Would You Work at a Job You Hate--to Support the Family You Love?
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I think if you have a family you have a responsibility. If you have no job..get one, it doesnt matter if you hate it - your love for your family should be stronger, than your own work preference. while working try and find something you like better. I am speaking from a mans point of view here. You are no longer a boy whining about school work you don't want to do. Now I am not advocating that women stay at home and dont work, if you want to work thats fine, if you don't thats fine aswell. Maybe I have an old fashioned view but thats how I see it.
There's also a bigger issue involved regarding work... it's a spiritual one.
There's also a bigger issue involved regarding work... it's a spiritual one.
X
My Dad has instilled in me the idea that you do what it takes to take of yourself and your family. Regardless, and never be ashamed of your job. If you work hard, honor God, and love your family you should not be afraid of such a challenge. (Doesn't mean I wouldn't continue looking for a better opportunity, but I wouldn't resent my job. In such a situation I'd be thankful to have income. (No option in the poll for this? Tsk tsk.)
On another angle at this, you have no business having a wife and family if you don't plan on hard times coming. This is serious. It's no easy task, life's not fair all the time.... It would hurt me terribly to give the impression to my wife that she isn't worth doing what it takes to provide. To rescind on the marriage vows made to God? Noooo way. I wouldn't give it a second thought.
On another angle at this, you have no business having a wife and family if you don't plan on hard times coming. This is serious. It's no easy task, life's not fair all the time.... It would hurt me terribly to give the impression to my wife that she isn't worth doing what it takes to provide. To rescind on the marriage vows made to God? Noooo way. I wouldn't give it a second thought.
I appreciate your feedback! 
As for not having this as an option for a poll--this is why I always leave a disclaimer of "other"--so that people can include an answer that may have not been listed.
And, I always ask the person giving this kind of feedback to please write a few polls of their own and then get back to me with suggestions. It's really easy to say what should or should not be included--if you haven't written many polls yourself.
Some polls literally take me an hour to write (not even including the original post), so I'm always looking for other poll-writers with whom I can share experiences. If you write polls as well, I'd love to exchange ideas!
For some polls, I've even put down the maximum amount of answers allowed (40), and then people will say, "There were too many answers... I didn't read anything past number 5..." LOL! It's a no-win situation, so that's why I always ask people to please include their thoughts in a post, as you did.
As for not having this as an option for a poll--this is why I always leave a disclaimer of "other"--so that people can include an answer that may have not been listed.
And, I always ask the person giving this kind of feedback to please write a few polls of their own and then get back to me with suggestions. It's really easy to say what should or should not be included--if you haven't written many polls yourself.
Some polls literally take me an hour to write (not even including the original post), so I'm always looking for other poll-writers with whom I can share experiences. If you write polls as well, I'd love to exchange ideas!
For some polls, I've even put down the maximum amount of answers allowed (40), and then people will say, "There were too many answers... I didn't read anything past number 5..." LOL!
It's a no-win situation, so that's why I always ask people to please include their thoughts in a post, as you did.
S
I already work a job I hate; it was originally intended to be the second income and life just didn't go the way it was supposed to for lack of a better way to put it. I have tried to find something else, and going back to school is way too much for me with everything else going on in my life. I wouldn't be so concerned about it if it was just me, I could work 3 part time jobs I like to support me but I have three kids still at home that I need to take care of. My only hope is I can actually retire one day.
M
The question of what is an awful job, is an interesting one.
I have had a handful of jobs over the years - long term ones. They
all started out great and what made them great was the managers and
owners I worked for.
It is possible to have a boring job for example but if the managers treat staff
like actual people, rather than automated processing monkeys, then it makes
a world of difference.
Unforturnately each job has gradually gone down the drain at some point.
Execs put pressure on managers who in turn put pressure on those lower
down the food chain and so on. Until eventually stats and targets become
the all important aspect and staff moral goes out of the window. Or
sometimes the owners change or managers change and the new bosses
just want to throw their weight around.
If you can find a good manager they are worth their weight in gold regardless
of the job - at least that is my opinion.
There are times also when you just have to knuckle down grit your teeth and
get on with things, but the best thing in this situation is to also be on the
look out for another job and in the meantime, learn as many new skills as
possible.
I have had a handful of jobs over the years - long term ones. They
all started out great and what made them great was the managers and
owners I worked for.
It is possible to have a boring job for example but if the managers treat staff
like actual people, rather than automated processing monkeys, then it makes
a world of difference.
Unforturnately each job has gradually gone down the drain at some point.
Execs put pressure on managers who in turn put pressure on those lower
down the food chain and so on. Until eventually stats and targets become
the all important aspect and staff moral goes out of the window. Or
sometimes the owners change or managers change and the new bosses
just want to throw their weight around.
If you can find a good manager they are worth their weight in gold regardless
of the job - at least that is my opinion.
There are times also when you just have to knuckle down grit your teeth and
get on with things, but the best thing in this situation is to also be on the
look out for another job and in the meantime, learn as many new skills as
possible.
X
For some polls, I've even put down the maximum amount of answers allowed (40), and then people will say, "There were too many answers... I didn't read anything past number 5..." LOL! It's a no-win situation, so that's why I always ask people to please include their thoughts in a post, as you did.
It's a no-win situation, so that's why I always ask people to please include their thoughts in a post, as you did.
. (Of course in the future, let's have a poll for each individual. What is that, like 322 million for the country? Should be easy enough.)
L
When I was a junior in high school, my Dad lost his job, so both he and my Mom went to work at the local horse boarding and training facility. They cleaned stalls, fed horses, hauled water, etc. all to make enough money to pay the bills. In those days after I'd get home from school, I'd clean the house up and then start cooking supper - this is how I learned to cook a well as I can. So when Mom and Dad got home at 6 or 7, there was a clean house and a hot meal waiting for them. On weekends, I would go to work with them and help out.
My folks busted their butts for the benefit of our family. I don't know what went wrong with my upbringing, but I just don't have it in me to make that kind of sacrifice for others. Maybe it's because I knew I could never have a family so I never bothered to develop a sense of responsibility. *shrug*
My folks busted their butts for the benefit of our family. I don't know what went wrong with my upbringing, but I just don't have it in me to make that kind of sacrifice for others. Maybe it's because I knew I could never have a family so I never bothered to develop a sense of responsibility. *shrug*
M
People just have to do what they have to do. When life is "care free and fancy free"
with little to hold you back etc. Then it can seem as if a person just cares for
themself. But add a bit of responsibility into the mix later and you would be
surprised at what you are capable of.
I bet that when the time comes, you will find you have resources and
strengths within you that you never realised you had.
I should probably point out that what I mean by emotionally toxic is when you feel like death would be better than working another day in that place.. I've experienced that and I believe it has really hardened my heart.
I used to be a friendly, open and easy-going person. Now I am very wary of people and am very sensitive to things people say or do around me. I have a lot of social anxiety and am never too far from being depressed. This is why I say I learned the true meaning of that scripture (Above all else guard your heart...).
I used to be a friendly, open and easy-going person. Now I am very wary of people and am very sensitive to things people say or do around me. I have a lot of social anxiety and am never too far from being depressed. This is why I say I learned the true meaning of that scripture (Above all else guard your heart...).
J
YES, without a doubt. And I have done so when it is necessary. I even now have a 2nd job cleaning offices to give all the money to my brother to help manage medical costs. GOD gave me my wonderful family and I will help them no matter what. It isn't about pride or anything, except doing what is best by the people I love.
3
I spent my entire work life in an occupation I hated. Supermarket mangement.
Why? Because it payed well enough to support my family and the flexibility to fulfill my service to my Lord.
I often search for a different way, but never found the balance I needed.
After about 20 years, I realized it was God"s will and I began to give Him thanks, but just could never get over the hate for the job.
Why? Because it payed well enough to support my family and the flexibility to fulfill my service to my Lord.
I often search for a different way, but never found the balance I needed.
After about 20 years, I realized it was God"s will and I began to give Him thanks, but just could never get over the hate for the job.
M
I've been out of the work force for over five years, but that doesn't exclude me from answering, because I still do jobs I hate in order to support my family.
Cooking...and I mean every aspect of it, from creating a meal plan within our grocery budget, to prepping and cooking the food, to cleaning up afterwards.
I hate it, but it has to be done and it's my job to do it. I used to be horrible at it, all of it. I'd rush through making a meal plan and I'd be careless with the cooking and then I'd procrastinate on cleaning up because my attitude about it all was so bad. I didn't like it, I was frustrated that I wasn't good at it, so why put any real effort into it? Why not just feed my family prepackaged or frozen stuff that was Easy, to make My job easier?
When me and the kids came back home after me and my husband had been separated two winters ago, God dealt with me about...a lot of things...including my attitude about caring for my family properly. About doing things I don't like, and doing them cheerfully, because I love my husband and kids. The more I focus on what my family needs and what is good for them, the less I dwell on how much I dislike being in the kitchen. The more I serve my family out of love for them, the more the quality of my cooking improves.
I'm never going to be a chef, I may never truly enjoy cooking the way a lot of people do...but I do enjoy taking care of my family's needs, and that takes away the burdened feeling of doing jobs I hate.
Cooking...and I mean every aspect of it, from creating a meal plan within our grocery budget, to prepping and cooking the food, to cleaning up afterwards.
I hate it, but it has to be done and it's my job to do it. I used to be horrible at it, all of it. I'd rush through making a meal plan and I'd be careless with the cooking and then I'd procrastinate on cleaning up because my attitude about it all was so bad. I didn't like it, I was frustrated that I wasn't good at it, so why put any real effort into it? Why not just feed my family prepackaged or frozen stuff that was Easy, to make My job easier?
When me and the kids came back home after me and my husband had been separated two winters ago, God dealt with me about...a lot of things...including my attitude about caring for my family properly. About doing things I don't like, and doing them cheerfully, because I love my husband and kids. The more I focus on what my family needs and what is good for them, the less I dwell on how much I dislike being in the kitchen. The more I serve my family out of love for them, the more the quality of my cooking improves.
I'm never going to be a chef, I may never truly enjoy cooking the way a lot of people do...but I do enjoy taking care of my family's needs, and that takes away the burdened feeling of doing jobs I hate.