Why are certain married people so disrespectful?
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I'm certain I could handle more. Not that I'm eager to... and I'm not exactly bored out of my gourd, but if push came to shove I could handle a good bit more than I currently take care of.
But to the matter at hand - In the case of the single lady taking care of her sick mother, when they say "she's single, let her take care of it" you could (POLITELY) say, "Well she's got her mother to take care of. Maybe we should ask her if she can take care of this."
But to the matter at hand - In the case of the single lady taking care of her sick mother, when they say "she's single, let her take care of it" you could (POLITELY) say, "Well she's got her mother to take care of. Maybe we should ask her if she can take care of this."
I want to say something about OnThisRock, having met her in person, and knowing her heart, or at least some of her passion I should say, in no way has she ever come across as arrogant, or femininazi. Based upon stuff that we've talked about, I would say she is the far opposite of that. My mom has even met her, and was shocked at how down to Earth she is, especially since she discovered later on that OnThisRock has a PhD.
I want to make that clear just in case some other little troll like creature wants to come on here and attack my friend. I know that most people who've posted on here are not Jamal, but I wanted that to be stated, just the same.
I want to make that clear just in case some other little troll like creature wants to come on here and attack my friend. I know that most people who've posted on here are not Jamal, but I wanted that to be stated, just the same.
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Well Crimson was not judging them really. She was asking why married people put a lot off onto single people because they simply think that single people can handle it. I personally did not see her as judging anyone. 
The only problem I saw here is this..."I kept silent".
Why keep silent if you can say something?
How can a problem be resolved if everyone will just keep silent every time they feel something not right in a given situation or when someone says something offensive to them?
This is a very common problem I saw in the Church really. When a brother or sister said something offensive to them, then it's either they would stop going to church, or they would start saying lots of negative things behind that person's back, and so the problem gets even more complicated. Instead of dealing the problem right away they chose of making it worse.
Matthew 18:15 says, if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.
It's just the mindset they have that if you are single then you have less obligations, less responsibilities and you have more time compared to married ones. If I was that single woman I'd just politely tell them my situation and I can't, I don't think their minds are that narrow not to understand my situation. If nobody would tell those people what is wrong or what you feel about it, then they will keep doing what they're doing and you will keep feeling what you're feeling right now.
Why keep silent if you can say something?
How can a problem be resolved if everyone will just keep silent every time they feel something not right in a given situation or when someone says something offensive to them?
This is a very common problem I saw in the Church really. When a brother or sister said something offensive to them, then it's either they would stop going to church, or they would start saying lots of negative things behind that person's back, and so the problem gets even more complicated. Instead of dealing the problem right away they chose of making it worse.
Matthew 18:15 says, if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.
It's just the mindset they have that if you are single then you have less obligations, less responsibilities and you have more time compared to married ones. If I was that single woman I'd just politely tell them my situation and I can't, I don't think their minds are that narrow not to understand my situation.
If nobody would tell those people what is wrong or what you feel about it, then they will keep doing what they're doing and you will keep feeling what you're feeling right now.
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Its rather hard NOT to take someone the wrong way when they don't ask you for a favor. They just assume you will do it.
In this case, the married couple did not ASK the single person could they help out.... they just ASSUMED the person would do it.
That's pretty hard for the single person NOT to take wrong. lol
In this case, the married couple did not ASK the single person could they help out.... they just ASSUMED the person would do it.
That's pretty hard for the single person NOT to take wrong. lol
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And it is the single ladies problem if she was treated that way. We have a responsibility AS FELLOW CHRISTIANS to say ''hey what you did is wrong and you should not treat the lady this way''.
That's our responsibility. We cant just sit on the side line and say ''oh well its none of my business, ill just watch that lady get run over'' Crimson was absolutely correct on this to speak up.
That's our responsibility. We cant just sit on the side line and say ''oh well its none of my business, ill just watch that lady get run over'' Crimson was absolutely correct on this to speak up.
Churches these days are projections of their culture.
It's not the same environment of 1st century Middle East.
Americanised churches scare me. We have them in Australia. It's like: Who are these people? So weird. Why is everyone dressed similarly and have similar haircuts. Why are 50 year old Dads walking around trying to look 20 something and trendy.
Also, everything seems like a Sales seminar.
The people in Hillsong music videos. That sort of fakeness.
Real people are broken, have ugly days, have saddness, have tragedy in their lives.
The early Christians were hunted, martyred, Crucified. St Peter was crucified upside down.
I don't get that, in these Music Video, Sales conference churches.
I think ostracizing single people is a reflection of this. Church is a lifestyle choice, instead of being a spiritual compulsion.
It's not the same environment of 1st century Middle East.
Americanised churches scare me. We have them in Australia. It's like: Who are these people? So weird. Why is everyone dressed similarly and have similar haircuts. Why are 50 year old Dads walking around trying to look 20 something and trendy.
Also, everything seems like a Sales seminar.
The people in Hillsong music videos. That sort of fakeness.
Real people are broken, have ugly days, have saddness, have tragedy in their lives.
The early Christians were hunted, martyred, Crucified. St Peter was crucified upside down.
I don't get that, in these Music Video, Sales conference churches.
I think ostracizing single people is a reflection of this. Church is a lifestyle choice, instead of being a spiritual compulsion.
The only problem I saw here is this..."I kept silent".
Why keep silent if you can say something?
How can a problem be resolved if everyone will just keep silent every time they feel something not right in a given situation or when someone says something offensive to them?
This is a very common problem I saw in the Church really. When a brother or sister said something offensive to them, then it's either they would stop going to church, or they would start saying lots of negative things behind that person's back, and so the problem gets even more complicated. Instead of dealing the problem right away they chose of making it worse.
Matthew 18:15 says, if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.
It's just the mindset they have that if you are single then you have less obligations, less responsibilities and you have more time compared to married ones. If I was that single woman I'd just politely tell them my situation and I can't, I don't think their minds are that narrow not to understand my situation. If nobody would tell those people what is wrong or what you feel about it, then they will keep doing what they're doing and you will keep feeling what you're feeling right now.
Why keep silent if you can say something?
How can a problem be resolved if everyone will just keep silent every time they feel something not right in a given situation or when someone says something offensive to them?
This is a very common problem I saw in the Church really. When a brother or sister said something offensive to them, then it's either they would stop going to church, or they would start saying lots of negative things behind that person's back, and so the problem gets even more complicated. Instead of dealing the problem right away they chose of making it worse.
Matthew 18:15 says, if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.
It's just the mindset they have that if you are single then you have less obligations, less responsibilities and you have more time compared to married ones. If I was that single woman I'd just politely tell them my situation and I can't, I don't think their minds are that narrow not to understand my situation.
If nobody would tell those people what is wrong or what you feel about it, then they will keep doing what they're doing and you will keep feeling what you're feeling right now.
When that woman said that to me about Tara I was very angry and I would have destroyed her verbally. I needed to wait until a better time to confront her when my temper was down and I could address her with rationality. I did confront that same woman about another matter involving singles a short time later and we absolutely did not see eye to eye. People are not always rational.
But the point of my post was not to get the judgement/opinion of others on my behavior but to spur people to think about how singles are treated.
