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What would it require of you if you found it? - It would probably require more time and effort than I can currently put into the relationship.
How would you expect your life to change? - I think I would have a lot of different responsibilities than I currently have. Supporting, or preparing to support, another human besides myself would come with it a lot of changes in lifestyle.
Are you really ready? - Nope. I am not ready. I have to many goals for my personal life that I want to meet before I enter a relationship life.
How would you expect your life to change? - I think I would have a lot of different responsibilities than I currently have. Supporting, or preparing to support, another human besides myself would come with it a lot of changes in lifestyle.
Are you really ready? - Nope. I am not ready. I have to many goals for my personal life that I want to meet before I enter a relationship life.
what would it require...probably a complete change in lifestyle
my life would change...well if it was serious and i wanted it to stay that way, i would probably need to find a new place to live. Since right now 5 guys under one roof is great but if i was seeing someone probably not
am i ready? nope i love being single
my life would change...well if it was serious and i wanted it to stay that way, i would probably need to find a new place to live. Since right now 5 guys under one roof is great but if i was seeing someone probably not
am i ready? nope i love being single
Unlike the other guys who have responded, yes I'm really ready.
I'm quite sure my life will change. I have noticed over several relationships that what has changed in my life has been different since every woman's desires and needs in a relationship can be different, thus what needs to change on my end is likewise different.
It's a given that my boss won't be overly thrilled when I do get into a serious relationship again since I'm not so prone to be at his beck and call when I want to spend time with a special lady. Likewise I wouldn't be spending as much time on here. I've found that I tend to have a "single" mode and an "in a relationship" mode and if it's serious, the switch flips over. I'm not like a lot of guys who think they can continue as if they're single in a serious relationship.
I'm quite sure my life will change. I have noticed over several relationships that what has changed in my life has been different since every woman's desires and needs in a relationship can be different, thus what needs to change on my end is likewise different.
It's a given that my boss won't be overly thrilled when I do get into a serious relationship again since I'm not so prone to be at his beck and call when I want to spend time with a special lady. Likewise I wouldn't be spending as much time on here. I've found that I tend to have a "single" mode and an "in a relationship" mode and if it's serious, the switch flips over. I'm not like a lot of guys who think they can continue as if they're single in a serious relationship.
For all of the above, I haven't a clue. The last time I was in a relationship was 10 years ago and I was just a young kid in high school and college. I'm older now and so likely would be the lady. I don't know what to expect or what would change. I'm not even sure how to go about courting a woman at this point. Again, I was a kid the last time, and I'm not sure movies, ice cream and beenie babies would still cut it.
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1. It would require that I open my heart up to another person. It would require me to be vulnerable. It would require me to be committed, open and honest. It would require me to be trusting and trustworthy. It would require me to be kind and attentive. It would require me to be forgiving. It would require me to be respectful.
2. I would expect my life would change for the better. New responsibilities are not burdens if in a good relationship. They are pleasing and joyful. They provide hope for the future. Hope builds dreams and goals.
3. I don't think I am. What does God think? I didn't find my ex-wife by looking for one. I was at a place in time which God ordained and the rest is history.
2. I would expect my life would change for the better. New responsibilities are not burdens if in a good relationship. They are pleasing and joyful. They provide hope for the future. Hope builds dreams and goals.
3. I don't think I am. What does God think? I didn't find my ex-wife by looking for one. I was at a place in time which God ordained and the rest is history.
Usually? More like always. 
I think the main difference in women is the approach. Some, if they have access, do it when you're not home to "surprise" you, others show up with the stuff and go to town, the rest "take you shopping" which seems to be some odd female code for torturing their man.
I think the main difference in women is the approach. Some, if they have access, do it when you're not home to "surprise" you, others show up with the stuff and go to town, the rest "take you shopping" which seems to be some odd female code for torturing their man.
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What would it require of you if you found it?
It would require me to open my heart like never before, trust a human like never before, and more importantly trust GOD and the people around me more than ever.
How would you expect your life to change?
I would expect my life to get busier, and I know I will learn allot about myself. I'll probably spend more money, and end up staying up later than I do now, and do dishes on a more regular schedule.
Are you really ready?
I think so. I'm ready to learn lots....lets do it!
It would require me to open my heart like never before, trust a human like never before, and more importantly trust GOD and the people around me more than ever.
How would you expect your life to change?
I would expect my life to get busier, and I know I will learn allot about myself. I'll probably spend more money, and end up staying up later than I do now, and do dishes on a more regular schedule.
Are you really ready?
I think so. I'm ready to learn lots....lets do it!
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What would it require? Well for starters it would require me to actually work up the courage to speak to her. Even though she is so beautiful she actually shines. Even though every time I hear her say 'Hallelujiah' in church its like a little firecracker of joy going off in my chest. Even though the Lord told me she would be my wife over a year ago. (I saw here once, across a room, and then she moved away. She showed up again 2 weeks ago.)
What would change? Nearly everything. I would no longer answer only to God. I would have a huge responsibilty (Ephesians 5:25), need to change habits to accommodate. I know that I'm getting ahead of myself a little here and I know that the Lord wouldn't give me anything I couldn't handle, however...
Am I ready? I wasn't a year ago. I wanted it then, immediately, but that would have been a disaster. The old man was very much alive, and bits of him still are. I want this now, but here is this incredible, holy, pure woman of God and I'm........me. And what if I just go for it and inadvertantly raise her up as an idol? What if I screw it up? What if I try to become the hyper idealised persona of a good husband that exists in my head and crush myself with it? I would love to think I was ready, and maybe by treating this with the gravity that I do is an indicator that I'm getting there.
Sorry for the rant, dear reader and please don't think me too foolish. I've never had this happen before.
What would change? Nearly everything. I would no longer answer only to God. I would have a huge responsibilty (Ephesians 5:25), need to change habits to accommodate. I know that I'm getting ahead of myself a little here and I know that the Lord wouldn't give me anything I couldn't handle, however...
Am I ready? I wasn't a year ago. I wanted it then, immediately, but that would have been a disaster. The old man was very much alive, and bits of him still are. I want this now, but here is this incredible, holy, pure woman of God and I'm........me. And what if I just go for it and inadvertantly raise her up as an idol? What if I screw it up? What if I try to become the hyper idealised persona of a good husband that exists in my head and crush myself with it? I would love to think I was ready, and maybe by treating this with the gravity that I do is an indicator that I'm getting there.
Sorry for the rant, dear reader and please don't think me too foolish. I've never had this happen before.
I would have, no I'm not looking for a serious relationship or really any relationship right now.
It would require of me to... I'm not even sure anymore. I've gone to great and terrible lengths to make things work and to be honest its just silly. I'm going to sit out for a while and if someone wants to be a part of my life, I have phone, a door, and its a free country.
I would expect my life to change quite a bit. All things considered, every relationship I've ever had has changed my life. I really can't say how until I get there.
Ready? No, its like trying to be ready for a fish to bite on the bait when I don't even have the pole in my hand.
Summer is over and this bear is headed into hibernation. I'll see you ladies in the spring.
It would require of me to... I'm not even sure anymore. I've gone to great and terrible lengths to make things work and to be honest its just silly. I'm going to sit out for a while and if someone wants to be a part of my life, I have phone, a door, and its a free country.
I would expect my life to change quite a bit. All things considered, every relationship I've ever had has changed my life. I really can't say how until I get there.
Ready? No, its like trying to be ready for a fish to bite on the bait when I don't even have the pole in my hand.
Summer is over and this bear is headed into hibernation. I'll see you ladies in the spring.
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What would it require of you if you found it? - Not exactly sure but one thing would be absolutely positive. My stomach area- from my upper ribs to my hips are untouchable. And it's not that I'm uncomfortable with being touched, I'm a touchy-huggy person! Buuut I have some sort of an alarm system. It doesn't tickle but it freaks me out when people touch me there. So now everyone who knows me pokes my stomach and I scream(I think it has more to do with insecurities of belly fat that appeared after I stopped playing soccer and dancing ballet). ;3; I will probably have to overcome it if I went into a relationship because surely he'd want to at least side-hug me without me making his eardrums bleed...
Also... I guess ultimately I would have to learn how to trust a guy. I've never been that close so I don't know how I would fair.
How would you expect your life to change? - Monumentally and yet not at all. I would have this smile that wouldn't go away, I'd be out of the house more often, my phone would actually ring... if it still remembers how that's done...
Are you really ready? - I honestly have no idea. My guess is that I've prepared myself just as well as a perpetually single gal can. Scared and nervous thinking about it... but most of the time I don't really think about it.
Also... I guess ultimately I would have to learn how to trust a guy. I've never been that close so I don't know how I would fair.
How would you expect your life to change? - Monumentally and yet not at all. I would have this smile that wouldn't go away, I'd be out of the house more often, my phone would actually ring... if it still remembers how that's done...
Are you really ready? - I honestly have no idea. My guess is that I've prepared myself just as well as a perpetually single gal can. Scared and nervous thinking about it... but most of the time I don't really think about it.
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I should answer my own questions, huh?
If you are looking for a serious relationship right now, what would it require of you if you found it?
I am not actively looking, but it would require a shift in the focus of my life. It would also require a bit of a shift in mindset...not having to be in control all the time. When you've been the head of your home for a time, it might be a difficult adjustment. I do think the fact that my son is a man now and much of that responsibility has been taken off of my shoulders is helpful in that regard.
How would you expect your life to change?
I wouldn't be here as much certainly. I would probably give less of myself to work. I would be able to step out of myself more. I think we single folks can have too much time to think, and that isn't always a good thing.
Are you really ready?
There is one thing standing in my way. I need to determine whether it is temporary or permanent, so I can go on from there.
If you are looking for a serious relationship right now, what would it require of you if you found it?
I am not actively looking, but it would require a shift in the focus of my life. It would also require a bit of a shift in mindset...not having to be in control all the time. When you've been the head of your home for a time, it might be a difficult adjustment. I do think the fact that my son is a man now and much of that responsibility has been taken off of my shoulders is helpful in that regard.
How would you expect your life to change?
I wouldn't be here as much certainly.
I would probably give less of myself to work. I would be able to step out of myself more. I think we single folks can have too much time to think, and that isn't always a good thing.Are you really ready?
There is one thing standing in my way. I need to determine whether it is temporary or permanent, so I can go on from there.