i also struggled with porn and would tell myself that its not a bad thing to do, but then id always feel guilty about it. theres a reason for feeling guilty, its lust for the eyes and a sinful desire of the heart, it will hold you down and keep trying to draw you back into its sin. all you need to do is believe in gods word, fight the problem and you will be delivered from it. i wont be the first to tell you nothin comes easy....just keep the faith.
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I guess the way to quit masturbating is too just..... quit. I guess it goes for all addictions like smoking or whatever. You have to want to quit, and then just stop. The cravings will come (oh boy do they) but we just have to pray every time we get cravings, that God would remove that temptation. It won't be easy but with God's help we can do it! Also I have to choose a weekend when nobody is around or I have fun things planned before I can quit completely because I get really angry when I don't get these "highs" and I feel guilty subjecting people to my anger
J
Whoa, here is one of the sins I've struggled with pretty intensely. Lust and doubt, those are the two that I've had problems with. But lust was the big one, be it women I know personally or the women on the internet.
The interesting thing about masturbation/porn is that it's the modern day equivalent of a harem. It really, really is. When I heard it phrased like that, I started feeling (even more) uncomfortable about what I was doing.
Anyway, one pastor who is NOT afraid to talk about this kind of stuff is Pastor Mark Driscoll. He actually got into some hot water because some people thought he was talking about sexual sin and porn too much (imagine that.) At any rate, I am thankful to God for putting Mark Driscoll of Mars Hill in my life (even if it's just in the form of his website and downloadable sermons!) Pastor Mark's no nonsense attitude on porn and lust really gave me the shake that I needed.
Lately, he's been doing a series called "Trial" and it's on first and second Peter. One of the sermons was about Marriage and Women (this one aimed more towards the ladies) and another was Marriage and Men. Marriage and Men was pretty angry, haha, he basically prefaced it by saying he wasn't gonna shirk from the truth and sugar coat it, and then yells for a good hour. Ha ha! Nah, but seriously, Marriage and Men was a good sermon. You can find it on iTunes or here -> http://www.8witnesses.com/
Another great thing that Pastor Mark Driscoll has put together is a little pamphlet/e-book called "Porn-Again Christian." Some of you might not like the name, lol I know my parents didn't really like it. Title aside, it's a great read (though admittedly marketed more so to men.) It's free to download from Driscoll's church, so don't worry about being a "pirate." Same goes for the sermon. You can find "Porn-Again Christian" here -> http://relit.org/porn_again_christian/
Pastor Mark, like I said, has been a huge aid that God has provided, and for that I'm happy. I hope you guys find some guidance there, too.
Another great lady (who I actually heard of through Mark Driscoll) is Annie Lobert. Annie used to work in prostitution, stripping, and porn, until she got saved. She then founded an organization called "Hookers For Jesus" which is an "international, faith-based organization that addresses the realities of human sex trafficking, sexual violence, and exploitation linked to pornography and the sex industry." (From the website.) Her testimony is great reading material, and it's on the Hookers for Jesus site http://www.hookersforjesus.net/home.cfm
I realize I didn't share much other than, "Hey, listen to these people!" But a) I'm not entirely comfortable sharing some of the specifics of my battle with lust and b) I'd be lying if I said these two people didn't play a huge role in helping me overcome it. I wouldn't share these links and faces with you guys unless they honestly inspired and helped me. I hope you guys can get some positive reinforcment from them. I pray that we all have the strength to repeat the phrase of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ when he was faced by temptation: "Get behind me, Satan!" (Luke 4:8, Mark 8:33)
Love you guys!
The interesting thing about masturbation/porn is that it's the modern day equivalent of a harem. It really, really is. When I heard it phrased like that, I started feeling (even more) uncomfortable about what I was doing.
Anyway, one pastor who is NOT afraid to talk about this kind of stuff is Pastor Mark Driscoll. He actually got into some hot water because some people thought he was talking about sexual sin and porn too much (imagine that.) At any rate, I am thankful to God for putting Mark Driscoll of Mars Hill in my life (even if it's just in the form of his website and downloadable sermons!) Pastor Mark's no nonsense attitude on porn and lust really gave me the shake that I needed.
Lately, he's been doing a series called "Trial" and it's on first and second Peter. One of the sermons was about Marriage and Women (this one aimed more towards the ladies) and another was Marriage and Men. Marriage and Men was pretty angry, haha, he basically prefaced it by saying he wasn't gonna shirk from the truth and sugar coat it, and then yells for a good hour. Ha ha! Nah, but seriously, Marriage and Men was a good sermon. You can find it on iTunes or here -> http://www.8witnesses.com/
Another great thing that Pastor Mark Driscoll has put together is a little pamphlet/e-book called "Porn-Again Christian." Some of you might not like the name, lol I know my parents didn't really like it. Title aside, it's a great read (though admittedly marketed more so to men.) It's free to download from Driscoll's church, so don't worry about being a "pirate." Same goes for the sermon. You can find "Porn-Again Christian" here -> http://relit.org/porn_again_christian/
Pastor Mark, like I said, has been a huge aid that God has provided, and for that I'm happy. I hope you guys find some guidance there, too.
Another great lady (who I actually heard of through Mark Driscoll) is Annie Lobert. Annie used to work in prostitution, stripping, and porn, until she got saved. She then founded an organization called "Hookers For Jesus" which is an "international, faith-based organization that addresses the realities of human sex trafficking, sexual violence, and exploitation linked to pornography and the sex industry." (From the website.) Her testimony is great reading material, and it's on the Hookers for Jesus site http://www.hookersforjesus.net/home.cfm
I realize I didn't share much other than, "Hey, listen to these people!" But a) I'm not entirely comfortable sharing some of the specifics of my battle with lust and b) I'd be lying if I said these two people didn't play a huge role in helping me overcome it. I wouldn't share these links and faces with you guys unless they honestly inspired and helped me. I hope you guys can get some positive reinforcment from them. I pray that we all have the strength to repeat the phrase of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ when he was faced by temptation: "Get behind me, Satan!" (Luke 4:8, Mark 8:33)
Love you guys!
T
dang man jordan that is the shizzle mcnizzle right there man. good good. i keep getting the "maybe it is okay" thought when it comes to mastrubation, but I'm determined to totally stopping. However, a really annoying battle is still porn: even just the cover of magazines in the grocery store is bad! i mean geez look at vogue and all those health and shape magainzes. grrrr....... oh well. check out job 31:1. that's a real kicker righ there.
SEXUAL PURITY FTW!!
SEXUAL PURITY FTW!!
G
Hey guys I am new on here. My name is Coley and I am 18. Over the past year and a half I have struggled alot with masturbation. I have tried to tell myself its okay surely this is right but it is not. I know for a fact it is not because when I am masturbating I feel the Lord with me and telling me it is wrong. I still struggle with masturbating. I just done it less than a week ago but I have tried to do it less and less through prayer and I have resisted myself from it for a week. i know i know that doesn't seem long but when you have done it everyday it seems a long time. To be honest I feel much better knowing that I am doing right in the Lords eye. Also, I really do think it changes people because I think your personality changes and to me it feels like it furthered me away from the right people. Also, I think God holds people back of finding or getting something they truly want for instance I haven't been a date with a girl in nearly over a year and a half. I think God has made sure I haven't. And I think he will continue to do so until I completely stop. But now that I look on it maybe it was good thing that he made sure I was dating because my ways were wrong and he thought I would mess up and sleep with a date you never know. So in a way I feel it is a blessing that God has finally opened my eyes. Thats one of the reason I am so thankful to have found this site is to see that there are Christians who struggle with this subject just as much as I do.
D
Thats right. Sexual bondage is becoming a HUGE pit of slavery that believers are falling into. Dont be decieved at any point, it can surely get a hold of you when you least expect and drag you back into sin. This forum is awesome and just what we need....believers coming together to help eachother out.
The things that have set me free.....after many many strugles....were to learn to truly abide in the Lord. He says abide in Him and He will abide in you. The closer I stay to Jesus in spirit and in the word the easier it has been to stand up against temptation.
Its true what the word says, your faith is like a shield that quenches what the devil throws at you and your sword to fight with is the word of God. Eph 6:17
It has also helped me to understand what James is saying in James 1:14....that we are tempted when we are enticed by our own evil desire. You see, it's not the temptation that really gets us, its the desire inside us to begin with that makes the temptation look so good. I kinda picture it like Satan dangeling the bait in front of me and its really my own desire for it that makes me go after it. I learned that even though theres no clear scripture on masterbation and you can come up with a million excuses why it is okay, its best for me to just not do it. Because that way you lessen the desire inside you to go after the bait.
Sexual sin is getting really bad guys, we really need to stand up together to fight it because we lose many brothers and sisters to it all the time. Message me if anyone wants to talk further for support.
The things that have set me free.....after many many strugles....were to learn to truly abide in the Lord. He says abide in Him and He will abide in you. The closer I stay to Jesus in spirit and in the word the easier it has been to stand up against temptation.
Its true what the word says, your faith is like a shield that quenches what the devil throws at you and your sword to fight with is the word of God. Eph 6:17
It has also helped me to understand what James is saying in James 1:14....that we are tempted when we are enticed by our own evil desire. You see, it's not the temptation that really gets us, its the desire inside us to begin with that makes the temptation look so good. I kinda picture it like Satan dangeling the bait in front of me and its really my own desire for it that makes me go after it. I learned that even though theres no clear scripture on masterbation and you can come up with a million excuses why it is okay, its best for me to just not do it. Because that way you lessen the desire inside you to go after the bait.
Sexual sin is getting really bad guys, we really need to stand up together to fight it because we lose many brothers and sisters to it all the time. Message me if anyone wants to talk further for support.
D
Heres a few links to some good messages about this stuff, listening to these pastors teach the word will help you in your struggles.
https://www.dsheriff.org/secure/recentmsg.aspx
(Raising Children In The Lions Den, "Sex 1" and "Sex 2"
http://www.8witnesses.com/
https://www.dsheriff.org/secure/recentmsg.aspx
(Raising Children In The Lions Den, "Sex 1" and "Sex 2"
http://www.8witnesses.com/
J
Socciety allowas young people and adults can see pornography every day. In my country (Peru) there are many newspaper which in the back page (ended page) has pictures of girls who are in bikini or small underwear and many people ( mens in the majority) thinks in sex when they have seen that.
Or.. give advices about how have a good sex...etc, etc.
In Peru many friends(university students) have been victims of abortion , If you visit Lima, in the place near to San marcos University you can see advisements which says: "If you have iregular menstruation,we can solve it. Call to XXXXX". But in reality, they are people who destroys lifes, killing an inoccen t baby.
I propose to have a special topic about "abortion in teenagers and university students" and Which one would be the solution since a christian perspective?
Or.. give advices about how have a good sex...etc, etc.
In Peru many friends(university students) have been victims of abortion , If you visit Lima, in the place near to San marcos University you can see advisements which says: "If you have iregular menstruation,we can solve it. Call to XXXXX". But in reality, they are people who destroys lifes, killing an inoccen t baby.
I propose to have a special topic about "abortion in teenagers and university students" and Which one would be the solution since a christian perspective?
L
as hard as it is for me to say i struggled with it for years. i felt guilty and i tried to stop but i have had relapses. i've had one in the last year in fact but i've gotten good at resisting the temptation b/c I know that nothing good comes from it. I focus on doing what God tells me to do and not doing what He says is wrong. recently though I found out that romance novels (which i used to read) lead to impure imagination which 2 corinthians 10 says to "cast down imagination" or impure thoughts. but I have piles of them in my room. Its so hard not to make excuses and pick one up. I only stopped reading them last saturday. so I keep praying for continued strength and guidance and I've been working on protecting my thought life. It took me years of going cold turkey for me to let the pornography go so I worry about how long It's going to take me to drop these books. I've stopped watching what I'm not supposed to watch, I've stopped listening to what i'm not supposed to listen to but reading is a whole other story and i thank Jesus for being with me because i know i can't do it alone.
M
Thank you all for being so real and honest! I have been struggling with masterbation for years. I feel exactly like Paul did when he talked about struggling with sin in Romans 7. I want to do what is right and what honors God, but I don't. I give into temptation so easily. I really want to give up masterbating and lusting, and I know that I can with Jesus' help. However, I honestly don't know how I'm gonna defeat this. I've tried and failed for a long time. I'd appreciate it if anyone would pray for me. Thank you guys for posting advice and links to podcasts, etc., it really has helped. I'm so glad that Jesus died for my sins and covers me with His grace through all of this. We truly do have an amazing Savior!
L
wow. this post...
ok... so ive been really convicted about this lately, i am addicted to masturbation. i used to be addicted to sex, but i got out of that. just knowing that i couldnt keep that one completely secret is what stopped me. and like usually i talk to my pastor about EVERYTHING and he is really good about helping me through things... well, this is obviously one subject i dont want to talk to anyone aboiut... ya know?
but i know it was god that led me to this, because i really need some sort of support to get me through this....
ok... so ive been really convicted about this lately, i am addicted to masturbation. i used to be addicted to sex, but i got out of that. just knowing that i couldnt keep that one completely secret is what stopped me. and like usually i talk to my pastor about EVERYTHING and he is really good about helping me through things... well, this is obviously one subject i dont want to talk to anyone aboiut... ya know?
but i know it was god that led me to this, because i really need some sort of support to get me through this....