What to do when the going gets tough?

[Maka]

[FONT=.SFUIText]​"When we are wounded, heartbroken, disappointed or sad it is crucial that we go the extra mile to treat ourselves with upmost respect."
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I just read an article and thought that was great advice. [/FONT][/FONT][FONT=.SF UI Text][FONT=.SFUIText]Please share your tips to get through difficult times. [/FONT][/FONT]

 

[WineRose]

This rarely happens to me, personally, but when it does...

- Internet surfing the pain away has always worked miracles for me.
- I keep it to myself. I don't need to burden others with my suffering. Misery lives company, as they say.
- I try my best to find out my mistake that caused this to happen in the first place, and make an active effort not to make that mistake again.
- Watching anime helps a lot for me.
- I eat a chewy candy. Just one piece, though.
- Watching SMG4's videos always makes me chuckle.

 

[Galatea]

This is probably terrible, but thinking about people in worse circumstances than myself helps. I am not congratulating myself that I am better off than others or something, but it does help me to see how petty my problems are. I've been watching a program on PBS called Twice Born about a children's hospital in Philadelphia. The babies have congenital problems and have to have surgeries. My problems are nothing compared to that. It helps me to put things into proper perspective. So instead of being gentle with myself, I need to be rough with myself! I'm already too gentle with myself, I am afraid.

Everyone is different, though. What works for me might not work for you.

 

[Maka]

@ winerose, I'm really happy to hear it rarely happens to you.

@ Galatea, It doesn't make you sound terrible at all.

Thank you both for sharing what works for you. I agree, everyone is different. Our differences is what makes life so interesting.

 

[Ugly]

Keeping things to yourself is very unhealthy and counterproductive. It may prolong, or even add to, your misery, so I discourage that route.

I try to distract myself, but have short periods of time where I choose to face whatever's going on. This helps deter feeling overwhelmed or dwelling, yet still allows you time to think, but in a more controlled manner rather than guided emotionally.

 

[Lynx]

When the going gets tough, the tough increase espresso. If you usually do a double shot, escalate to a triple shot.

Actually I have no idea. I am 39 years old but I do not think I have ever seen a tough time yet. I don't know how I would react.

 

[CaptainGoat]

Eat a jam filled doughnut!

 

[17Bees]

I am probably a poster child for the instantly gratified. My nature (and I've only lately been able to identify this) is to instantly react to practically everything including difficulties without giving them a time to, I guess, heal. This reaction leaves doors ajar; lights left on. So when I leave the issue, I'm haunted with "did I lock the door?". I never seem to find the closure. I never stay close enough to whatever the difficulty is to really identify it.

So, if you're desperate enough to get advice from someone like me, I'd say give your issue time. Time for it to fully expose itself for what it is instead of what you wish it could be. Time to grieve over it. Time to stabilize the reality of it. And eventually, time to accept it.


and btw Maka, your avatar is driving me a little nuts because I've never seen that particular painting but there's this artist I like and everything he paints has somebody or something in red. And it's always raining. And I can't remember his name. It's something like Cone or Kone. Am I completely wrong?

 

[WineRose]

Eat a jam filled doughnut!

(Sorry, I just had to...)

 

[Maka]

I am probably a poster child for the instantly gratified. My nature (and I've only lately been able to identify this) is to instantly react to practically everything including difficulties without giving them a time to, I guess, heal. This reaction leaves doors ajar; lights left on. So when I leave the issue, I'm haunted with "did I lock the door?". I never seem to find the closure. I never stay close enough to whatever the difficulty is to really identify it.

So, if you're desperate enough to get advice from someone like me, I'd say give your issue time. Time for it to fully expose itself for what it is instead of what you wish it could be. Time to grieve over it. Time to stabilize the reality of it. And eventually, time to accept it.


and btw Maka, your avatar is driving me a little nuts because I've never seen that particular painting but there's this artist I like and everything he paints has somebody or something in red. And it's always raining. And I can't remember his name. It's something like Cone or Kone. Am I completely wrong?

Thank you for your honesty. I struggle with closer as well.

It's Andre Kohn, I only know because I just looked it up. Lol I had no idea..

 

[Maka]

(Sorry, I just had to...)

hehe love it! Even more because you had too!!

BTW @Captaingoat I could probably make you a plant based jam donut. I saw a recipe for chocolate, how much harder can jam be...