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J
I’m the last to be a fan of generalizations, but like the guys who say some women will chase any guy who will put a ring on it/have babies with them, maybe the guys women can always count on to be persistent/consistent are the ones who aren’t really interested in getting to know us and have no plans beyond sleeping with us.
J
Dang.. I'm so outdated.. I gotta get a cage.. My heart's too vulnerable 
Kidding aside though, I completely understand what you mean Jullianna. <3
I've actually been wondering about this same thing recently and talked to a dear CC friend about it.
I dunno.. I do appreciate truthfulness but I also am frustrated over the friendships that aren't the
same anymore because of being misinterpreted or me being too scared to take that risk...
Admittedly, I have been very attracted to a man at some point, we tried for two weeks but I couldn't do it..
I tell my self the friendship is too beautiful, I can't risk it after all..
Or simply because I'm just not ready...
At this point, I'd rather secretly love a friend more than a friend should..
because being in a relationship with him gives me the right to expect to be loved in a certain way..
and i dont want it.. it complicates things... people get hurt.. drama starts..and im not ready for that.
gosh.. did i derail the thread? i hope not. i tend to wander away when im sleepy..
peace out!
Kidding aside though, I completely understand what you mean Jullianna. <3
I've actually been wondering about this same thing recently and talked to a dear CC friend about it.
I dunno.. I do appreciate truthfulness but I also am frustrated over the friendships that aren't the
same anymore because of being misinterpreted or me being too scared to take that risk...
Admittedly, I have been very attracted to a man at some point, we tried for two weeks but I couldn't do it..
I tell my self the friendship is too beautiful, I can't risk it after all..
Or simply because I'm just not ready...
At this point, I'd rather secretly love a friend more than a friend should..
because being in a relationship with him gives me the right to expect to be loved in a certain way..
and i dont want it.. it complicates things... people get hurt.. drama starts..and im not ready for that.
gosh.. did i derail the thread? i hope not. i tend to wander away when im sleepy..
peace out!
S
because the older we get the more we want to find someone to share our lives with, someone to love. If you are as attractive as you are inside how can they not hit on you? I do not think something is wrong with you at all. I think that other guy that keeps coming in and out of your life that I have seen you talk about in other threads just may have a hold on your heart. From what you wrote you sound like a woman that has already given her heart away. That is exactly how I feel about men and someone owns my heart, my mate. So maybe just maybe you need to check inside of yourself and have some one on one honest time with yourself and our Lord.
J
Thank you for the compliment. You are quite a lady, so it means a lot to me.
Yeah…there are a lot of things I love about that guy and probably always will, but…honestly…the bottom line for me has always been this:
What sort of man leads you to believe all dreams are possible, but chases only his own and expects you to abandon a minor child (whose father died) for his way of life?
That’s the part no one seems to get. Even though my son is grown now I just don’t see it happening. Do people truly ever stop being that self-absorbed?
For me, being honest with myself means listening to the Lord and my head.
Yeah…there are a lot of things I love about that guy and probably always will, but…honestly…the bottom line for me has always been this:
What sort of man leads you to believe all dreams are possible, but chases only his own and expects you to abandon a minor child (whose father died) for his way of life?
That’s the part no one seems to get. Even though my son is grown now I just don’t see it happening. Do people truly ever stop being that self-absorbed?
For me, being honest with myself means listening to the Lord and my head.
This post and one in another thread beg to be answered together, but I guess I'll respond separately to keep from confusing people.
Sure, the guys who are up to no good usually will be persistent since for them it's all about the "prize" and the conquest and nothing else. They've learned that persistence with time usually will break down a woman's defenses. I think that many men end up going to the opposite extreme in an over exaggerated attempt to not have their advances mistaken.
Of course we all are a product of our experiences to a degree and we all may react to a similar experience differently based on our prior experiences. Some of my experiences have made me hypersensitive to how my actions will be perceived by others and as a result I know that I can tend to be overly reserved and cautious when I'm interested in a woman which of course probably causes me to appear either wishy washy or just flat uninterested to some ladies. I'm willing to bet that other guys are beating their head on the same wall that I am (maybe for different reasons) trying to find the proper balance in this area.
Sure, the guys who are up to no good usually will be persistent since for them it's all about the "prize" and the conquest and nothing else. They've learned that persistence with time usually will break down a woman's defenses. I think that many men end up going to the opposite extreme in an over exaggerated attempt to not have their advances mistaken.
Of course we all are a product of our experiences to a degree and we all may react to a similar experience differently based on our prior experiences. Some of my experiences have made me hypersensitive to how my actions will be perceived by others and as a result I know that I can tend to be overly reserved and cautious when I'm interested in a woman which of course probably causes me to appear either wishy washy or just flat uninterested to some ladies. I'm willing to bet that other guys are beating their head on the same wall that I am (maybe for different reasons) trying to find the proper balance in this area.
S
Thank you for the compliment. You are quite a lady, so it means a lot to me.
Yeah…there are a lot of things I love about that guy and probably always will, but…honestly…the bottom line for me has always been this:
What sort of man leads you to believe all dreams are possible, but chases only his own and expects you to abandon a minor child (whose father died) for his way of life?
That’s the part no one seems to get. Even though my son is grown now I just don’t see it happening. Do people truly ever stop being that self-absorbed?
For me, being honest with myself means listening to the Lord and my head.
Yeah…there are a lot of things I love about that guy and probably always will, but…honestly…the bottom line for me has always been this:
What sort of man leads you to believe all dreams are possible, but chases only his own and expects you to abandon a minor child (whose father died) for his way of life?
That’s the part no one seems to get. Even though my son is grown now I just don’t see it happening. Do people truly ever stop being that self-absorbed?
For me, being honest with myself means listening to the Lord and my head.
If they do not have God they stay self adsorbed I think. Its a dog eat dog world out there.
P
Jullianna, if your heart is in a cage then it has been throwing care packages out between the bars. You care, which means you are compassionate. I know this isn't the kind of love you were on about , but felt I ought to say that your heart isn't in a cage. Its the care bear version of the mongolian hordes. Jesus the greatest Man who ever lived loves you and will provide for you.
As for the heart cage, the greatest man who never lived has this to add:
And we all know you can't argue with Batman.
As for the heart cage, the greatest man who never lived has this to add:
And we all know you can't argue with Batman.