Where to take a church girl out on a date to

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Art84 said:
There's this girl at my church that is single and in her 30's like me. She's 31 years old and I want to ask to her out but not sure where to take her on a date to. At first I was thinking the movies but I really wouldn't want to see a chick flick and find the movies not be interesting as your sitting in the dark for 2 hours. I was thinking of taking her to a festival in April where I wan to see a rock concert with POD and Skillet performing for $20. This of course would mean I would need to buy 2 tickets then there's parking and food. The concert starts at 7:15 and P.O.D plays till 8:30 p.m. Skillet is the last band and plays at 9:30 till 11:00 p.m. I think a rock concert would be great as we would be out in public then you have your food vendors and rides, etc. The only thing is it might be over crowd as its' at a universality. I am just not sure how to ask this girl out on Sunday. I am not really good at talking to girls and we are both shy around each other.
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***pretend your brave---that's what a lot of guys do...
 
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Say she rejects me, how should I respond. Not saying she will. But if so, do I still be friends with her or look for another girl?
 
maxwel

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I was just thinking,
if she's a church girl...
why not invite her to church?

How can she say no?

"Hi, I'm coming back to this church again next Sunday,
would you like to go too?"



You can probably be dating her without her even knowing!!!
 
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We go to the same church, just it's me coming back to the church after spending 7 years just jumping from church to church. I think I could ask to sit with her during service next Sunday.
 
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Going to ask her out tomorrow after church, I hope she's there and will be surprised to see me. I am not sure what to wear, i have a polo shirt and jeans with skater shoes and my glasses. Shaved my mustache and beard and got a hair cut so i look good.
 
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Art84 said:
Say she rejects me, how should I respond. Not saying she will. But if so, do I still be friends with her or look for another girl?
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If she rejects you then you say goodbye and forget about her. She is not the only starfish in the sea. What if she is really interested in you? You need to be brave and approach her or you may regret not doing so later.
 
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I need to be brave and ask this girl out, just so i get it out of my system. Don't want to reject not asking her out now and then say 20 years feel bad.
 
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Art84 said:
I need to be brave and ask this girl out, just so i get it out of my system. Don't want to reject not asking her out now and then say 20 years feel bad.
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She seems like a wonderful woman. Go for it, Art.
 
santuzza

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I agree with a poster above, I would avoid a concert or a movie -- you can't talk then.

Go out to dinner or for coffee and dessert somewhere, then take a walk.

You need to get to know this woman before you can decide whether you want to go to a movie or especially a concert together.

I don't know if you live near a city or not, but my hubby and mine's first date was to the zoo and our second date was at some gardens. When I think about it, I don't think we ever went to a movie while we were dating. The thing with a movie is, to me, the vulgarity -- unless you go to some kid's flick.

You could try a museum, too, then you'd get to know each other's interests and tastes. For example, I love impressionist art, hubby can't stand it. That's okay, but you learn something about the other person that way.
 
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maxwel said:
That would require asking her opinion.

I don't really recommend giving up your male dominance by enticing a woman to give an opinion.

If you just stuff her into a sack, and drag her to the concert...
it isn't "technically" kidnapping if she enjoys it.
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You forgot the traditional Caveman Clubbing first.
 
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JesusRules1 said:
It might appear as a wimpy thing to do,but if you have that hard of a time,write a letter,or ask someone to tell her.

I am cheap when I take a woman on a date,which last week I had a date with a woman,and I took her to McDonald's and bought her a regular hamburger,the smallest I could find on the list,and a small order of fries,which I was hoping they had an extra small order of fries,for already I was fast approaching the amount of money I like to spend,and a cup for water,which was nice for it did not cost anything,so I was left with a little money in my date budget,where I could buy her a snicker's candy bar for dessert.

Then we went to Walmart and watched a movie on one of the televisions for sale,which was nice for it was on a flat screen,and we watched it on the biggest screen available,because I like to please a woman when we go on a date.

Then I took her straight home,and not cruise around as to save money on gas,and told her I might not call her because I did not want to use up any minutes by doing so,but told her if we happen to run in to each other if I was at that particular location,I would chat with her if I did not have anywhere I had to be,because that does not cost anything,which really tickled my fancy,and I almost peed myself with delight,for I sure do like to save money.

That is why I do not want to get married,because if we divorce she would get something out of the marriage,and I do not like even giving up 0.0001 percent of my money.

I am only kidding,I would treat her like a queen.This is something that is not really a big deal,but I still try to refrain from it,but every post that people put out,I have the urge to throw something joking in there,but I know I cannot do that all the time,but I have to let it out before I burst once in a while.I just hope someone reads the whole post or at least to the part where I write,I am only kidding,for then they might look at me in a negative way,for it would make no sense to say,I am kidding at the beginning,for then the shock treatment would not be there.
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I thought you were a man after my own heart........ till you blew it all with that last paragraph.

On our first date, I actually did take my wife for a run at a local PT (exercise) trail in a park. And then we went to McDonald's afterward.
 
Socreta93

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You can start small and take her out for lunch if you can't think of anything. If you really like her then just pay for the concert if it's worth it
 
zeroturbulence

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Art84 said:
She's cute and has a beautiful smile. I am not good as telling a girl that i find her beautiful or attractive.
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Ask her out or lose her to someone else... its as simple as that.
 
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Art84 said:
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Here's a picture of the girl.
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One thing i would not do is post pics of her, without her knowledge, on sites she knows nothing about. This site is searchable by google. How do you think she might react to you posting this if she came across it? What if one of her friends is on this site and sees this?
 
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My ( female) advice is to do something that stimulates interaction and conversation without the pressure of having to come up with conversation out of thin air( you did mention that you are both shy.)

It may not be your thing , but have you considered mini golf, going to the video arcade or bowling?And then going for lunch or a milkshake?This way the ice will be broken and you will have both gotten to know each other / bonded on some level before launching out into the serious get- to- know- you stage of the date.As a girl ...I dont think I would enjoy going to see skillet and if you are hard up for cash - the other options might be better.Hope it goes well for you!
 
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And if she likes art...maybe you could go to the art gallery or museum?That could be a classy first date.:)
 
zeroturbulence

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Maybe I'm wrong, but judging by her pic, she doesn't really look like the shy type.
 
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