What to do to move forward? HELP!

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cris

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I dont know what Im doing. Why Im posting my emotional struggle right now, maybe that's how hurtful it is for me. I want to move on and forget about a man who made me do crazy things. God is telling me he is not good for me yet my heart is crying. I will choose God and His will no matter what. Is there anything I can do to get over this feelings quickly?
 
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cris said:
I dont know what Im doing. Why Im posting my emotional struggle right now, maybe that's how hurtful it is for me. I want to move on and forget about a man who made me do crazy things. God is telling me he is not good for me yet my heart is crying. I will choose God and His will no matter what. Is there anything I can do to get over this feelings quickly?
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kumusta ka

The only thing that comes to my mind is this...
Remember Lot's wife. Do not go back and do not look back. Keep your eyes fixed on the destination that God has for you. Don't take your eyes off of the prize.

I think you should speak to the women here more about this.
 
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Christian00937074

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cris said:
I dont know what Im doing. Why Im posting my emotional struggle right now, maybe that's how hurtful it is for me. I want to move on and forget about a man who made me do crazy things. God is telling me he is not good for me yet my heart is crying. I will choose God and His will no matter what. Is there anything I can do to get over this feelings quickly?
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This good no problem keep send it we are one and we are on Christian we love each others also i send you a private SMS
 
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dashadow

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I would suggest you first repent of these things you claim this man made you do. And I would recommend you stop blaming another for the things you did. People can be a bad influence, but you can't honestly blame them for the things you do. Keep your focus on God and surround yourself with other God-loving people.

Relationships tend to bring about drama, especially ones we shouldn't be in. Whatever the case may be, it's important to understand the pain and frustration will pass. I often find myself in an emotional whirlwind with regard to my marriage. I go from feeling God sent my wife to me as an unexpected blessing to feeling God sent her to me as punishment for past transgressions. But that's another story. :)

Anyway, focus on your relationship with God and let Him guide you through this trial. And find someone close you can talk to. I pray you find comfort and direction.
 
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starfield

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cris said:
I dont know what Im doing. Why Im posting my emotional struggle right now, maybe that's how hurtful it is for me. I want to move on and forget about a man who made me do crazy things. God is telling me he is not good for me yet my heart is crying. I will choose God and His will no matter what. Is there anything I can do to get over this feelings quickly?
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Having a solid relationship with God is of utmost importance, so you shouldn't seek for a man who hinders your walk with God. Try to control your emotions and associate with caring people, and in no time you will forget about the past.
 
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MissCris

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cris said:
I dont know what Im doing. Why Im posting my emotional struggle right now, maybe that's how hurtful it is for me. I want to move on and forget about a man who made me do crazy things. God is telling me he is not good for me yet my heart is crying. I will choose God and His will no matter what. Is there anything I can do to get over this feelings quickly?
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Don't feed the feelings. Don't wallow in them.

If all you think about is how sad you feel, or this guy and how you miss him, that's all you're going to keep feeling. So try to distract yourself from those thoughts/feelings with positive things; your relationship with God, your friends, future goals.

...that's all the "wisdom" I had for the day, so I hope it's useful.
 
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cris said:
I dont know what Im doing. Why Im posting my emotional struggle right now, maybe that's how hurtful it is for me. I want to move on and forget about a man who made me do crazy things. God is telling me he is not good for me yet my heart is crying. I will choose God and His will no matter what. Is there anything I can do to get over this feelings quickly?
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Quickly? Probably not. If you've loved someone deeply for a while you're not going to get over them quickly. What's helped me get over my previous woman was talking to women. As selfish and inconsiderate as it might sound to those other women, it helps to feel wanted by someone and to have some sort of contact with the opposite sex rather than breaking it all off at once. Feeling wanted, useful, helpful, and occupying your time really help. Personal hobbies help, but not as much.

I think some people would like to complain about this advice, but it works. And I say you need some help. Don't get enticed by rebound boyfriends. Otherwise you'll just end up right back where you are now. Have to build your next relationship on a rational decision.
 
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Parker

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You have a God shaped hole in your heart, and when you try to fill it with something else it never works because God is perfect - nothing else is. The closer you get to God, the happier you will feel, and you will eventually develop a state of joy throughout everyday life because of his presence... Keep reading his word, and spending alone time with God, tell him of your deepest feelings and thoughts like a best friend (prayer). If you want me to go deeper into anything I have said then just shoot me a message and I will gladly reply and help you along!

Ecclesiastes 4: 9-10, 12
 
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Powemm

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Open your hands .... Let go and lift him up to God...
Start getting to know the love God has for you... It is then you will have truth of what real love is and suppose to look like
 
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Powemm

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express every emotion about it to God ... Share it and bring Him
Into it "before you run to anyone else first"
Remember , He made you to be in a relationship with Him first..
 
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Shouryu

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Powemm said:
express every emotion about it to God ... Share it and bring Him
Into it "before you run to anyone else first"
Remember , He made you to be in a relationship with Him first..
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This.

Not long after the end of my relationship, I dealt with a lot of anger and bitterness, along with the pain and sadness. My old man told me, "Give it to God. Express your pain, express your rage. Christ is there to take YOUR burden, so hand it over, and the whole time, be aware of His love and His grace and His mercy. And as you do this, you'll find peace. You may have to do this over and over again, several times a day, several times an hour. But the more you give your pain to Him, the longer the peace starts to last."

And the Old Man was right. It's been a year and a half since then for me, and I still have moments of bitterness or anger, but I almost immediately start to pray, and just thank Him for His blessings, and for the joy of being His child again after almost a decade away. God will heal your pain, but you have to let Him tend your wounds.

Trust in Him, and make Him your focus...and He will give you rest! Give it time, and stick with it. Great is HIS faithfulness!
 
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