This is just a question I thought of this morning and felt it was an interesting question to pose in this forum.
What is it that makes a person stand out to us among all the other people we see and interact with??
Is it physical beauty? Is it their personality? Is it something about them that reminds us of someone we are close to? Is it something mysterious or spiritual? What are your thoughts on this...
AND also..... what are your thoughts on why we're only attracted to just one or two people at a time even if there's a lot of people around like if you are at a social event or even at church. Is this Darwin's law in action??
Oddly enough, I have been thinking some on attraction the past couple of days too. So I'm looking forward to reading what people have to say in this thread.
As for me, I can definitely put my finger on some things..others not so much.
There are two big things that make a woman stand out to me.
1) She loves God
2) She loves people
Jesus himself said those are the greatest two commandments. When a girl is truly doing her best to follow those things she is surely beautiful in my eyes. She is like-minded. There's a whole list of positive attributes that go along with that. Most anything I could list would be covered under those two things.
Then there is the connection. I can't explain that. I think when two people truly connect, words just can't really explain it. It can be instant. It's more mysterious and could be spritual too, as you stated.
I just can't fully explain why I'm drawn to certain people.
Looks can get my attention too, but beauty is certainly in the eye of the beholder..and doesn't even matter without the above in place.
For me, it's A LOT harder to find someone I truly connect with than it is to find a girl I think is cute/pretty/beautiful. So there I am going back to that mysterious connection.
I guess for me it comes down to those three areas. If all three are in place, then consider me in awe of such a person. Of course they'd likely live somewhere far away like Australia, the moon, or Pluto.
Miracles still happen though.
After thinking about this more, I wonder if you were talking only of
initial attraction? If so, I guess some of what I said is off topic a bit...I'm just going to leave it though. It's not like any other thread here stays completely on topic.
EDIT: Let me see if I can get this in before the edit time limit is up. I just read some of you mentioning voices. Oh my. A girl with a sweet voice (to my ears) most definitely grabs my attention. Why? That's one of those things I have no explanation for..
Okay and then there is the whole music thing. If a girl sings, or plays an instrument or both...Yep that's incredibly attractive. I do know the "why" there..because that person would better understand my passion for music, etc.