Advice for my relationship (or the lack thereof)

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GirlForGod828

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So there is this guy. He's handsome, funny, kind, smart, talented, chivalrous, and most importantly a Christian. But he is also two and a half years older than me (he just graduated).
At the beginning of the year I had a major crush on him, but at the time he had a girlfriend so I stayed quiet and stayed my distance. About a month after he broke up with her I told him I had a crush on him. He said and I quote "while [he] likes [me] as a person [he] doesn't return my feelings at the moment." So I decided to get over him and move on (spoiler alert: epic fail). But I got to know him better as a friend and it beame more than just a crush.
On a point of clarification I am the type of person that comes to love my close friends like family.
Anyway I'm pretty sure I fell in love with him. And now he's leaving. I have contact info and will probably see him around but not every day like before. And i miss him like crazy. And I know that he doesn't like me like that. I know I'm still young. I know that there are other guys out there. But I can't get over him. And i want him to be happy. I love him enogh to let him go. But I want to know if I should leave it as it is or tell him just how much he means to me now (i never really did) even though I know he doesn't feel the same. Or just leave it be. I just don't know about anything and I've been praying. Can you help?
 
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ALauren

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GirlForGod828 said:
So there is this guy. He's handsome, funny, kind, smart, talented, chivalrous, and most importantly a Christian. But he is also two and a half years older than me (he just graduated).
At the beginning of the year I had a major crush on him, but at the time he had a girlfriend so I stayed quiet and stayed my distance. About a month after he broke up with her I told him I had a crush on him. He said and I quote "while [he] likes [me] as a person [he] doesn't return my feelings at the moment." So I decided to get over him and move on (spoiler alert: epic fail). But I got to know him better as a friend and it beame more than just a crush.
On a point of clarification I am the type of person that comes to love my close friends like family.
Anyway I'm pretty sure I fell in love with him. And now he's leaving. I have contact info and will probably see him around but not every day like before. And i miss him like crazy. And I know that he doesn't like me like that. I know I'm still young. I know that there are other guys out there. But I can't get over him. And i want him to be happy. I love him enogh to let him go. But I want to know if I should leave it as it is or tell him just how much he means to me now (i never really did) even though I know he doesn't feel the same. Or just leave it be. I just don't know about anything and I've been praying. Can you help?
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Hey girl, I know how you feel. It's like everything you dreamt up in your head just crumbles to the ground and all your hopes and dreams fail. But don't worry. It will get better. God doesn't bring struggles into your life without something good coming out of it. Try to move on, and let God lead you. Who knows! Maybe in a few years you guys will meet again and things will be different! Keep your head held high and wigs him all the luck in the world, who knows what the future holds :)
 
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GirlForGod828

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ALauren said:
Hey girl, I know how you feel. It's like everything you dreamt up in your head just crumbles to the ground and all your hopes and dreams fail. But don't worry. It will get better. God doesn't bring struggles into your life without something good coming out of it. Try to move on, and let God lead you. Who knows! Maybe in a few years you guys will meet again and things will be different! Keep your head held high and wigs him all the luck in the world, who knows what the future holds :)
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Thanks. This means a lot to me.
 
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If he were interested he'd have acted. What good is telling him going to do other than build your hopes up in your mind, only to set yourself up to be let down? You told him once. Doesn't matter if you told him 'everything'. You told him enough. Move on and leave it alone. In time you'll get past it and wonder why you were so interested to begin with. (trust me, you will do just that)
 
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