I read an interesting article about a girl who was threatened to be shot simply because she refused to date someone. All the kids at her school blamed her for what happened, claiming that her selfishness put them all in danger. The author also mentioned that in a criminal justice course she took, another situation was mentioned, this time where the young man pulled out a gun on a girl in front of the whole class and threatened to shoot her unless she went out with him, because she had said no the previous day. Only one person in the whole class said it was the guy's fault. Everyone else said it was the girl's fault. One of the reasons given is that when someone hits another person, and the second person hits back, the first person is the guilty one for starting the whole thing. They went on to claim that she started it simply by saying no, so she was at fault for everything that happened.
So my question is this, in your part of the world, how do men and women view crimes against women, in similar situations?
For me, I have never seen it where a woman says no to a date, that it's automatically her fault if she's killed. However I do know that women are often made the guilty party when raped. Also, I've seen comments where someone who's abused, people have a tendency to look down on her, because she doesn't leave, no knowing the power an abuser could have.
Taking it one step further (and getting slightly off topic,) I know that, men are made fun of when they are abused themselves, and quite often not taken seriously, as they are seen to be the more physically stronger and should be able to protect themselves or just shrug it all off. Yet, we should take this just as seriously.
So my question is this, in your part of the world, how do men and women view crimes against women, in similar situations?
For me, I have never seen it where a woman says no to a date, that it's automatically her fault if she's killed. However I do know that women are often made the guilty party when raped. Also, I've seen comments where someone who's abused, people have a tendency to look down on her, because she doesn't leave, no knowing the power an abuser could have.
Taking it one step further (and getting slightly off topic,) I know that, men are made fun of when they are abused themselves, and quite often not taken seriously, as they are seen to be the more physically stronger and should be able to protect themselves or just shrug it all off. Yet, we should take this just as seriously.