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Is is by choice? Is it not by choice? Sort of, its not time yet. To every relationship there is a time.
Is there something wrong with your personality? Yes, I expect too much from the deepest part of people.
Is there something wrong with theirs? Everyone seems to be all about making love a business transaction.
Is there a medical reason? Yes, I'm terminally handsome
Is the reason biblical? Spiritual perhaps? If by perhaps you mean perhaps then perhaps.
Mental or physical?
Do you have picky needs? Not in the traditional sense. I don't have very much patience for trivial stuff like talking about how tall the corn has grown or how hot it is today or what I had for breakfast.
Are you somewhere with slim pickings? Most Definitely. Its all horses farmin' and tumbleweeds here.
Is this too personal to ask? How do you spell this with out any R's?
Are you scared to ask them out? There is one, but yes, the cost is too great to go now. I don't want to "Learn a Lesson" or just "try hard" perhaps someday, something will come of it but, I like playing for keeps not for experience points.
Are you silently discouraging yourself? I think I'm more picky than discouraging.
Do people think you're over confident? Most of my friends do.
Are your standards so high you can't find them? No... because I have before. My standards are based on my experience, not really my ideals.
Do you care to make a change/improvement to what ever or who ever you are? Yes, but... nothing that compromises my values. I'm not talking about an Objective set of Christian Moral values. I'm talking about whether or not to be silent for the sake of peace, when there is some kind of injustice occurring.
Why are you single? For me it is because if I am going to have a relationship/marriage that is meaningful enough that I can call it the love of my life, I need to know that it the relationship has the capacity to last. Right now everything feels like a compromise of some kind. Not a physical compromise(like a missing leg or something),rather a hindrance to their ability to be free, or engage in a meaningful loving relationship.
Its like wanting a car and discovering that there is one which is close to what I'm looking for, only it has no transmission or no engine or 230,000 miles 3 coats of paint and the previous owner replaced the interior with walmart "street" garbage.
Is there something wrong with your personality? Yes, I expect too much from the deepest part of people.
Is there something wrong with theirs? Everyone seems to be all about making love a business transaction.
Is there a medical reason? Yes, I'm terminally handsome
Is the reason biblical? Spiritual perhaps? If by perhaps you mean perhaps then perhaps.
Mental or physical?
Do you have picky needs? Not in the traditional sense. I don't have very much patience for trivial stuff like talking about how tall the corn has grown or how hot it is today or what I had for breakfast.
Are you somewhere with slim pickings? Most Definitely. Its all horses farmin' and tumbleweeds here.
Is this too personal to ask? How do you spell this with out any R's?
Are you scared to ask them out? There is one, but yes, the cost is too great to go now. I don't want to "Learn a Lesson" or just "try hard" perhaps someday, something will come of it but, I like playing for keeps not for experience points.
Are you silently discouraging yourself? I think I'm more picky than discouraging.
Do people think you're over confident? Most of my friends do.
Are your standards so high you can't find them? No... because I have before. My standards are based on my experience, not really my ideals.
Do you care to make a change/improvement to what ever or who ever you are? Yes, but... nothing that compromises my values. I'm not talking about an Objective set of Christian Moral values. I'm talking about whether or not to be silent for the sake of peace, when there is some kind of injustice occurring.
Why are you single? For me it is because if I am going to have a relationship/marriage that is meaningful enough that I can call it the love of my life, I need to know that it the relationship has the capacity to last. Right now everything feels like a compromise of some kind. Not a physical compromise(like a missing leg or something),rather a hindrance to their ability to be free, or engage in a meaningful loving relationship.
Its like wanting a car and discovering that there is one which is close to what I'm looking for, only it has no transmission or no engine or 230,000 miles 3 coats of paint and the previous owner replaced the interior with walmart "street" garbage.
Is is by choice? Is it not by choice? Nope, I want to be attached.
Is there something wrong with your personality? No idea.
Is there something wrong with theirs? Yes, women do not know what in blazes they want. They say they do, but they don't.
Is there a medical reason? Nope.
Is the reason biblical? Spiritual perhaps? Perhaps
Mental or physical? I have no idea.
Do you have picky needs? Come to think of it, no. I'm willing to make negotiations.
Are you somewhere with slim pickings? As of now? Yes. A few months from now? No.
Is this too personal to ask? Nothing is to personal to ask.
Are you scared to ask them out? Yes, because I'm afraid it will never work out in the long term. Hey look! I'm correct nine times out of ten!
Are you silently discouraging yourself? Never.
Do people think you're over confident? Depends on who you ask.
Are your standards so high you can't find them? I would have said yes a long time ago, but no.
Do you care to make a change/improvement to what ever or who ever you are? Nope. Life already does that for you if you are wise.
Why are you single? I have absolutely no clue. I am kind of weird. I think that is part of it, but I really don't know.
Is there something wrong with your personality? No idea.
Is there something wrong with theirs? Yes, women do not know what in blazes they want. They say they do, but they don't.
Is there a medical reason? Nope.
Is the reason biblical? Spiritual perhaps? Perhaps
Mental or physical? I have no idea.
Do you have picky needs? Come to think of it, no. I'm willing to make negotiations.
Are you somewhere with slim pickings? As of now? Yes. A few months from now? No.
Is this too personal to ask? Nothing is to personal to ask.
Are you scared to ask them out? Yes, because I'm afraid it will never work out in the long term. Hey look! I'm correct nine times out of ten!
Are you silently discouraging yourself? Never.
Do people think you're over confident? Depends on who you ask.
Are your standards so high you can't find them? I would have said yes a long time ago, but no.
Do you care to make a change/improvement to what ever or who ever you are? Nope. Life already does that for you if you are wise.
Why are you single? I have absolutely no clue. I am kind of weird. I think that is part of it, but I really don't know.
Why not I'll do the questionnaire form too
Is is by choice? Is it not by choice? It's definitely by choice
Is there something wrong with your personality? most likely
Is there something wrong with theirs? All of theirs(no offense, youre still great people)
Is there a medical reason? Nope.
Is the reason biblical? Spiritual perhaps? Nope. Nope.
Mental or physical? Nope.
Do you have picky needs? Most definitely
Are you somewhere with slim pickings? As of now? No. A few months from now? No.
Is this too personal to ask? Nothing is to personal to ask.
Are you scared to ask them out? Nope, but then I dont really make an effort
Are you silently discouraging yourself? Nope
Do people think you're over confident? Depends on who you ask.
Are your standards so high you can't find them? Possibly but i dont believe so
Do you care to make a change/improvement to what ever or who ever you are? Maybe, but it would have to be something special
Why are you single? Totally choice, I enjoy being single.
Is is by choice? Is it not by choice? It's definitely by choice
Is there something wrong with your personality? most likely
Is there something wrong with theirs? All of theirs(no offense, youre still great people)
Is there a medical reason? Nope.
Is the reason biblical? Spiritual perhaps? Nope. Nope.
Mental or physical? Nope.
Do you have picky needs? Most definitely
Are you somewhere with slim pickings? As of now? No. A few months from now? No.
Is this too personal to ask? Nothing is to personal to ask.
Are you scared to ask them out? Nope, but then I dont really make an effort
Are you silently discouraging yourself? Nope
Do people think you're over confident? Depends on who you ask.
Are your standards so high you can't find them? Possibly but i dont believe so
Do you care to make a change/improvement to what ever or who ever you are? Maybe, but it would have to be something special
Why are you single? Totally choice, I enjoy being single.
I could say by choice since my last relationship I ended after six months and had I been dying to get married I could have married her. Yes, I want to get married, but I choose to stay single until the right woman comes along. I don't think I'm overly picky in my standards for a mate, but it seems that the few non-negotiable traits are difficult (not impossible) to come by in a woman in my age group.
I'm thinking that if one perceives a potential spouse as a pair of underwear that's a size or two too small, dodging marriage probably won't be a problem.
I really did try to behave. No. No. Seriously! I did! I think Snacker's slipped over to my house and typed this.
I really did try to behave. No. No. Seriously! I did! I think Snacker's slipped over to my house and typed this.
As to why I'm still single........Hopefully it's because it just hasn't been in God's plan for me to get married yet (maybe never). I'm sure that by now I could have hoodwinked some poor hapless guy who didn't realize what he was getting himself into, but...........I'm not interested in just "finding someone". If I'm meant to be married, I want it to be THE One......I don't know if he even exists, but I'm not settling for anyone else
Besides, if we have Jesus, we aren't really "single,"' are we?
^^^Not meant to sound overly-spiritualized, my apologies if it did
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I'm single because I haven't met a man who fits me.
I thought I had that man, but I realize that his only purpose in my life was to meet his grandfather who is the reason I came back to God. He asked us one Sunday to go to church, and that day I re-dedicated my life to God. Then for 6 months after my relationship went downhill because I was growing closer to God, and my boyfriend called me a fanatic.
We were living together at the time. I felt guilty living in sin and he didn't. We broke up, and it devistated both of us. Tried to get back together but he wanted the physical relationship back, and I felt guilty everytime. He eventually broke up with me.
That was last November. Since then I have grown closer to God and have come through a lot. I tried dating a guy who said he was Christian, but when it came to the no sex before marriage convo, he said if two people love each other and are in a commited relationship it's ok. I stopped seeing him.
I would love to meet someone, but I have yet to find someone who loves God as much as I do and is committed to living biblically like I am in my area. I tried the dating sites and they are a joke, including Christian Mingle.
I'm just trying to live my life for God and my family, and if the right guy comes a long I will take a serious look at dating again.
So far God hasn't said "that's your husband", but I know he's coming.
I have prophetic friends, and have been given a timeline when I will meet him, and God confirmed it in prayer. Until then I have been praying for my husband every night. I pray for his health, his finances, his happiness, and whatever else God lays on my heart to pray for him. I know he is praying for me too.
When I'm the wife he deserves he is going to show up and love me like I have always deseved to be loved. Until then I'm growing in my calling from God, studying the bible, and serving His kingdom.
I'm not picky. I'm just letting God pick this time, because I always pick the wrong one!
I thought I had that man, but I realize that his only purpose in my life was to meet his grandfather who is the reason I came back to God. He asked us one Sunday to go to church, and that day I re-dedicated my life to God. Then for 6 months after my relationship went downhill because I was growing closer to God, and my boyfriend called me a fanatic.
We were living together at the time. I felt guilty living in sin and he didn't. We broke up, and it devistated both of us. Tried to get back together but he wanted the physical relationship back, and I felt guilty everytime. He eventually broke up with me.
That was last November. Since then I have grown closer to God and have come through a lot. I tried dating a guy who said he was Christian, but when it came to the no sex before marriage convo, he said if two people love each other and are in a commited relationship it's ok. I stopped seeing him.
I would love to meet someone, but I have yet to find someone who loves God as much as I do and is committed to living biblically like I am in my area. I tried the dating sites and they are a joke, including Christian Mingle.
I'm just trying to live my life for God and my family, and if the right guy comes a long I will take a serious look at dating again.
So far God hasn't said "that's your husband", but I know he's coming.
I have prophetic friends, and have been given a timeline when I will meet him, and God confirmed it in prayer. Until then I have been praying for my husband every night. I pray for his health, his finances, his happiness, and whatever else God lays on my heart to pray for him. I know he is praying for me too.
When I'm the wife he deserves he is going to show up and love me like I have always deseved to be loved. Until then I'm growing in my calling from God, studying the bible, and serving His kingdom.
I'm not picky. I'm just letting God pick this time, because I always pick the wrong one!
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I have some people that have been causing me problems and actually also standing in way of my having a love life.
A man with a wife wanted to marry me and i said no.
they were using me and abusing and were truly not nice and threatening and other illegal things.
Im always alone and isolated and am also very cautious with meeting people.
Am on dating site and thinking of joining christian mingle again but have also had computer hacked and monitored etc
Joined match.com and paid for it but was like a locked site/page there.
I left site without waiting end of time.
Those on other site asked add contact were young and i felt they were not good or right for each other.
They may want children and some other reasons.
I dont go out often , so dont "bump in" to any one at the super market or other places.
I really am serious that its to be a true main and a good man for and to me and until i cleared things up in court etc that holds me back also.
That is some reasons.
I truly would like to meet someone God willing for me and marry he.
May pray for it.
But do not want to be with these people that have been stalking and crime to me etc and untill thats cleared up and they removed from me I am in greef for it all.
would love marry and for us dance every week, live with some animals and horses and work and play and love and go church and have blessed union and good true friends.
A man with a wife wanted to marry me and i said no.
they were using me and abusing and were truly not nice and threatening and other illegal things.
Im always alone and isolated and am also very cautious with meeting people.
Am on dating site and thinking of joining christian mingle again but have also had computer hacked and monitored etc
Joined match.com and paid for it but was like a locked site/page there.
I left site without waiting end of time.
Those on other site asked add contact were young and i felt they were not good or right for each other.
They may want children and some other reasons.
I dont go out often , so dont "bump in" to any one at the super market or other places.
I really am serious that its to be a true main and a good man for and to me and until i cleared things up in court etc that holds me back also.
That is some reasons.
I truly would like to meet someone God willing for me and marry he.
May pray for it.
But do not want to be with these people that have been stalking and crime to me etc and untill thats cleared up and they removed from me I am in greef for it all.
would love marry and for us dance every week, live with some animals and horses and work and play and love and go church and have blessed union and good true friends.
So, why are you single? Well, am single at this point in time; It seems. Is is by choice? No - weird issues were the reason last time. Is it not by choice? Refer previous answer. Is there something wrong with your personality? Nope - just different - some like it Is there something wrong with theirs? Go figure - trying to work that one out still ?? Is there a medical reason? Nope. Is the reason biblical? Not that I can see. Spiritual perhaps? Spiritual influences? - maybe. Mental or physical? Nope. You you have picky needs? I have a certain standard and certain types that I am drawn to. Are you somewhere with slim pickings? There is not a large range to choose from that suit me. Is this too personal to ask? Borderline. Are you scared to ask them out? Nope. Are you silently discouraging yourself? Nope. Do people think you're over confident? Don't think so. Are your standards so high you can find them? Maybe. Do you even care to make a change/improvement to what ever or who ever you are? Always
Why are you single? Maybe you should ask 'Why are you unmarried - and - why are you single'
Am Unmarried because I have not found the right person that: a) I felt so deeply about them I wanted to marry them - which if so; would lead to: b) that I was confident enough would last the distance: and those that came close didn't...although it is something I wish for...only with that 'right person'...
Am single; because things didn't work out with my last lady friend...
Is there something wrong with theirs? Go figure - trying to work that one out still ?? Is there a medical reason? Nope. Is the reason biblical? Not that I can see. Spiritual perhaps? Spiritual influences? - maybe. Mental or physical? Nope. You you have picky needs? I have a certain standard and certain types that I am drawn to. Are you somewhere with slim pickings? There is not a large range to choose from that suit me. Is this too personal to ask? Borderline. Are you scared to ask them out? Nope. Are you silently discouraging yourself? Nope. Do people think you're over confident? Don't think so. Are your standards so high you can find them? Maybe. Do you even care to make a change/improvement to what ever or who ever you are? Always Why are you single? Maybe you should ask 'Why are you unmarried - and - why are you single'
Am Unmarried because I have not found the right person that: a) I felt so deeply about them I wanted to marry them - which if so; would lead to: b) that I was confident enough would last the distance: and those that came close didn't...although it is something I wish for...only with that 'right person'...
Am single; because things didn't work out with my last lady friend...
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