What's stifling your romantic streak?

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Wandering_Here

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I felt that "Wow" factor once, but he didn't feel the same way.

I'm practical. I've always thought of marriage as more a contract that binds a couple's lives together till death rather than a declaration of their love. Love is important, but so is the understanding that love is the way you act rather than the way you feel.

I am nervous, uncertain, scared about the idea of dating again. I was happy to be married, thankful to be past the awkward parts, like meeting his family. I was comfortable with my life and my life-companion. I thought we were happy and that's what really scares me. For me, everything was good up until the day that the truth came out. I couldn't see that he was lying, living a double life. I was naive and blind. I'm scared that I either won't be able to spot a lie and I'll be trusting when I shouldn't, or I'll see lies where there are none and won't be able to trust like I should.

Anyway, this boils down to I'm not very romantic, and fear is stifling what little romantic streak I do have, and that's enough soul-baring for one post.
 
ArtsieSteph

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Wandering_Here said:
I felt that "Wow" factor once, but he didn't feel the same way.

I'm practical. I've always thought of marriage as more a contract that binds a couple's lives together till death rather than a declaration of their love. Love is important, but so is the understanding that love is the way you act rather than the way you feel.

I am nervous, uncertain, scared about the idea of dating again. I was happy to be married, thankful to be past the awkward parts, like meeting his family. I was comfortable with my life and my life-companion. I thought we were happy and that's what really scares me. For me, everything was good up until the day that the truth came out. I couldn't see that he was lying, living a double life. I was naive and blind. I'm scared that I either won't be able to spot a lie and I'll be trusting when I shouldn't, or I'll see lies where there are none and won't be able to trust like I should.

Anyway, this boils down to I'm not very romantic, and fear is stifling what little romantic streak I do have, and that's enough soul-baring for one post.
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I'm so sorry all that happened, fear is a big stumbling block for things. I hope God helps you with that fear.
 
tourist

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ArtsieSteph said:
Is it bad that only one guy has ever had that wow favor for me, so much I couldn't even look at him? I've never gone out with a guy I insta crushed on
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Do you believe in love at first sight? Or how about love at first byte?
 
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wisebeardman said:
why do you think that?
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I've never been brave enough to ask....I guess


tourist said:
Do you believe in love at first sight? Or how about love at first byte?
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Oh I'm sure people find love on the internet all the time, I just haven't as of yet.... I had an online relationship and I was very happy, but the distance was really hard on the both of us.
 
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Jonathan1977

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I guess my romantic streak has been pretty well killed by my experiences with "love". I completely and totally fell in love with a woman online over a period of three months. I went to visit her to surprise her on her birthday. I was the one that was surprised. She looked at me once and treated me like a disease the rest of the time I was there. It affected me for years.
In other experiences I have figured out that the kinda women I want(Kind, loving, Christian, ect) are looking for guys that are much better off worldly or better looking than I am.
I still pray that God sends someone that proves me wrong, and that restores my faith in love.
 
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Jonathan1977 said:
I guess my romantic streak has been pretty well killed by my experiences with "love". I completely and totally fell in love with a woman online over a period of three months. I went to visit her to surprise her on her birthday. I was the one that was surprised. She looked at me once and treated me like a disease the rest of the time I was there. It affected me for years.
In other experiences I have figured out that the kinda women I want(Kind, loving, Christian, ect) are looking for guys that are much better off worldly or better looking than I am.
I still pray that God sends someone that proves me wrong, and that restores my faith in love.
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I'm so sorry, that's really hard. Relationships in general are just hard. Maybe that's the problem, they're just too hard! XD
 
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