Saving Yourself Till Marriage

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lonley123

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I as a female truly believe in saving myself till marriage, I used to wonder if it was because I was insecure about my body but as I have grown I realize it has always been my one huge promise I made to God when I was young. The problem is Im scared to get into relationships because I feel like no guy would ever wait. This scares me and makes me feel alone does anyone else feel this way?
 
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JimJimmers

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Lonley, don't think that no guy would ever wait. Just pray and ask God to let you have His will for your life, ask Him to direct you down the path that is perfect for you in every area.

And, there are guys out there who are waiting for their brides. ;)
 
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owned-by-GOD

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haha.. same here.. i believe that the best gift you can give him on the day of your marriage is being the "first" of everything.. kind of "whatever" for other girls but it's wonderful.. as long as it is right.. it doesn't make any problem and we should be proud of it.. it's rare nowadays and if a guy loves you.. he's willing to accept every part of you..
 
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go with group dates, can't get "sticky".
no pairing up until know that guy mighty well.
want to pair up? have hi go talk to your dad sitting in front of his shooting trophies. put the fear of god in him.
and if things are serious - and he does not respect a "no", mace him, point blank until he understands what no means.

be serious, stay safe, stay sane.
 
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Ugly

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Well, there are guys that will wait. And if they won't wait, then they are the wrong guy and you saved yourself from ending up with someone who will likely be bad for you in a marriage. So rather than be discouraged if you meet a man that won't wait, thank God for showing you this man's true character before you get involved with him. Its all in how you perceive the situation.
 
Searching4Truth

Searching4Truth

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lonley123 said:
I as a female truly believe in saving myself till marriage, I used to wonder if it was because I was insecure about my body but as I have grown I realize it has always been my one huge promise I made to God when I was young. The problem is Im scared to get into relationships because I feel like no guy would ever wait. This scares me and makes me feel alone does anyone else feel this way?
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I now think that it is not worth it. Either way, singles complain about being single. And those who've found someone to do the dirty deed with complain about how it was an act of sin and feel terrible and then complain about it. But this is only from my narrow view on things.

I honestly believed in waiting til your married. But, chances are, there are the few who don't actually get married. I strongly believe I'm a part of those few and I'm willing to accept that. :p
 
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libertygirl

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Are you saying you're afraid to get into a relationship because the guy might pressure you into having sex?

There are a lot of men out there that are waiting because they are living for God. Find a man like this, don't settle for anything less.
 
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kittycat7

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lonley123 said:
I as a female truly believe in saving myself till marriage, I used to wonder if it was because I was insecure about my body but as I have grown I realize it has always been my one huge promise I made to God when I was young. The problem is Im scared to get into relationships because I feel like no guy would ever wait. This scares me and makes me feel alone does anyone else feel this way?
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I also agree : But as a 18 year old, my theory has changed: I do want to save myself for marriage, when I get married: but, I dont want to have sex at all: even when im married: To me, I feel that sex was created for one purpose only: to make babies: and, Even IFF I did decide to have "sex" I wouldn't like it, cause I feel like, Im messing around with my body: even when Im married: and, I dont want that: There are other ways to love eachother other then sex: and, also I dont want to go on birth control, cause it messes up my hormomes ( in the future) and, To me: sex isn't that much of a big deal: married: But, everyone is different, and they have there own views: this is just mine:
 
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I think married couples who refuse to have sex is just as perverted as non-married couples who have sex. Perversion is any deviation from the way God created sex.
 
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my-journey--with-jesus

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I've already had sex and I MADE A BIG mistake it's been 3 years since I had sex and I want the next person to be my husband. I wish that I had saved myself for my future husband! THERE ARE GUYS THAT WAIT! THESE DAYS THEY ARE KIND OF HARD TO FIND! I'm currently 17 and I've token my virginity pledge not too long ago just to make it official!:D

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oracle2world

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You save yourself an enormous amount of grief by waiting until you are ready to start a family. Boys will always pressure girls for sex (that behaviour is hard-wired). But if he does not respect your wishes in these matters, time to move on. Sorry if this sounds a bit mercenary, but if you are having issues before marriage, marriage is not going to solve them.
 
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LordyBee

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If you want to wait then that great, and I am sure you will find someone who wants to wait and is happy that you did. However, don't feel that you must wait. Never give in to another persons wishes or demands for sex, but if you feel it is time, then you shouldn't feel obliged to wait either. What I am saying is, it is entirely your choice.
 
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libertygirl

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LordyBee said:
If you want to wait then that great, and I am sure you will find someone who wants to wait and is happy that you did. However, don't feel that you must wait. Never give in to another persons wishes or demands for sex, but if you feel it is time, then you shouldn't feel obliged to wait either. What I am saying is, it is entirely your choice.
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It is not okay to have premarital sex.
 
AAAPlus

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LordyBee said:
If you want to wait then that great, and I am sure you will find someone who wants to wait and is happy that you did. However, don't feel that you must wait. Never give in to another persons wishes or demands for sex, but if you feel it is time, then you shouldn't feel obliged to wait either. What I am saying is, it is entirely your choice.
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This is a good example of the worldly perspective of sex. Even from a worldly argument though, the benefits of waiting until marriage greatly outweigh the costs. Why don't most people wait then? Because we live in a culture where we don't believe in delayed gratification. This is a good example because it shows the cognitive dissonance of a worldly view of sex. Someone who has had sex has to justify it by convincing other people that it's okay.
 
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Seth

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Don't sweat it OP. They're out there. I'm one such bro.

And there might be more than you think. Don't get me wrong, they're a minority. But the thing that makes finding a virgin marriage prospect such a rarity is that most aren't really husband material. Due to their lack of maturity, looks, or personality. It certainly does narrow the odds of finding a suitable companion when there are so many who aren't applicable.

Alls I can say is good luck, don't give up, and the reward will be worth the quest for finding it. Expect heartbreak, but be content knowing that eventually God will kick the right fellow in your direction when you're ready.
 
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Seth

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^Btw, if most of that didn't make sense, it's cause I'm writing well after my bed time. I'm losing my capability to think and spell. Know my intentions are in the right place. XD
 
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MeganeChan

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I believe that sexual intercourse is a sacred and special activity that can happen to a married couple. No need to rush things, everything will be perfect in God's time. And whenever you feel alone, pray. If prayer isn't enough, talk to your friends. And don't lose hope about not finding a guy who can wait. I know this guy who waited for 14 years for a girl. If you want more details about their love story, read Genesis 29. :)
 
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LordyBee

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libertygirl - why do you think it isn't ok to have consensual sex between a loving couple who aren't married?
 
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LordyBee

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Also, more to the point, why do you think it is ok to tell other people what to do based on your ideas of right and wrong. All I was doing was saying that the choice should be that of the question asker.
 
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jimmydiggs

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LordyBee said:
libertygirl - why do you think it isn't ok to have consensual sex between a loving couple who aren't married?
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It is morally wrong. It is a grave sin, often in scripture referred to as "Fornication".
 
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