Writing to future spouse

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rachelsedge

rachelsedge

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I think it's a sweet idea and I don't look down on anyone who does it, but I personally don't think I ever would/will. I am not guaranteed to get married. "Oh, Rachel, I'm sure you'll get married!" Will I? Maybe. Probably. But it is not a guarantee, and therefore, I don't want to write letters to someone who may be nonexistent. I don't want unrealistic expectations for myself or about him.

Before anyone accuses me of being unromantic or heartless, if I ever do have a boyfriend/fiance/husband, I'd love for us to write to each other. I'd love to leave notes in the house, or in his pocket, or in his work bag. I would love to write letters to someone I know, who is in my life. Just my personal viewpoint.
 
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UpstateNYChristianBro

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I have written letters to my future bride. And my autobiography that is still in the form of a manuscript. She can learn a lot about me historically this way and how I felt as time went by.

And it is a proof of my written testimony of how I search for her through the years.

Glad I am not only one written letters here! God truly bless you all. :)

I also have prayed for her health, needs, whatever I do not know at the moment she needs to pray and I am sure she already has written me letters and said prayers for me, her unknown future husband.
 
maxwel

maxwel

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I am definitely going to start writing letters to my future spouse NOW,

because after we're married... I may not feel like talking to her.

: )
 
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Tintin

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I think it's a beautiful gesture but I'm not sure that I could write to someone I don't know. I enjoy writing stories but even writing to someone I do know is a challenge at times. I think that would change if I was in a serious relationship with someone. The motivation would be there. Hmmm...
 
Desdichado

Desdichado

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Feb 9, 2014
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Tintin said:
I think it's a beautiful gesture but I'm not sure that I could write to someone I don't know. I enjoy writing stories but even writing to someone I do know is a challenge at times. I think that would change if I was in a serious relationship with someone. The motivation would be there. Hmmm...
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I agree entirely. I'll write poems about women I'm talking with and, should I date them, I give them my poems.

Letters are very personal things and to be honest, I would feel rather strange if I was handed a bunch of letters a girl had written to "me" for years and they didn't match our established pattern of communication or gloss over idiosyncrasies. It would be like getting one of those form letters from a company or a department of the government.

Not to bash the exercise entirely. I think it is sweet people still do things like this, but if I am perfectly honest, I would prefer letters written to me when I was actually a known factor.
 
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