silly! I just meant I have no fear towards marriage itself. :p I'm sure when it comes time to actually get married I'll probably be quite apprehensive but hopefully not fearful. Great verse btw.
 
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GreenNnice

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Catlynn said:
Of course I fear God, silly! I just meant I have no fear towards marriage itself. :p I'm sure when it comes time to actually get married I'll probably be quite apprehensive but hopefully not fearful. Great verse btw.
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Sounds good, Catty. :). I see what yer saying now.

Fear God, girl , not marriage. Wait, shhh, do you hear a green (and nice) echo :D

---yeah, so much wealth in scriptures, but I. 66:2,my número uno :)
 
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Relena7

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That so many of the people "out there" might be right when they're constantly warning us young naive people how marriage changes you and you fight a lot the first year, and things about it are way worse than you think.

That he might snore. :p

That I might get bored and we'll be stuck in the same old routines (I would never cheat though).

Other stuff.
 
SnailRacer

SnailRacer

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Nov 2, 2011
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Once burnt twice shy. My biggest fear is that I might be abandoned by the woman I love.
 
JerryRice

JerryRice

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Jan 16, 2011
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giving up being selfish. of course you can still be married and selfish, good luck making it last!
 
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MasterofOckham

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Letting someone else in
 
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