Pornography, Sexual Immorality, and Society

[pinkstix56]

I agree with what SamIam said, and to include to what he said, I believe that you should also start memorizing scripture so that you can use it when the enmey tries to come against you. And also stand in front of your mirror and say to yourself that you accept yourself , and that you love yourself ,and that you are righteousness in Christ. Do this every morning if you have to.

 

[Grimaldus]

I agree with what SamIam said, and to include to what he said, I believe that you should also start memorizing scripture so that you can use it when the enmey tries to come against you. And also stand in front of your mirror and say to yourself that you accept yourself , and that you love yourself ,and that you are righteousness in Christ. Do this every morning if you have to.

Memorizing scripture won't help you. Understand it. Interpret it. Apply it.

 

[TIWIH777]

Hi,
I have finished my high school this march ,and my college starts only after 2 months.but in the meantime I alone at home 'cause both of my parents work.so I surf net too much,and I have started seeing porn,but after a while I feel dirty .and when I see my parents I feel ugly .I feel as if I'm cheating them can anyone here help me?

Yep. Getting out of there is the best way. It's radical, but why fight a battle if you can avoid it? Pray for help to resist the temptation and, most importantly, realize your not perfect and don't beat yourself up too much. It takes practice, but eventually you'll be able to get back on and not give a hoot for it. Try not to even consider the option. Totally eliminate the cause. Why fight a battle you can skip?

 

[TIWIH777]

Oh, and start doing this now. It's best to get out of porn ASAP; otherwise it's gets harder to get out as you get more and more obsessed with it. Don't dig a trench; fill the hole with something good.

 

[Baptistrw]

I personally dont believe masterbation is a grey area.... I feel it is a cop out to say otherwise. Most men would like to make that excuse to themselves so they may continue doing it. Obviously your thoughts are not in the right place while your doing it... and the reason why you are gonna do it is because you feel you need that sexual release. Well your not gonna explode if you dont get it. My personal belief is ... its never okay to do that. And thats what i got to say bout that

And you are totally correct. Lust is sin. Not a gray area.

 

[SamIam]

And you are totally correct. Lust is sin. Not a gray area.

Thank you. not many people see it that way.

 

[Boxme]

I'm 23 and moved past that stuff but I have

-looked at porn
-masturbated
-gone to strip clubs and gotten lap dances and other things.
-had premarital sex. I lost my virginity on a 1 night stand, actually.

NONE of it is fulfilling in the long run. You're chasing the thing that only you and your partner can really truly enjoy together.

Find a nice man or woman and cut that stuff out of your life.

 

[TIWIH777]

oh hey guys to clear it up: when i said i thought masturbation was a grey area, i meant perhaps without lust and all the other bad stuff one could do it just for the kick and it be pure. well, as i said that was a no go.

lust is not a grey area.

i still struggle with resisting masturbation. the best method i've found is to simply ignore, not fight but outright remove from my mind the desire to do it. it's fairly effective. of course, there's that good old thing called prayer (it works, no lie) haha

 

[SethSethSeth]

I wonder how many marriages have been destroyed by porn.

I know one, mine....

Yeah, porn = PHAILZ.

 

[pinkstix56]

for grimaldus- memorizing is understanding learning it and applying it...have you been doing that lately? it also is a good method to use when you are being attacked

 

[Grimaldus]

for grimaldus- memorizing is understanding learning it and applying it...have you been doing that lately? it also is a good method to use when you are being attacked

Yes, but probably not for the same reasons as you...

 

[nautola]

I don't understand why masturbation is wrong. Granted, I am not a very religious person but I have recently decided to begin reading the bible. I don't see how it hurts anyone. I masturbate daily and nothing bad has ever come from it. I masturbate when convenient and occasionally I will watch porn while doing so, but who cares. I don't see where all this negativity is coming from.

However, I do see how some people can develop some kind of addiction to masturbating and how that could end up being a problem. For instance if my masturbating were getting in the way of me doing something I wanted to, or achieving some goal I have set, I would stop. I will give you that some people who sit at their computers all day and look at porn have a problem and they should seek some kind of help, but this is also true with alcohol. Some people can drink in a reasonable amount and have no ill consequences. However, some people struggle with addiction to alcohol and it can result in serious repercussions.

I understand that from what you all say that in the bible it says to keep oneself pure. However, this is not specifically targeted at masturbating. I think that is just a complicated way to say that you should keep out of trouble and run with a good crowd.

I am not trying to say that you are wrong, or be disrespectful, but rather I want to discover what makes you all believe what you do and how your interpretations of the bible differ from my own.

 

[TIWIH777]

alright nautola. here's the deal man.

you said you were not very religious. i'm not going to bible bash you. i encourage you in your reading of the bible and hope you will read it with the right intentions. i also hope yhou will seek christ and com eto know him and his grace love and mercy

here's what all of us are getting at. as christians we are called to a higher standard. purity. jesus says that even lookikng at a woman lustfully is sinful. so, we aspire not to do so. that means none of it. mastrubatino (with or without porn) is bad cuz it can corrupt your mind.

i tried to mastrubate and do porn. i wworked with god to trya nd make it not sinful. guess what? nope. not a cahnce. now i want to do neither. it's all about a pure mind. the question to ask yourself is "i might slip up. my mind might not be pure. i could get addicted. i am risking mhyself to sin. is that what god watns from me?" and so i say why take the risk? control the sex drive. starve the sumo that is sex drive.

this is a personal choice man. it's up to you. i hope you will choose what is right.

olf course, i'm not perfect. i'm not 100% pure. i slip up as well. but we're human. that's what grace is for

 

[TIWIH777]

welll man one thing to realize is this: the reason we mastrubate is because we have an out of control sex drive. normally the world will say "hey it's normal". well it's just plain wrong. it can become addictive, it can enslave yuo, and it makes you feel like crud when you're done. I've had a hard time quitting as well.

try this:

pray that your desire to mastrubate would cease (and the desire to look at porn as well).

pray for real true strength to resist.

and pray that you would not be consumed with guilt, etc. you and god can do this.

As for your own action to take:

--get away from it
--get away from it
--GET AWAY FROM IT!!

no joke. the best way to get through a fight? avoid the battle! why walk under a bees nest with a ten foot pole coated in honey when you can just walk around it? seriously just get out of there. when you start to crave mastrubation get out fo there. don't spend too long in the shower. pray while taking a dump (seroiusly; whatever it takes to get it out of your mind)

HERE'S THE NUMBER 1 RULE

--GOD LOVES YOU NO MATTER WHAT. SO DON'T BE OVERWHELMED WITH GUILT. THAT'S WHAT GRACE IS FOR. IF YOU'RE NOT A CHRSTIAN THIS BATTLE WILL BE MUCH HARDER. I'M NOT FORCING YOU TO BECOME ONE, BUT IF YOU WANT TO STOP GOD IS SO MUCH BIGGER THAN YOU, I, OR YOUR FRIENDLY NEIBERHOOD PREACHERMAN. GOD IS THE WAY TO GO. REAL STRENGTH IS NOT BEING THE TOUGHEST GUY WHO CAN EAT LIKE A WHOLE TON OF HOTDOGS OR WALK THROUGH A FIRE IN BARE FEET. REAL STRENGHT COMES FROM EXPERIENCES AND GOD.

If you think you don't need him or hoenstly just dont' know if you want him or if it will work---try. Serioulsy. Just ask the man. he's there. god is stil faithful even when you're not. it's faith jsut to give him a shot. and i think you'll find it's way more than just a shot. rock on man.

 

[TIWIH777]

okay. i mean yeah it feels amazing it's sex man what do you want. but if you think about it it is really an emptiness. sex without real love is merely a physical kick. i'm with ya man i went through the same stuff. keep talking too me about this lay it down. take it easy. and have faith

 

[Grimaldus]

Doesn't mindless self indulgence have a song by the name of masterbate?

 

[Grimaldus]

Yes, just noting...

 

[TIWIH777]

anyway grimaldus man get serious dude. this is a big deal. purity is the name of the game. no one is perfect. i especially am not. but it's the way to go. purity is the good stuff. the sooner you can stop mastr and porn the better man. it takes time. but with god's help you can do it.

 

[Eric4Lyfe]

Yeah recently ive been having the sort of porn masturbation problems but like idk.... i say ill stop then i just get these urges... But im trying to just drop it. no building in it. im just going to stop thats my method and it will work.

 

[Lillibeth]

um, um, ummm.... >////< i ma-masturbate when im sad. i dont really have to have any "inticing" thoughts in my head, but i do to make myself feel happier.... i struggled with porn coz my dad used to (still does?) watch it and i got hooked... but i let go of it. i still struggle with masturbation.... T_T i didnt know it was wrong.