So Shes Pregnant...?

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Brother_J_BELGIUM

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yes. they only found out today tho
I think the best thing to do (yet not the easiest) is that your parents and her parents come together and have a talk about this, maybe they will be able to pursue them not to do the...thing the girl wants to do in the hospital. I wish you good luck. Pray for it as well and confess your sin, it can be forgiven.
 

PopClick

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Sorry, zoii but you're wrong. It's PRE-natal care. Pre means "before". Ante means "after." :)
No. Prenatal and antenatal are synonyms. They mean the same thing. Zoii is correct.
 
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oh :/ we didnt consider that. hm she hasnt even told them yet and i promised her i wouldnt tell anyone so i dont know ill talk to her about it and try and get her to tell them first

You need to tell someone! Abortion is NOT the right choice. Abortion is murder in Gods eyes. . The baby deserves the right to live. You should not have promised. Your going to have to break that promise. Plz, YOU take the lead and go talk to someone whether she wants to or not. You said you wanted to do the right thing right? Go talk to your parents and hers asap.Adults can help you two through this . I pray you turn your life around and follow God from this point forward. You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. Phil 4:13
Make Godly choices. May the Lord guide you in your decisions young man.
 
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Just so you know! I neglected to tell you. Im not coming down on you! Ask God to forgive you and dont make this mistake again. God will see you through this if you truly look to him to guide you. May the Lord give you wisdom and strength.Amen
 
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Sorry, zoii but you're wrong. It's PRE-natal care. Pre means "before". Ante means "after." :)
No actually - truly - antenatal is the during pregnancy care - ie before birth. Americans tend to use the word pre-natal.. After birth its called postnatal


Ive attached a few links for you to check
antenatal - definition of antenatal by The Free Dictionary
Antenatal | Definition of antenatal by Merriam-Webster
Definition of “antenatal” | Collins English Dictionary
 
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I try not to get involved or intervene in the Teen Section being far past those years. I read your story here though. It is a hard thing for you to be but a boy and yet to have to now be a man. Take comfort in Jesus and be a man therefore no matter which way the lot falls.
 
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Levichevett

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her parents want her to abort it. my parents dont particularly care what happens and they say if she wants a abortion then to just leave her to it. her dad essentially hates me and doesnt want me to talk to her anymore. oh and her dad is booking her for a private clinic rather then the nhs and hes wanting my parents to pay for it all so now their mad at me as well and no one can see that none of this is helping the situation and a abortion is defiently not the solution here.
 

mailmandan

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Having sex at age 14? Wow! I must have been a late bloomer. :eek:
 
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her parents want her to abort it. my parents dont particularly care what happens and they say if she wants a abortion then to just leave her to it. her dad essentially hates me and doesnt want me to talk to her anymore. oh and her dad is booking her for a private clinic rather then the nhs and hes wanting my parents to pay for it all so now their mad at me as well and no one can see that none of this is helping the situation and a abortion is defiently not the solution here.
I agree with Broth J Belgium. It may help if you have access to a social worker or Dr or counsellor who can pull you all together to discuss this in a way that wont fall apart into an argument.

The person though, in my opinion, who should have the loudest voice in this is your GF. She is the one who is pregnant. She is the one who is carrying the physical and mental risks. She is the one who will have most spiritual risks as well. If you could all get together and think about her and the growing child in a way that respects each other (and this is where a counsellor or social worker can help mediate), then at least your Christian view may have a better chance of being heard.

btw - did u say how old ur gf is?

Good luck and bless
Zoii
 
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Mizpa

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Hi, levichevitt. First, if you are a christian you need to stand firm to say NO to the abortion. Don't make another mistake. Learn from your mistake. Abortion is like you killed somebody. Bring the girl with you to seek advice to your pastor or to godly woman in your church. Or else you will try to explain to her to keep the baby. You need both of you to face the consequence. Abortion is not the solution. On the other hand, God will help you to overcome this problem you in but you need to do your part.
 
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Rosesrock

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Um, well you personally need to slow way down. She says shes pregnant....you know this?? Most states have 48 hour pre abortion counseling requirement with proof of pregnancy. For you, you say you had sex awhile back...so you may not be responsible. I think this is a huge wake up call for you. And yes i would tell your parents.
Honestly, this is an internet site and you should totally be asking your parents advice.
 
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Rosesrock

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her parents want her to abort it. my parents dont particularly care what happens and they say if she wants a abortion then to just leave her to it. her dad essentially hates me and doesnt want me to talk to her anymore. oh and her dad is booking her for a private clinic rather then the nhs and hes wanting my parents to pay for it all so now their mad at me as well and no one can see that none of this is helping the situation and a abortion is defiently not the solution here.
Now that ive read this.....im sorry to say since dad's of unborn children have no rights, and they cant prove youre the father, why would they want you to pay?? Its a very bad situation, im sorry. The crisis pregnancy place i work at has great resources for everyone in a situation like this. How about suggest that?
Btw private clinics are run just like others
 
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Levichevett

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I agree with Broth J Belgium. It may help if you have access to a social worker or Dr or counsellor who can pull you all together to discuss this in a way that wont fall apart into an argument.

The person though, in my opinion, who should have the loudest voice in this is your GF. She is the one who is pregnant. She is the one who is carrying the physical and mental risks. She is the one who will have most spiritual risks as well. If you could all get together and think about her and the growing child in a way that respects each other (and this is where a counsellor or social worker can help mediate), then at least your Christian view may have a better chance of being heard.

btw - did u say how old ur gf is?

Good luck and bless
Zoii
ill have a look and try to arrange something like that thanks ^_^ and shes 14 as well
 

NateDaGrimes

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Tell her family, they need to know what their children are going through.
 
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Levichevett

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her parents know now but they support her getting a abortion
 
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So you said her parents support the abortion and your parents dont really care?
It sounds like it has turned into a blame game as well. She is as much responsible for this pregnancy as you are . It really saddens me to hear about this mess. Sin does have consequences that are lasting .Have you sought out a pastor to be your adult advocate concerning the abortion? You need to move fast! Fight for the life of this baby. May the Lord guide your footsteps.Amen
 
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Levichevett

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So you said her parents support the abortion and your parents dont really care?
It sounds like it has turned into a blame game as well. She is as much responsible for this pregnancy as you are . It really saddens me to hear about this mess. Sin does have consequences that are lasting .Have you sought out a pastor to be your adult advocate concerning the abortion? You need to move fast! Fight for the life of this baby. May the Lord guide your footsteps.Amen
i dont go to church so i dont really know any pastors i can go to