What's the point of dating?

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Pheonix

Pheonix

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I'll let all you guys know when I've invented telepathy and reading minds. It should make it easier to figure out what the ladies are thinking. I'll take cash, check or credit car for the start up capital!!!!:D

Oh and while I'm at it I'll try and decode venusian.
 
Pheonix

Pheonix

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Narn said:
I used to be of that camp but I am coming to realize since my definition of dating is to get married. That I will never find a marriage partner unless I date. That is our culture we live in. What are the other choices? Arranged marriage? I know nobody wants that. Courtship? well compare that to dating and its the same thing basically only with a very conservative spin. I can I say I want to date or court to me they are the same. Courting is the conservative dating. So yes to pick on you I don't think you will know all you need to know when you are friends with the person. When a guy sees you as a friend he will not see you as any more unless there is an agreement between you and him. Other than a possible reality in his mind that it could be something but guys don't go there in their minds unless its a reality.
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The difference between dating and courtship is attitude. People court to find a spouse, and date to get laid.

Please parden the possibly foul language.

Only an idiot decides after a few months whether someone is worth marrying or not. That of course is assuming the person isn't into dugs or unfaithful. The other thing is most often people date multiple people at the same time, playing the field hoping they've improved the odds. Courtship is focused on one person and only one person. If they decide it isn't a good match they move on.
 
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Narn

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Pheonix said:
The difference between dating and courtship is attitude. People court to find a spouse, and date to get laid.

Please parden the possibly foul language.

Only an idiot decides after a few months whether someone is worth marrying or not. That of course is assuming the person isn't into dugs or unfaithful. The other thing is most often people date multiple people at the same time, playing the field hoping they've improved the odds. Courtship is focused on one person and only one person. If they decide it isn't a good match they move on.
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Pardoned.
I didn't mean to sound flippant on the other hand if you could never see your self marrying them then don't date them. (Oh NO! I said date!);)

Also I would never want anyone who is in to DUGS :p
 
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Mands

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Pheonix said:
The difference between dating and courtship is attitude. People court to find a spouse, and date to get laid.

Please parden the possibly foul language.

Only an idiot decides after a few months whether someone is worth marrying or not. That of course is assuming the person isn't into dugs or unfaithful. The other thing is most often people date multiple people at the same time, playing the field hoping they've improved the odds. Courtship is focused on one person and only one person. If they decide it isn't a good match they move on.
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LOL Now not EVERYONE dates to get laid! (pardon me as well)

Sometimes, people use the characteristics of courtship, but call it dating. It's all in the attitude and how the two in the relationship come about it. No matter which term you use, it's how you appraoch the relationship. Whether you date or court (?) there is no guarantee it's going to end in marriage.

It's not :
Dating/courtship=marriage

It's :
Gods Will = marriage

Sometimes, things happen that just can't be controlled. There is no way to tell what will happen in the future. I don't personally see anything wrong wth dating someone, as long as you do it the RIGHT way and leave it all in God's hands.
 
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nate

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Kay_Kay said:
WOAH. I can think of 100 things that could go wrong if a guy started dating me with the expectation of marriage. The first being the guy expects we might get married. That is a lot of pressure to deal with along with some strong feelings that I probably won't share in the beginning of a relationship. To decide someone is the one (or might be) based on an agreement to date is nothing short of crazy in my book.

Dating "for fun" isn't necessarily a good reason. I would hope you begin dating someone because you find their company more enjoyable than an average friend and there is some mutual attraction there.

Dating for me has always been a learning experience. Everyone has an idea of what they want in a partner, when you date someone that image will change, regardless of how sure you were. You begin to discover what you really want and like- not what you thought you did. You will also see qualities you value and be able to pick those out in certain people. (Maybe even people you hadn't previously considered "your type".)

Dating is truly trial and error. Never shun experience.
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This women is a very wise child of Jesus
 
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